Know Your Own Mind

25/08/2026

I understand starting therapy can feel overwhelming. In trauma-informed counselling I make space for trust first, letting you set the pace so you feel safe before we go deeper. There’s no rush-small steps are progress. If you’re in Rushden or Higham Ferrers and would like a calmer way to be heard, I’m here to listen. Learn more: https://wix.to/EXDHBhI 🕊️💬 . Please get in touch to book a first, gentle conversation.

25/08/2026

Online therapy can be a gentler, steadier route into support when leaving the house feels hard. 💬🏡🌿

I explain how remote sessions can help if you’re living with trauma, PTSD, anxiety or are neurodivergent: private, flexible, and tailored to your pace. Being at home often makes it easier to open up. Regular online sessions build consistency and offer practical tools - grounding, breathing, and trauma‑informed approaches rooted in person‑centred care.

In the UK, online sessions typically sit around £40-£80, and some therapists offer concessions or package options to help make care more accessible. If you’re local to Higham Ferrers, I’m here to help you find a gentler way in to steady support.

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Mental health is something we all need to care for, especially when life feels overwhelming. Sometimes, talking to someone who understands and isn't in your family or friends can make a big difference. That’s where online mental health therapy comes in. It offers a gentle, accessible way to explor...

25/08/2026

Prioritising Your Mental Health: A Gentle Reminder

We’ll book the hairdresser, the dentist or the optician without a second thought - so why do we put our mental health last? I get it. I’m a counsellor, and I’ve needed help myself.

This short 3-minute read asks a simple question: what are you willing to do for your mental health today? Not tomorrow - today.

At Know Your Own Mind I offer deeply person-centred, trauma-informed, CBT and solution-focused counselling, specialising in complex trauma, PTSD and neurodivergence. I work with people in Higham Ferrers and I also offer online and telephone sessions.

Tell me: what’s one small thing you’ll do for your emotional wellbeing today? 🧠❤️🌿

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When you need your hair sorted, you go to the hairdresser. When your teeth need checking, you book in with the dentist. When your eyes need checking, you go to the optician. If your body aches, you see a massage therapist. When you want help with your weight or eating habits, you go to a dietitian o...

21/07/2026

🌸 Menopause: The Chapter Nobody Prepared You For
Menopause isn’t just a medical stage — it’s a life transition that touches every part of who you are.
For many women, it arrives quietly at first… then suddenly everything feels different.

Your body changes.
Hot flushes, night sweats, exhaustion, aches, weight shifts, sleep that doesn’t feel like sleep.

Your mind changes.
Brain fog, forgetfulness, irritability, anxiety spikes, feeling “not yourself.”

Your emotions change.
Grief for your younger self.
Frustration with your body.
A sense of losing control.
Moments of “Who even am I now?”

Your identity changes.
This is the part people rarely talk about.
Menopause can shake your confidence, your relationships, your sense of purpose, and the way you see yourself as a woman.

It’s not weakness.
It’s not “just hormones.”
It’s your nervous system trying to adapt to a huge shift.

🌿 A personal note
I’m still going through menopause myself.
I didn’t choose the HRT route — partly because of what I saw my mum go through — so I’ve been supporting my body in other ways, including vitamins and gentle lifestyle changes.

Everyone’s journey is different.
There’s no “right” way to do menopause.
There’s only the way that feels safest and most manageable for you.

🌿 In counselling, we explore:
The emotional load of menopause

The impact on self‑esteem and identity

The pressure to keep functioning when your body feels different

The grief and confusion that often go unspoken

The nervous‑system overwhelm that can mimic anxiety or burnout

The need for rest, compassion, and space

Menopause isn’t something you have to “power through.”
It’s a chapter that deserves understanding, support, and gentleness.

💛 If you’re in this stage…
You’re not being dramatic.
You’re not “losing it.”
You’re not alone.

Your body is changing.
Your identity is shifting.
Your nervous system is working hard.

And you deserve a space where you can talk about all of it — openly, safely, and without judgment.

19/06/2026

Chronic Pain & the Weight of the Unseen
Chronic pain is one of those battles people carry quietly — and unless you’ve lived with it, it’s hard to truly understand.

Pain that can’t be seen is often dismissed, minimised, or misunderstood. People might say “but you look fine” or “you were okay yesterday,” not realising how much energy it takes just to get through the day. Chronic pain can affect mood, sleep, relationships, and the ability to do even the simplest tasks. And the hardest part is often the loneliness that comes with feeling unseen.

If this is your reality, I want you to know this:

You’re not imagining it.
You’re not being dramatic.
You’re not “too sensitive.”
Your pain is real — even if others can’t see it.

