Reflexions Therapy Services

28/09/2026

I received this lovely review today, and I wanted to share it. On the days when I’m doubting myself, I come back to messages like this and remind myself that there are families out there who really do appreciate the work I do.

I always recognise that the hard work is done by the families and individuals who come to see me. They’re the ones making the changes, often at a time when things feel really difficult. But I’m so proud to be part of their journey, and to know that my support has helped them get to where they are now.

And, of course, Oscar will be pleased to see he got a mention too. 🐶💙

27/09/2026

Welcome to ’Tism Club!
Bring your quirks. Make stuff. Make friends. Make it up as we go.

For adults of all ages who want to go out… but also really don’t want to go out. Who fancy some company but find the whole “meeting people” bit a little tricky. Or who just want somewhere welcoming to try a craft and have a laugh.

You might be neurodivergent, socially anxious, a parent of a neurodivergent child, a partner, a carer, or simply someone who likes the sound of us. You don’t need a diagnosis, an explanation or any crafting ability to belong here.

We’re creating a space away from home where you can be yourself without judgement, meet people at your own pace and have something to look forward to. Talk as much or as little as you like. Join in, dip in and out, or quietly work on something alongside other people. Trying something new is encouraged; being good at it is entirely optional.

We’ll buy the crafty bits, because everybody knows a hobby has two parts: collecting all the stuff and actually doing the hobby. We’ll take care of the first bit so you can have a go at the second. You’re welcome to bring your own project, too.

It’s free to come along. Tea, coffee, squash and a few basic snacks will be provided. Bring your own w**e, favourite soft drink or snacks if you fancy, and enjoy an evening in whatever way feels comfortable for you.

No compulsory icebreakers. No pressure to be interesting. You can just turn up and be you.

25/09/2026

13/09/2026

Why do you think you can control everything?

09/08/2026

Come along and meet Freud and Jung at Jellyfish club Monday 10th August - as usual booking is advised

06/08/2026

If worries about exam results are starting to spiral, try the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique.

Grounding techniques can help reduce feelings of anxiety by bringing your attention back to the present moment and connecting you with what's happening around you right now, rather than what might happen in the future.

The best thing about this technique? You can use it anywhere, anytime. Whether you're counting down to results day, opening your results envelope, or simply having a difficult day, it's a tool you can keep with you wherever you go. 💜

16/07/2026

💙 Looking for a supportive, low-pressure activity for your child during the summer holidays?

Jellyfish Club is a welcoming social group designed especially for neurodivergent and socially anxious children. It’s a place where children can build confidence, make friends, enjoy creative activities and simply be themselves, without the pressure of having to fit in or join every activity.

Sessions are relaxed, child-led and always focused on creating a safe, understanding environment where everyone feels welcome.

📍 Now based at Cozy Corner, Easton Shopping Centre
🗓 Mondays (2–4pm) & Fridays (2.30–4.30pm)
💷 Just £5 per child (children attend with a parent, carer or responsible adult)

If you know a family who might benefit, please feel free to share this post. 💙

You can find all the details and booking information on the Jellyfish Club page. We can’t wait to welcome everyone back this summer! 🪼

🪼✨ Guess who’s back… Jellyfish Club is back! ✨🪼

We honestly can’t thank you enough for all of the lovely feedback following our trial sessions. Reading your comments made us smile, and it became pretty obvious… we couldn’t leave it there! 💙

🎉 So Jellyfish Club is returning throughout the summer holidays! 🎉

Even better… we’ve found a new home! 🏡

To make the club more accessible (and a lot cooler during this hot weather ☀️🥵), we’ll now be meeting at:

📍 Cozy Corner, Easton Shopping Centre

🗓 Starting Monday 27th July

🪼 Mondays: 2.00pm – 4.00pm
🪼 Fridays: 2.30pm – 4.30pm

Jellyfish Club is a relaxed, friendly space for neurodivergent and socially anxious children to explore, create, play, build confidence and make friends, with absolutely no pressure to join in with everything. 💙

💷 £5 per child
👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Children must be accompanied by a parent, carer or responsible adult.
📩 Places are limited, so please book in advance.

💭 Now we’d love your help…

These are our planned days for the summer, but if we have volunteers who’d like to join our wonderful team, we’d love to run Jellyfish Club even more often!

