19/06/2026
💛💛 Understanding your friendship circles 💛💛
Do you ever feel like it’s always you making the effort, reaching out to others or trying to make plans??
This can feel exhausting and lonely if you feel your effort is one sided. These feelings can be intensified if you are met with responses such as…
“ I can’t make it sorry”
“ I’m not free on that day”
“ I’ve just got too much in”
These responses can feel like like rejection, and trigger negative thought patterns 😖😖
“ No one likes me “
“ Why does no one want to spend time with me?”
“ I’m not good enough “
I understand the impact this can have, as I used to feel this way a lot in the past. I would bend over backwards to try and stay connected to people, I wanted friendships to stay the same, even though our lives were rapidly changing around us 😢
Mapping out social circles can help you understand how people can fit into your life as you move through adulthood. You can identify how much capacity you have for others, whilst also thinking about how much capacity they have for you. Friendships can be hard when you’re juggling careers, children and daily responsibilities.
Understanding my social circles made my life so much better. I focused on my core people and built my life around them. It took the pressure off trying to keep people close all the time, as I realised they are focusing on their core too 💙
As people move to outer layers, you are likely to see those people a lot less frequently, but that doesn’t mean your connection is less meaningful, it just means you recognise how you fit into each others lives, respectfully and compassionately.
This is something that can be explored in therapy 🙌🏻
💫 If I was a tech whizz, I would ask you to comment ‘CIRCLE’ and send you a template so you could explore your own friendships… BUT I’M NOT, I’m a therapist… so google ‘social circle template’ there’s loads that are free to download 😜
Please remember you are liked and you are loved, even when those around you are busy 💛
