Emma Staddon - The Mind Mermaid

25/11/2024

The language we use shapes our world. Choose words that build, uplift, and empower. What you speak, you create—so let your words reflect the life you want to live.

18/04/2024

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28/02/2024

A few days back I shared some ideas of EFT Tapping for goal setting. Here is another spin:

 Gratitude is an emotional state and an attitude toward life that is a source of human strength in enhancing one's personal and relational well-being
 Expressing gratitude increases positive perception of a relationship partner, thereby increasing comfort in expressing relationship concerns
 In high school students, gratitude uniquely predicts outcomes like: higher grade point average, life satisfaction, social integration and absorption, as well as lower envy and depression

A spin on the goal setting formula: write your goal in this way

I am so grateful that………………......................
(Remember: insert your goal as though it has already happened!)

Now tap on that! 🥰

10/12/2023

20/08/2023

Find the moment and then use Havening and/or Matrix Reimprinting to heal the memory, so it doesn’t affect you anymore.

18/08/2023

Back in 2014 a student and I decided to use a novel approach of exploring whether individuals, who prefer to express and receive love in certain ways, are particularly vulnerable to using food for self-gratification.

Gary Chapman (1992) proposed a love language typology, based on the metaphor of an emotional “love tank”; when a person feels emotionally close and loved by his/her significant other, his/her love tank is suggested to be full. Conversely, if an individual perceives his/her emotional needs are unsatisfied, his/her love tank will be empty. However, according to Chapman, people are not unanimous in what fills their love tank or, more specifically, what makes them feel emotionally satisfied. Hence, it is suggested people have preferred methods of emotional communication, which Chapman refers to as “love languages”.

Chapman identified 5 love languages: Words of affirmation (verbal compliments and statements of appreciation), quality time (focused attention and quality conversation), receiving gifts (tangible gifts and physical symbols of love), acts of service (doing favours for one another) and physical touch (from putting a hand on one’s shoulder to in*******se).

We did a survey of 226 healthy weight, overweight and obese adults: 197 were female (87.2%) and 29 were male (12.8%). They answered a battery of measures about attachment style, preferred love language, eating behavior and relationship satisfaction.

What did we find?

Preoccupied attachment (attachment style in which a person experiences anxiety in their relationships with significant others) was a significant predictor of emotional eating.

Perceived hunger fully mediated the relationship between attachment-related anxiety and emotional eating, indicating negative moods may be associated with emotional eating.

This finding is particularly important - it may suggest whether or not people experiencing attachment-related anxiety perceive themselves as 'hungry' when it might be more about the anxiety being experienced.

None of the 5 specific love languages were significant! 🥰

26/07/2023

15/06/2023

The only person who can change you……is you.
Focus on doing the inner work i.e. change your beliefs & memories and watch your life change for the better!

03/06/2023

I love a good graph...... and deciphering it! 😂

This is our EFT vs CBT food craving trial - and the participants' progress over 12 months after an 8-week program.

Blue is EFT
Black is CBT

While both groups achieved outcomes during the 8-week programs (except the CBT group didn't get any reduction of depressive symptoms at all), by 12-months the CBT group were almost as anxious as they started.

The differences here were all statically significant - EFT was superior by far 🎶