La Vie de Clauds

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03/09/2026

I've seen a few local leaders speaking out about the school closures taking place tomorrow, in an attempt to avoid traffic pressure and anticipated dangerous behaviour as a result of the funerals.

All the posts I've seen so far have been whinging: along the lines of "why should the kids suffer?", and, "why should parents have their working days disrupted?".

Fair questions. But, frankly, I think they're totally missing the point.

Surely we can expect that any functioning society can cope with an afternoon of schools shutting down?

Let's be honest: the kids aren't gonna care about having a couple of hours off. It's the first week back after 6 weeks off; it's already gonna be feeling long enough for them. A slightly longer weekend isn't gonna harm them at this point in the term. They're still just getting back into the swing of things anyway. They could do with the time to decompress and take in the adjustment.

But, why are we required to give so much of our lives to our employers? A business should not be so fragile that it can't handle one early Friday afternoon finish for a handful of employees.

We've had notice. There's been time for alternate arrangements to be made. Why is there an expectation that your boss is allowed to own your soul? Help my autistic ass figure that one out.

Life should always come before work. Otherwise, what's the point?

Yes, kids shouldn't unnecessarily miss school. However, this has been a local tragedy. Everybody has heard what's happened, and unfortunately everyone has an opinion on it. There's gonna be disruption — whether we like it or not.

I think it's a sensible decision to shut the schools. The kids are safe, teachers and school staff aren't put at unnecessary risk at or leaving work, and the expected chaos can be controlled as needed without the risk of children getting mixed up in the middle.

If we can't handle one afternoon of disruption, that's a symptom of much bigger issues at play — in which case quit moaning that it's unfair and do something about it. In the meantime, I'm all in favour of our kids being kept safe 🤷‍♀️

Day twohundred&fortysix - a necessary day of low-pressure life-admin 🧘‍♀️I turned all my alarms off for this morning — w...
03/09/2026

Day twohundred&fortysix - a necessary day of low-pressure life-admin 🧘‍♀️

I turned all my alarms off for this morning — well, barring my ADHD meds alarm — with the view of having a lie in and a relatively chill day. So, I took my meds and went back to sleep, waking up at 9:30am to lots of cuddles from my bestest boy 🥰

Once up, I had a coffee in the garden, arranged a check up with my GP, updated my UC account, then took the dogs out for a good run (where we met a rather interesting local lady🤔😂)

The GP called me late morning to chat about my mental health and support plan. They've escalated it to their mental health team, so hopefully I can get some help sorted out soon.

I then got on with some of the housework I've low-key neglected recently — I couldn't tell you the last time I mopped!🙈 I'm feeling much better now that the legal pressure has slightly eased and I'm somewhat catching back up on life again.

This afternoon, I got some laundry done ready for the wedding this weekend, then headed up to the farm to see Belle.

Jonny's come back round tonight, so we're gonna finish up our last few bits for tomorrow and chill out!

Pic of: me and Alfie bear in bed this morning (full bed-head included). He pure melts my heart 🥹

There is no such thing as failure, only opportunity to grow into who you're meant to be  🩷
03/09/2026

There is no such thing as failure, only opportunity to grow into who you're meant to be 🩷

Day twohundred&fortyfive - aight, I'm calling it for the week. I'm done being miserable; wedding prep mode from tomorrow...
02/09/2026

Day twohundred&fortyfive - aight, I'm calling it for the week. I'm done being miserable; wedding prep mode from tomorrow 💪

August was an intense month in terms of the case. It has, however, also been a very clarity-shaping month. Today has been the culmination of several loose ends being somewhat tied together. Now, whether that's tied neatly in a bow or bodged together with duck tape and baler twine is anyone's guess, but the point still stands.

I got the dogs out first thing this morning, pottered and got my daily bits done, before getting on with responding to the first of several emails.

I had to say no to an invite out for an early lunch with mum this morning, but then, while I was on hold waiting to get through to the tribunal, she popped round with a little gift from her and my niece. How thoughtful 🩷

Once the biggest legal bit was over, Jonny came up to the farm with me to get Belle in for a couple of hours. He then headed back to his and I came home to finish up on the legal stuff for the week.

