27/09/2026
What rules do you live by?
The rules are the unseen ones we put on ourselves!
These rules tell you to keep everyone happy. Not to disappoint your family. Not to let your friends down. To stay in the job because it’s sensible. To be successful in the way you were taught that success should look.
The things you tell yourself you should do, or ought to want, without really remembering where they came from.
We all have them.
So here’s something you could try today: notice one of those rules.
It might sound like:
I should…
I ought to…
People expect me to…
Then ask yourself:
Where did that rule come from?
And is it actually mine?
You don’t have to change it. Just think about it for a moment, and see whether it fits the way you want to live your life.
Sometimes the first step towards having more choice is recognising that there is a choice at all.
Julie xx