Sonja Marga Integrative Counsellor

Sonja Marga Integrative Counsellor I am an Integrative Counsellor and a registered member of the BACP (MBACP 396398), working in Cheshire Countryside.

I am within easy access of Middlewich, Sandbach and Winsford.

Domestic violence is a horrible thing to live through. But even worse, I think, is that it doesn't end when you leave.N...
16/06/2026

Domestic violence is a horrible thing to live through. But even worse, I think, is that it doesn't end when you leave.
Not only do you live with the mental and physical scars but then there is the Courts system and the financial abuse. The system that was meant to protect you and your children now re-traumatises you and makes you live in fear for the safety of your children. It's horrible and no-one who has been brave enough to leave should have to face it.
I can't fix the system. But I can be someone to talk to. I can offer you a safe place where you can be heard, where you can come to terms with what has happened to you - without judgement and without blame.
You didn't deserve any of it, and neither did your children.
I'm Sonja, a Counsellor in Middlewich.

Text : 07773855896
Email : [email protected]
Website : www.sonjamargacounsellor.com


Back from my holiday. Back to the normal day to day work and worries. Sometimes it feels relentless. And what is it al...
07/06/2026

Back from my holiday. Back to the normal day to day work and worries. Sometimes it feels relentless. And what is it all for?
Shakespeare had many ways of describing this.... feeling. That we are merely players, moving through our parts. With the inevitable final act.
But then he also wrote, oh so beautifully about love.
And I think that is what saves us. Not the romantic kind but the fierce, sleeves rolled up, unglamourous love. The love that gives a mother the strength to lift a car off her child. The love that keeps you showing up even when you are down and exhausted. Or the kind that allows a young woman to stand up in front of world leaders and refuse to be silent because she loves our planet and the people on it.
If you are struggling on the treadmill right now and need a way to keep going - sometimes it helps to talk to someone.
Im Sonja, a Counsellor in Miidlewich.

Text : 07773855896
Email : [email protected]
Website : www.sonjamargacounsellor.com




I was on holiday last week and my favourite picture from that holiday is this one off poppies, because my mum loved popp...
05/06/2026

I was on holiday last week and my favourite picture from that holiday is this one off poppies, because my mum loved poppies. But poppies also make me think of "Flanders Fields", which led to thoughts of the soldiers who came home carrying wounds no-one could see. Which of cause led to thoughts of trauma. And then on to thoughts of the people who sit in my counselling room.
And then somehow that made me realise how lucky I am. Because I got here - to this moment. I have people I love who love me back.
It was kind of hard getting here - especially as a child. And its taken me years to make my peace with that.
But I do wonder if having lived through that trauma is what makes now so special.
I'm not saying trauma is a gift. It isn't. It's a wound that never fully heals. But surviving is something I am proud off.
If you are on the middle of your pain right now, I want you to know there is another side. You can get there. Helping others find their moments of peace is why I do this work.
I'm Sonja, a BACP registered Counsellor in Middlewich.

Text : 07773855896
Email : [email protected]
Website : www.sonjamargacounsellor.com

. .

Walked to collect my car from the garage today. Such beautiful countryside. The only thing that marred the walk was th...
03/06/2026

Walked to collect my car from the garage today. Such beautiful countryside. The only thing that marred the walk was the litter. Why do people throw litter from their cars. Its a mindless thing to do.
I hope you like the pictures though.

Website : www.sonjamargacounsellor.com

. .

This one is for the people who broke the cycle of abuse.Or tried to. Or are still trying.You grew up a home that never ...
19/05/2026

This one is for the people who broke the cycle of abuse.
Or tried to. Or are still trying.

You grew up a home that never felt safe. Where love was conditional or absent, or wrapped up in pain. And now you have made the decision that things will be different for your child.

You may not be a perfect parent. None of us are. There are days we get it totally wrong. There are days when we see the worst of our parents in ourselves. Days when you definitely don't feel good enough.

But you keep trying.

And if you look at your children - really look at them - you will see the evidence of everything you have tried so hard to do. You will see the kindness in them. You will be so proud of them. And they will know they are loved.

Some of that is down to you.

Breaking the Cycle that was never your fault to begin with, is a very courageous thing to do. It rarely gets noticed or acknowledged.

So I want to tell you that I am proud of what you have done. Even if you are still in the middle of it all and maybe struggling.

I'm Sonja, an Integrative Counsellor in Middlewich.

Text : 07773855896
Email: [email protected]
Website : www.sonjamargacounsellor.com



Every child arrives in the world wanting to be loved, wanting to belong and wanting to be the good guy. What happens ne...
18/05/2026

Every child arrives in the world wanting to be loved, wanting to belong and wanting to be the good guy. What happens next depends on the adults around them.

Good parenting is scarey. Not because it is hard (and it is hard) but because it matters so much. The parents who worry about getting it wrong are usually the ones trying the hardest to get it right.