At the moment, Cozy Corner is available:
🌞 Wednesday mornings
🌞 Saturday mornings
🌤️ Or weekday afternoons

👉 What days and times would work best for your family? Pop your thoughts in the comments, we’d really love to hear them. 😊

We can’t wait to welcome back familiar faces and meet some new ones too.

See you soon! 💙🪼

28/06/2026

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You weren't hit. That's the first thing you'll say if someone asks about your childhood. The absence of bruises became your proof that nothing happened. But something did happen. It just doesn't photograph.

What happened to you lives in the empty space where something was supposed to be. The attention that didn't arrive. The question that was never asked. The moment where a child looked up at the person responsible for teaching them they mattered and the person was there, physically, technically, but the mattering never got through. The signal was sent. It was not received. And the child, too young to understand what just didn't happen, absorbed the absence as information about themselves. "I must not be worth it." That conclusion was wrong. But it dried into the foundation before anyone could correct it.

That child is now an adult. And the adult carries things into every room they enter that the room can't see.

They apologize for having needs. "Sorry to bother you" comes out before every request regardless of how small. A glass of water. A piece of information. The basic act of asking for something. They preface it with an apology because the asking itself feels like an imposition. Somewhere in the early programming, having a need and expressing it produced a sigh. A delay. A silence that a child reads as "your needs are an inconvenience." That reading is now permanent firmware. The adult asks for things the way someone asks to borrow something they can't afford to replace. Carefully. With the exit strategy already planned in case the asking goes badly.

They feel like a burden in every relationship. The baseline assumption in every connection is that their presence is being tolerated rather than desired. That the invitation came from obligation. That the person across from them is calculating the cost of their company and could tip at any moment from "worth it" to "too much." So they manage. They take up less space. They leave before they're asked to leave. They preemptively withdraw before the withdrawal can be done to them.

They mistake intensity for intimacy. A calm, steady, emotionally available person feels boring. Their nervous system was calibrated in an environment where love and anxiety got introduced at the same time. The brain filed them in the same folder. So when someone shows up with calm love, the folder doesn't open. When someone shows up with chaos, with unpredictability that mirrors the emotional climate of the house they grew up in, the folder opens wide. "This feels like home." It does. That's the problem.

They can't accept a compliment without deflecting it. "You look great today." "Oh this? No, I just threw this on." The compliment enters the atmosphere and gets intercepted before it can land. The landing zone was never built. Nobody laid the foundation for receiving positive input. The operating system was built for criticism and has no port for praise. The compliment arrives and the system doesn't know where to put it so it bounces it back.

They over-explain everything to avoid being misunderstood. The simple answer comes with four paragraphs of context. The text message is twice as long as it needs to be. Being misunderstood in their early environment had consequences. Not understanding what the adult in the room needed and not being understood by the adult in the room were both punished the same way: withdrawal. So they overcompensate. They explain until the explanation is exhausting. But exhausting is safer than misunderstood. And misunderstood is where the danger lived.

They feel responsible for other people's emotions. When someone in the room is upset, their body activates. The upset is their job now. Nobody asked them to manage it. But the early environment trained them to treat other people's moods as emergencies they were responsible for preventing. Mom is upset? Your job. Dad is angry? Your fault. Sibling is crying? Fix it. The assignment was never formally given. It was enforced through the tension that fills a house when a child doesn't manage the emotional climate they were never qualified to manage.

They don't know what they want because nobody ever asked. This is the deepest one. The question "what do you want?" produces a blank. The muscle that generates want was never exercised. Nobody asked what they wanted for dinner. Nobody asked how they felt about the move. Their preferences were irrelevant. Their desires went unqueried. And the unquerying produced an adult who can tell you exactly what everyone else in the room wants and has absolutely no idea what they want themselves.

If you recognized yourself in four or more of these, you're not broken. You're carrying something that was placed in your arms before you were strong enough to hold it. You've been holding it so long you forgot it wasn't yours.

You're allowed to put it down. You're allowed to want things. You're allowed to take up space and have needs and receive compliments and choose calm love and stop apologizing for existing.

You always were. Nobody told you.

27/06/2026

We need your feedback please!

Thank you so much for taking part in Jellyfish Club. Your feedback is incredibly important and will help us decide whether to continue running sessions during the summer holidays and beyond.