Nikila Davis Counselling

09/06/2026

‘ I m a g i n e d E x p e c t a t i o n s ‘ 🫨

I have been thinking a lot lately about expectations- both the expectations I hold for myself and the ones I believe other people have of me.

I’ve become aware that my emotions, mood, anxiety and energy levels are all affected by expectations and, because of this, I sometimes shrink away from (avoid!😬) certain people and situations where I sense there may be an expectation attached.

However… I have begun to question how many of these expectations are actually real?
Or are many of them, in fact, imagined?

Am I late to the party on this one?!?! 😆

I know for sure that some expectations are real. Some are communicated very clearly, and sometimes people can behave in a way that makes it obvious they are disappointed when things don’t go the way they’d hoped.

BUT…I am thinking there are many occasions when I assume there are expectations when there aren’t. When I have created some small story in my head on behalf of the other person, none of which is based on facts- just assumptions mixed with a little imagination!!!!🙈

Wild really.

Surely I am not the only one who does this?!

I’m not judging or beating myself up over it. It’s fascinating.

You don’t know what you don’t know!

Now I see it, I can change.

💛🌱

29/04/2026

A N X I E T Y . . .

Things that quietly increase anxiety ⤵️

😳 Overcommiting
😥 Doomscrolling
🥺 Skipping rest
☹️ Lack of boundaries
😠 Comparing ourselves to others
😨 Ignoring our own needs
😩 Avoiding discomfort
😢 Trying to control everything

Which one(s) do you catch yourself doing?

🖤

17/04/2026

S E S S I O N S . . .

What counselling can look like (in real life!)…

Some sessions flow easily 🌿
Some feel a bit stuck 🫥

Some are emotional 💭
Others super calm 🌊

Sometimes there’s a clear sense of direction 🧭
Other times it feels messy and muddled 🌀

Sometimes you talk about what you expected to 💬
Other times things surface that you never saw coming ✨

Sometimes there’s lots of laughter 😂
Sometimes there is not 🤍

Some sessions celebrate the wins 🎉
Others are about acknowledging trauma 🫶🏽

Sometimes it’s about childhood 🧸
Sometimes it’s about what happened on the way to therapy 🚗

There’s no “perfect” or “right” way to do it.

All of it is welcome 🖤

08/04/2026

Closing your eyes and lifting your face towards to sun is its own special kind of therapy!!!
🔆🔆🔆

31/03/2026

29/03/2026

DID YOU KNOW… 🥸✨

You don’t have to be in crisis to come to therapy 🚨❌
You don’t need a big, traumatic story 💥❌
You don’t have to be in an unhealthy or abusive relationship 💔❌
You don’t need to be struggling with addiction 🍷❌

All of you is welcome - not just the “serious” stuff. 🤍☝🏽

Therapy can also be a space and a place for…

• that quiet sense of discontent, disappointment or disconnection 🌫️
• feeling a bit “off” without knowing why 🤷🏽‍♀️
• inner restlessness, feeling unsettled🌀
• confusion or feeling stuck/flat 🧩
• wanting to grow, stretch, or challenge your own patterns 🌱✨
• learning new ways of being/showing up in the world 🌍

You don’t need to justify coming.

Your ‘stuff’ doesn’t need to be ‘big’ enough or ‘serious’ enough.

And…your reasons don’t need to make sense to anyone else.

🖤

26/03/2026

CuRiOuS about Counselling??? 🤔

A few wee nuggets of practical info for anyone who’s been wondering how I work…

I offer counselling sessions
👉🏽online
👉🏽face-to-face
👉🏽or a blend of both,
whatever feels most comfy and manageable for you.

You’ll find me in Poole town at The Dorset Practice, and also at The Courtyard Craft Centre in Lytchett Minster.

Contact me via text, call or email on-
👉🏽07510 165089
👉🏽[email protected]

(Or pop me a message on here!).

Sometimes just knowing some info makes taking that first step feel a tiny bit easier.

Nikila
💛

13/03/2026

This little guy came to therapy today…he was in touch with his feelings, but wasn’t really up for talking about them!!! 😉🐾🤎

28/01/2026

T h e I n n e r V o i c e . . . 🎤

That voice in your head,
the one commenting on everything…
have you noticed it?

What does yours sound like?
What’s the tone?
Does it remind you of someone else?

Is it warm, kind, patient, understanding, loving?
Or is it harsh, judgey, shouty, tell-offy… always disappointed?

Do you have more than one?
One cheering you on, at war with another one that shames you?

Does your inner voice speak truth… or spit lies?
And can you tell the difference?

For a long time, mine was mostly unkind.
It made me feel small, guilty, fearful, not enough, confused.
And it mostly ignored the evidence right in front of me.

I could see that I’d created or done something good (evidence!)
The voice would say: “Meh. Not that great.”

I could see someone doing something kind for me (evidence!)
The voice would say: “They probably didn’t really want to do that.”

I could feel completely frazzled and overwhelmed, my body screaming for rest (evidence!)
The voice would say: “Stop being lazy, other people keep going.”

That inner voice can be a sneaky lil thief, robbing us of goodness.

Through therapy and a whole load of intentional work on myself, I’ve trained my kinder voice to be louder.
The other one hasn’t vanished altogether, but it has been demoted!
It no longer controls the mic.

This stuff really matters, because when the inner voice sounds more like a best mate and less like an enemy, life feels so very different, better.

This is possible for you too!

💛

07/11/2025

LOVE IN THE LITTLE THINGS ♡

I am currently sat on the sofa eating marmite on toast, and drinking tea out of my favourite mug. My dog has joined me, snuggled up ready to snaffle up any crumbs that might fall.
I have just got back from the morning school run, which I did in the car wearing un-matching pjs (which just about pass as ‘lounge wear’), fluffy socks and pink crocs. I drove home in silence-no radio, no bluetooth calls to anyone.

None of this is fancy, but it is purposeful. I have paid attention.

In my quest to be a responsible grown up(!!), I am tuning in more and more to the small things I can do to take care of myself and calm my nervous system.
Mini moments of rest.
Little acts of love.

💛🖤 Marmite on toast. Comfort food.

☕️ Tea in my favourite mug that my sister bought me. Reminds me I am loved.

🧦 My clothes are loose and soft on my skin. My body feels cosy and hugged.

🐶 My dog gives good cuddles, we are enjoying each other’s affection.

🙉 I enjoy chatting on the phone to those I love. But this morning I noticed I just needed quiet.

I love to love others.
I love to be loved by others.

This morning, amongst the busyness of my life, in this small window of time, I have loved myself through food, warmth, comfort and silence.

I have shown myself love in these simple, unfancy, little things .

💛