Now that I'm in a good place with court prep, I'm gonna get it out of my mind for the rest of the week and start planning out the next few days - starting with a lazy night binge watching netflix - ready to celebrate Jonny's gorgeous sister getting married at the weekend!🥳

Pic of: my lovely treat from mum this morning - I can't wait to tuck into this soon!😋

If you keep waiting for the perfect time, you'll never get anything done 🩷
02/09/2026

If you keep waiting for the perfect time, you'll never get anything done 🩷

01/09/2026

For anyone who thinks I'm overly wordy with my writing, there's 2 things you should know:

1️⃣ I got the processes-life-through-music strain of Autism.

2️⃣ My absolute favourite musician of all-time is Meatloaf.

Need I say any more?😂

Day twohundred&fortyfour - same sh*t, different day 🫪 I came on yesterday, so woke up pretty tired again this morning (d...
01/09/2026

Day twohundred&fortyfour - same sh*t, different day 🫪

I came on yesterday, so woke up pretty tired again this morning (despite a very good sleep - I was exhausted!) and feeling a bit under the weather. Within an hour or so or getting up, I was bent over the toilet throwing up 🤢

I spent a couple of hours finalising my personal statement, cross-referencing it with the bundle and making sure everything I need is explicitly referenced. That's now completely finished, which is a HUGE relief.

This afternoon, I headed up to see Belle, spending a bit of time just simply being with her. Horses are such regulating animals to be around; Belle's a massive part of my overall support plan, so it's been even harder this year not being able to be who she needs me to be for her🙁

Now it's time for a quiet night in with Jonny and the pups, letting me brain go wherever it needs to in order to start processing everything that has happened over the last month. August has been a quietly monumental month, and I'm bloody glad to see the back of it👋

Oh, today's also my wedding anniversary. 8 years. Thank you to those who have reached out with kind thoughts 🩷

Edit: I also got caught up with laundry today🥳

Pic of: two pics today!

1) I finally got round to clearing off the camping table (I'm sure the fam will be pleased to know!) 😂 I've not had any time or mental capacity recently to do this jigsaw - it's frankly very hard! - so I've put it away to make space. I wanted to take a pic to remind future me to stick with it; you were making good progress, it is possible!

2) Boppity never fails to cheer me up, the big goofy oaf she is 😂 it was lovely just sitting with her in the stable for a few minutes this afternoon, watching her eat and simply enjoying space together. Food for the soul 🩷

So Facebook has flagged this from my last post. What's your thoughts? I'm torn: part of me thinks it's an excellent idea...
01/09/2026

So Facebook has flagged this from my last post. What's your thoughts?

I'm torn: part of me thinks it's an excellent idea because it's protecting young people from inadvertent harm.

The other part of me is thinking of 13 year old me, who still had these thoughts but felt like I was the only person in the world who was so broken. If I knew then that it's a normal part of the human experience, maybe things would have turned out different🤷‍♀️

Let me know — do you agree or disagree with blanket bans?

01/09/2026

A friend of mine posted something very personal and very brave this morning. She's inspired me to share this post; to get something off my chest.

TW: su*cideal ideation and self-h*rm

I'm not doing okay. I've been having some very dark thoughts recently.

I've had a long history of SH and SI, going back since I was a child.

I'm not sharing this for sympathy or concern. This isn't my first rodeo. I know myself well enough to believe I'm not an active risk. However, I firmly believe that the best way to challenge stigma is through normalising the things we're "not allowed" to talk about.

Life is unbearably hard right now. The cumulative effect of the last couple of years has been intense. I'm well past the limit of what any human should feasibly endure. I've said for months: if I was anyone other than me, I genuinely couldn't see this ending any other way than in a box.

Thankfully, I'm stubborn. I'm resilliant. I know this won't last forever. I've got a maximum of 3 more months to get through. That said, it doesn't make the present situation any easier to deal with.

I've not SH now for around 9 years. At one point, I never thought I'd make it 24 hours. You know what I'm like for a streak (hello Duolingo👋) so I'm not overly concerned that I'm gonna do anything. I have far too much to live for to entertain a 'plan'. But, life is hard, I'm struggling, and I've reached a point in my recovery where that deserves acknowledgement.

If anyone else is struggling, know you're not alone. Bad times always pass. If anyone needs a safe space to talk, my inbox is always open.

Stay safe out there folks 🩷

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