Nikila Davis Counselling

04/09/2026

L o v e L a n g u a g e s . . .

Love languages ➡️ these bad boys describe how people like to give and receive love.

There are 5 main ones…

❤️ Acts of service
❤️ Receiving gifts
❤️ Physical touch
❤️ Words of affirmation
❤️ Quality time

I have noticed that humans often show love to other people in ways they would most like to recieve it.

Which is why I would argue that ‘roast dinner’ should be its own love language!!!!!
If it was, it would definitely be my top one 😋.

It is how I like to both give AND recieve love.

Both my parents, all my sisters, one of my kids and many of my nieces and nephews value greatly a roast. It brings massive comfort in the hard times and is a language we all share and understand.

My husband and youngest kiddo are 100% the opposite (much to my dismay! 😉). They sigh, and look sad at even the mention of a Yorkshire pudding!

This is actually quite important… it’s helpful to know how we naturally give love, but maybe more helpful to learn how those people we love receive it.

Because sometimes we can be lovingly serving up a roast dinner…
…and wondering why on earth they don’t seem to appreciate it!! 😂

Maybe their language is steak?!

❤️

(There are free online ‘love language’ tests you can do online if you fancy it 🙂🙃).

26/08/2026

Grateful 🔆

25/08/2026

Take a little peek inside my lovely room at The Courtyard in Lytchett Minster… 👀💛

01/07/2026

Small Moves = B I G C H A N G E 💪🏾

I’ve noticed 👀 that often, big changes happen in really small ways.

I think many of us humans want change to happen with a bang. We want the solution to our problem to arrive like a lightning bolt and suddenly everything feels different.

But in my experience, both personally and professionally, it rarely works that way.

It’s a collection of small choices. They might not make much of a wave in the moment, but over time they add up to something much bigger.

It could be…

• choosing half an hour’s rest instead of ticking another job off the never ending list. ✅

• choosing sleep before sending the emotional text. 💤

• leaving the house ten minutes earlier so getting caught in traffic doesn’t ruin your day. ⏰

• saying no to something because you know deep down you haven’t got the minerals for it. 🪫

• taking five minutes to stop and notice the good things in your life. 😍

• deciding it’s ok if the family eat the same meal two days on the trot. 🍲🍲

• pausing before speaking. 🤐

• going to bed a bit earlier. 🛌

• saying yes to fun. 🥳

• when someone asks, “How are you?”, choosing to say more than, “I’m fine.” 🗣️

• putting your phone down while someone is talking to you. 📱

• unfollowing someone on social media. ❎

• writing your thoughts and feelings down before having that difficult conversation. ✍️

• taking one night off from the dating apps. ⏸️

None of those things seem particularly game-changing on their own.
But they matter, and together…they can quietly change the direction you’re heading.

It’s one of the reasons I think therapy can be so valuable. As counsellors, we can sometimes be a mirror, helping people notice the changes they’ve made that they might not be aware of or might otherwise dismiss as “nothing really.”

And honestly… when a client casually talks about one of these little changes in a session, the urge to high-five them, chest bump them or give them a celebratory bear hug is STRONG!!!!!!

I refrain obvs!! 😝

But those are the moments that make me smile the most, because very often those tiny shifts tell me something much bigger is happening.

🖤

19/06/2026

🔅🔅🔅🔆🔆🔆🔅🔅🔅

I just got out of my car, felt the sun on my forehead, breathed in the Lytchett air and thought ‘today would be a good day to start therapy!!!!!’ ☺️

⇢ do you want to do business with your past?

⇢ do you crave to be truly listened to?

⇢ are you desperate for some changes, but have no clue where to start?

⇢ would you like to spill your truth and make sense of your ‘stuff’ in a safe space?

Therapy could be the best gift you ever give yourself! 💝 (It definitely was for me).

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09/06/2026

‘ I m a g i n e d E x p e c t a t i o n s ‘ 🫨

I have been thinking a lot lately about expectations- both the expectations I hold for myself and the ones I believe other people have of me.

I’ve become aware that my emotions, mood, anxiety and energy levels are all affected by expectations and, because of this, I sometimes shrink away from (avoid!😬) certain people and situations where I sense there may be an expectation attached.

However… I have begun to question how many of these expectations are actually real?
Or are many of them, in fact, imagined?

Am I late to the party on this one?!?! 😆

I know for sure that some expectations are real. Some are communicated very clearly, and sometimes people can behave in a way that makes it obvious they are disappointed when things don’t go the way they’d hoped.

BUT…I am thinking there are many occasions when I assume there are expectations when there aren’t. When I have created some small story in my head on behalf of the other person, none of which is based on facts- just assumptions mixed with a little imagination!!!!🙈

Wild really.

Surely I am not the only one who does this?!

I’m not judging or beating myself up over it. It’s fascinating.

You don’t know what you don’t know!

Now I see it, I can change.

💛🌱

29/04/2026

A N X I E T Y . . .

Things that quietly increase anxiety ⤵️

😳 Overcommiting
😥 Doomscrolling
🥺 Skipping rest
☹️ Lack of boundaries
😠 Comparing ourselves to others
😨 Ignoring our own needs
😩 Avoiding discomfort
😢 Trying to control everything

Which one(s) do you catch yourself doing?

🖤

17/04/2026

S E S S I O N S . . .

What counselling can look like (in real life!)…

Some sessions flow easily 🌿
Some feel a bit stuck 🫥

Some are emotional 💭
Others super calm 🌊

Sometimes there’s a clear sense of direction 🧭
Other times it feels messy and muddled 🌀

Sometimes you talk about what you expected to 💬
Other times things surface that you never saw coming ✨

Sometimes there’s lots of laughter 😂
Sometimes there is not 🤍

Some sessions celebrate the wins 🎉
Others are about acknowledging trauma 🫶🏽

Sometimes it’s about childhood 🧸
Sometimes it’s about what happened on the way to therapy 🚗

There’s no “perfect” or “right” way to do it.

All of it is welcome 🖤

08/04/2026

Closing your eyes and lifting your face towards to sun is its own special kind of therapy!!!
🔆🔆🔆

31/03/2026