30/08/2026
Around 90% of us grew up in homes with some level of dysfunction, exposed to long term stress, distraction, overwhelm, or emotional unavailability.
As a result, our nervous systems developed in a state of chronic threat. And we carry that into our adult lives as anxiety, chronic exhaustion, people pleasing, shame, disconnection, physical pain, and a persistent feeling that something is fundamentally wrong with us.
This is complex trauma. And it is rarely diagnosed correctly which means the root (trauma) is never addressed, and the symptoms persist.
You only needed a caregiver who was consistently distracted, stressed, or emotionally unavailable for your developing nervous system to register threat. That’s it, it doesn’t have to have been dramatic or obvious like we often think it does.
Lack of attunement in a parent is trauma for the child, full stop.
So instead of asking “What is wrong with me?”
Ask “what happened to me?”
That single shift in perspective is where real healing begins. And it involves a LOT of grief, a LOT rage and a LOT of sadness around what happened, and what we never received.
That grief is NOT a weakness. It is the most honest, courageous thing a human being can move through in their lifetime.
And you don’t have to move through it alone.❤️