But some children aren't so lucky. Some grow up in homes where they aren't safe. Where the people who should have protected them are the people that harm them instead. We call these children damaged but I really get upset with that description. To me those children are resourceful. They learnt how to survive, to adapt. They found ways to cope with the unbearable.

They aren't damaged. They are survivors. They have strength and courage.

But for the victims of abuse - the impact of the abuse doesn't end when the abuse stops. The impact can last a lifetime.

If you grew up surviving rather than thriving - you deserved so much better.

I'm Sonja, an Integrative Counsellor in Middlewich.

Text : 07773855896
Email : [email protected]
Website : www.sonjamargacounsellor.com

Are you critical of yourself. Do you tell yourself that you're not good enough, too difficult, too stupid, or wonder wh...
16/05/2026

Are you critical of yourself. Do you tell yourself that you're not good enough, too difficult, too stupid, or wonder why someone likes you or loves you? Would you ever talk to someone else like this? Especially someone you care about?

Why do we talk to ourselves like this?

Many of us have an inner voice that is breathtakingly cruel. And most of the time we never question the reality of what it says. We just accept it as the truth.

That voice didn't appear from nowhere. It was learned. Often in childhood, when an adult told us we were somehow not good enough.

That small child is still there inside us. Still believing what was taught. Still trying to be good enough.

If your inner voice has been unkind to you for a long time now, I'm here. Maybe together we can convince your inner child that they are good enough and that they deserve to be loved.

I'm Sonja, an Integrative Counsellor in Middlewich.

Text : 07773855895
Email : [email protected]
Website : www.sonjamargacounsellor.com

Today I thought I'd give you my honest thoughts on CBT - Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.CBT is based on the idea that our...
12/05/2026

Today I thought I'd give you my honest thoughts on CBT - Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

CBT is based on the idea that our thoughts, feelings and behaviours are all connected. Which means that if you change the thought then as a consequence you can change the feeling. Which is a very pragmatic way of looking at things. CBT usually involves some form of "homework" between sessions. For people who want to feel that they are working actively towards their recovery this can be very empowering and this, I think, is one of CBT's strengths.

For certain things - such as teaching coping strategies or compulsive behaviours - I believe CBT to be excellent.

But for trauma I struggle with it.
Trauma is deeply rooted in emotional reactions - fear, guilt, shame. These aren't something you can simply replace with logical thoughts. Logic doesn't come into the equation when you are triggered. You may know rationally that you are safe and still be overwhelmed by a trigger.

CBT focuses on the present - on changing the behavior now - without really investigating how your past caused these behaviours in the first place. Which to me is a bit like putting a sticking plaster on a broken bone. It might help temporarily. But it may not support the long term healing from deeply rooted trauma, that you deserve.

I want to be clear - I'm not dismissing CBT for the people it has genuinely helped. It wouldn't be one of the most widely used approaches if it wasn't making a real difference to real people. These are simply my own thoughts, shaped by my own training and experiences. Every person is different, and what works for one may not work for someone else.

If you want to talk - whether CBT has helped you, hasn't helped you, or you are just trying to figure it out - I'm Sonja, an Integrative Counsellor in Middlewich.

Text : 07773855896
Email : [email protected]
Website : www.sonjamargacounsellor.com

. .

I thought I'd talk about Person Centred Therapy today, mainly because to me, it sits at the heart of all good therapy. ...
08/05/2026

I thought I'd talk about Person Centred Therapy today, mainly because to me, it sits at the heart of all good therapy.

Person Centred Therapy was the brain child of Carl Rogers. He identified three core conditions that all therapists should offer their clients.

Unconditional positive regard - which basically means I accept all of you, without judgement. Because if I didn't how could I expect you to open up to me or trust me.

Empathy - I try to imagine walking in your shoes. I don't just want to hear the words. Because otherwise how can I ever truly understand what you have been through.

And finally Congruence - which just means being really honest. Because if I'm not authentic and honest, am I not just someone taking advantage of a vulnerable person.

Person Centred Therapy is none directive which means you do most of the work. Which is where I struggle a little because sometimes I think we all need a little help in steering whatever boat we are sitting in. Which is why an Integrative therapist uses other approaches alongside Person Centred Therapy.
Person Centred Therapy is the foundation. The other therapies I use are the bricks and mortar of the walls. They all work together but without that foundation.........

I'm Sonja, a BACP registered therapist in Middlewich.

Text : 07773855896
Email : [email protected]
Website : www.sonjamargacounsellor.com

Address

The Cottage Cattery, School Lane, Occlestone Green
Middlewich
CW100LY

Opening Hours

Monday 9am - 6pm
Tuesday 9am - 6pm
Wednesday 9am - 6pm
Thursday 9am - 6pm
Friday 9am - 6pm
Saturday 9am - 2pm

Website

Alerts

Be the first to know and let us send you an email when Sonja Marga Integrative Counsellor posts news and promotions. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Contact The Business

Send a message to Sonja Marga Integrative Counsellor:

Shortcuts

Share