Carmela Reed Medium

01/06/2026

'Your Presence Is the Greatest Gift'

This quote has really spoken to me lately because it's something I've been learning on a much deeper level.

Over the last few years, I've done a huge amount of inner work. I've sat with grief, loss, fear, uncertainty and some very uncomfortable truths about myself.

I've travelled, trained, attended retreats, worked with teachers, healers and mentors, but most importantly, I've learned to sit with myself.

Through that process, I've learned many things, but one lesson stands out above all others:

** I've watched how we really hurt ourselves **

Not just through our actions, but through our thoughts.

I've watched how we replay the past over and over again, reliving painful moments as though they're happening right now.

I've watched how we create fear about a future that hasn't even arrived.

I've watched how we judge ourselves, criticise ourselves, and tell ourselves stories that keep us stuck long after the original experience has passed.

What I've come to realise is that so much of our suffering comes from leaving the present moment.

We live in yesterday. We worry about tomorrow. And in doing so, we miss the only place where life is actually happening.

**The present**

The last retreat I attended was extremely powerful. It felt as though everything I had previously learned, experienced, healed, questioned and explored over the years suddenly came together as one complete picture.

There wasn't one huge revelation.

It was more like everything finally landed.

The teachings. The experiences. The challenges. The grief. The healing.

It all came together in a way that I could feel, not just understand intellectually.

Recently, something has shifted for me. I've found myself becoming more present than ever before. Listening more. Reacting less. Feeling less caught up in my own internal world and more connected to what is actually in front of me.

I've noticed it in my conversations with others.
I've noticed it in my relationships.
I've noticed it in the way I now hold space for people.

Because when we're truly present, we don't need to fix everything.

We can simply listen.

We can witness someone's pain without trying to take it away.

We can sit with ourselves without running from our emotions.

And from that place, something remarkable happens.

We become kinder to ourselves. We find more peace. We gain more clarity. We stop fighting life and start flowing with it.

I've realised that presence isn't passive at all. It's one of the most powerful states we can cultivate.

The greatest gift I've given myself recently wasn't another qualification, another retreat, or another piece of knowledge.

*It was learning to come home to myself*

And perhaps the greatest gift we can offer ourselves and others is not our advice, our achievements, or our words...

But our presence.

Much love
Carmela 💜com
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31/05/2026

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21/05/2026

I wanted to share this post as I’ve faced deep grief many times in my life, and especially more recently so. And the truth is… it never really gets easier. Each time, you think you’ll cope with it better because you’ve survived it before, but all it really does is remind you just how heart wrenchingly painful the process is.

Grief changes us. It has a way of touching every part of you. It softens us, breaks us open, and teaches us the true depth of love we carried for that person.

This beautiful Buddhist perspective reminds us that healing isn’t about “moving on” or forgetting — it’s about learning to carry love differently.

Some losses never fully leave us… but neither does the love. ❤️........./


IF YOU ARE DEALING WITH LOSS AND GRIEF, READ THIS:

Grief is one of the heaviest things a human heart can carry.

It changes ordinary days.
A song hurts differently.
A chair feels emptier.
Certain places suddenly become unbearable.
And sometimes, the silence left behind feels louder than words ever could.

People often tell grieving souls to “move on.”
But deep loss does not work that way.

You do not simply stop loving someone because they are no longer physically here.
Real love leaves fingerprints on the heart.

And grief…
is love learning how to exist without its usual place to go.

The Buddha once taught that suffering comes from attachment to what we wish could stay forever.
Not because love is wrong…
but because everything in life is temporary.

Flowers bloom and fall.
Seasons change.
People arrive and leave.
Nothing escapes impermanence.

Yet the Buddha never taught people to stop loving.
He taught them to love deeply while understanding that life cannot be controlled forever.

Right now, your pain may feel endless.
Some mornings you may wake up okay…
and other days, one memory can suddenly break you all over again.

That does not mean you are weak.
It means your love was real.

Please hear this clearly:

You are not supposed to “get over” grief completely.
You are meant to slowly grow around it.

Like a tree continuing to grow around a wound in its bark.

• HOW TO DEAL WITH LOSS AND GRIEF:

1. Allow yourself to feel everything honestly
Crying, sadness, anger, numbness, confusion—all of it is part of grief. Suppressing pain often makes it last longer.

2. Stop expecting yourself to heal quickly
Grief has no perfect timeline. Some wounds soften slowly and quietly over time.

3. Speak about the person you lost
Memories keep love alive. Saying their name, sharing stories, or remembering small moments can help the heart heal gently.