Living with chronic pain means constantly adjusting, pacing, and pushing through. It means grieving the things you used to do easily. It means carrying a weight that others may never fully understand.

In counselling, we create a space where you don’t have to explain or justify your pain. A space where you’re believed, supported, and treated with compassion. You deserve that.

If you’re navigating chronic pain and feeling unseen, you’re welcome to reach out. You don’t have to carry it alone.

Chronic pain support
Invisible illnesses
Pain and mental health

11/06/2026

I set up Bring 2gether cic,Trauma & PTSD Support Group,
because I wanted people living with trauma and PTSD to have somewhere they could come and feel less alone. When you’ve been through something life‑changing, it’s easy to feel isolated, misunderstood, or like no one around you truly “gets it”. This group was created to change that.

Our weekly sessions offer a safe, calm space where you can talk with others who are going through similar experiences. There’s no pressure, no judgement — just understanding, support, and connection.

Bring 2gether CIC is a community‑interest group, run from lived experience and compassion. I created it so no one has to face trauma on their own, and so people have a place where they can talk, breathe, and feel supported by others walking a similar path.

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09/06/2026

AI can offer quick information and a moment of support, but it can’t replace the depth of being truly seen and understood by another person. In therapy, it’s the human connection that helps you feel safe enough to open up, explore your story, and make sense of what’s happening inside you.
Face‑to‑face work allows for nuance — tone, pauses, body language, the gentle shifts that happen when someone is really with you. AI can be helpful, but it can’t sit with you in your pain, notice what you’re not saying, or walk alongside you as you heal.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

03/06/2026

"Am I losing my mind... or is it just that time of the month?"
​As a counsellor, I hear this exact question more often than you might think.
​When Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) hits during the luteal phase, it can feel like someone walked into your mind and flipped a chaotic emotional switch.
​The Reality of PMDD:
​⚡ The Sudden Switch: One day you are completely fine, and the next, an overwhelming wave of anger or anxiety takes over.
​🧠 The Brain Fog: Feeling completely disconnected from yourself, your focus, and your usual clarity.
​😔 The Guilt Cycle: Spending the two weeks after your period repairing relationships and feeling intense shame for a biological reaction you couldn't control.
​A gentle reminder from a therapy room today: You are not a bad person. You are experiencing a severe, biological sensitivity to hormonal shifts. Your pain is real, it is valid, and you do not have to carry it in isolation.
​If you are in the thick of the rollercoaster right now, give yourself permission to drop the expectations and just breathe. What is one small way you can show yourself kindness today? 🤍
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29/05/2026

Stress isn’t just “being busy” or “not coping well.” It’s your mind and body trying to protect you — sometimes a little too hard.

For many people, stress shows up long before they realise it’s happening. It can look like:

feeling overwhelmed by small things

snapping at people you care about

struggling to switch off

headaches, tension, or poor sleep

feeling constantly “on alert”

shutting down or avoiding things

Stress isn’t a personal failure. It’s a human response to too much pressure, too many demands, or carrying more than your nervous system can manage.

At Know Your Own Mind, I help people understand what their stress is trying to tell them — because it always has a message.
Sometimes it’s saying “I’m tired.”
Sometimes it’s “I don’t feel safe.”
Sometimes it’s “I need support, not more pressure.”

Counselling can help you:

make sense of your stress

understand your triggers

learn how your nervous system works

find calmer ways to cope

feel more grounded and in control again

If you’re feeling stretched thin, overwhelmed, or like you’re running on empty, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to keep pushing through it.

If this resonates, you’re welcome to reach out or ask any questions.
You deserve support, not more pressure.

14/05/2026

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Counselling for Trauma, ADHD, Neurological Conditions, Loss & More
Life doesn’t give us one problem at a time.
Most people carry layers — trauma, ADHD, chronic stress, neurological symptoms, grief, burnout, or just feeling overwhelmed by everything at once.

And when you’re juggling so much, it’s easy to feel like you’re supposed to “just get on with it.”
But you don’t have to.

At Know Your Own Mind in Higham Ferrers (NN10), I offer a calm, compassionate space where you can talk openly and feel understood — without judgement, pressure, or shame.

Whether you’re living with:
• trauma that still affects your day‑to‑day
• ADHD, ASD and emotional overwhelm
• neurological conditions like FND,
• grief or loss in any form
• or a mix of everything at once

You deserve support that sees the whole picture — not just one part of you.

Counselling can help you make sense of what you’re feeling, understand your nervous system, reduce overwhelm, and reconnect with yourself at your own pace.

If you’re struggling, you’re not alone.
Support is here when you’re ready, contact me for more information