4. Take care of your body while your heart heals
Grief exhausts the nervous system. Sleep, food, water, sunlight, movement, and rest matter more than you realize.

5. Do not isolate yourself completely
Pain grows heavier when carried alone for too long. Let safe people sit beside you in your difficult moments.

6. Accept that healing does not mean forgetting
You honor people you lost not by remaining broken forever…
but by continuing to live with the love they gave you.

One day, the memories that make you cry today will begin making you smile softly instead.

And one day your heart will realize something beautiful:

The pain came from loving deeply.
And that kind of love is still a gift…
even after loss.

13/05/2026

Mediumship is not something you “master” overnight.
It isn’t a trick, a trend or something that can truly be developed through shortcuts or quick fixes ... absolutely not. It takes years and years of development spiritually and personally.

When people see a Medium work, they often only see the connection itself — the messages, the evidence, the guidance. What they don’t always see is the years of dedication, discipline, self-development, self-doubt, healing and life experiences that happens quietly behind the scenes.

I’ve been working in mediumship for 15 years now, and even after all this time, I still encounter things daily that teach me something new. That’s one of the reasons I have such deep respect for this work. Mediumship is forever changing, evolving and deepening. No two sittings are the same, no two spirit communicators are the same, and no two experiences unfold in exactly the same way.

I also believe every Medium works in their own unique and special way, guided by their soul, their life experiences, their sensitivity and their relationship with Spirit. No one connection is identical, and that’s the beauty of this work. We are all interpreting and working with energy through our own awareness, understanding and spiritual unfoldment.

Over the years, I’ve come to realise that true spiritual development is not only about learning to connect with Spirit. It’s also about learning responsibility, trust, compassion, emotional awareness, boundaries and understanding the human experience on a much deeper level. Spirit has a way of teaching you through the work, but also through life itself.

There have been moments where the connection has flowed beautifully and moments where I’ve questioned myself, pushed myself further and realised I still had more to learn. That’s real development. Not perfection… but progression.

There are no shortcuts to genuine mediumship development.
No instant mastery.
No finished product.

The best Mediums I know, are still learning, still developing and still approaching this work with humility, honesty and respect for Spirit and for the people they sit with.

This path is lifelong.
And honestly… I believe it’s meant to be. ❤️

13/05/2026

Intuition rarely shouts....
It whispers quietly beneath the noise, hoping that somehow you’ll hear it.

I know there were times in my own life where I ignored my intuition constantly. I doubted myself, questioned what I was feeling and tried to logic my way out of things my soul already knew deep down.

But every single time I ignored that inner voice, life eventually brought me back to the truth I was trying not to hear.

Intuition doesn’t always come with proof or explanation.
Sometimes it arrives as a feeling.... A pull.... A heaviness.... A sense of knowing you can’t quite explain.

Over the years, both personally and through my work, I’ve realised that intuition is one of the greatest gifts we have. It’s the soul communicating through energy, feeling and instinct.

Sometimes it guides you towards something beautiful.
Sometimes it protects you.
Sometimes it asks you to slow down, let go, walk away or choose differently.
Sometimes it quietly says: “this no longer feels right.” or “you already know the answer.”

The difficult part usually isn’t receiving intuition because most people do. The difficult part is trusting yourself enough to listen.

Your soul is always speaking to you. The question is… are you listening?

And the more you honour it, the louder and clearer it becomes.

Your soul already knows ❤️

08/05/2026

Do you realise how absolutely powerful you truly are?

We are inherently creative beings.
What we repeatedly think, believe and feel about ourselves shapes the energy we carry and the reality we begin to create around us.

Your mind is always creating…
through your thoughts, your emotions, your fears, your beliefs and your expectations.

So speak to yourself with kindness.
Think with intention.
Because what you feed internally eventually becomes your external world ❤️

05/05/2026

I just want to say a heartfelt thank you…
May is now fully booked, and I’m truly grateful for each and every one of you ❤️

24/04/2026

23/04/2026

Is This You?......

It’s not about becoming someone new… it’s about finally being honest with yourself.

You just get to a point where you’re tired of overgiving, overthinking, and putting yourself last. So you stop.

You realise saying “no” isn’t rejection — it’s self-respect.

You stop trying to fix everything.

You stop shrinking just to keep the peace.

You’re still kind… just not at your own expense anymore.

To some people, it looks like you’ve changed.

But really… you’ve just had enough — and woken up.

10/01/2026

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