06/01/2017
Commenters' Rules/ Housekeeping, Dusting, Vacuuming, Ironing Rules for the FB page of Dr. E.
Dear Brave Souls:
Hello and welcome to the page of Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés Reyés. My intent on this page is to hold it as a place insofar as it is within my power, of welcoming peace, depth and focus.
I've put commenters' rules here to help guide, even though there have been very few instances of people acting outside the bounds of this endeavor. 99.99% of the souls here come in good faith and contribute little vignettes of their own stories and offer much in heart and spirit toward life/challenges of spirit, soul, and creative fire.
So now, to the housekeeping (I promise unlike the way most of us grew up with the trope "…Housework is never done, keep working…" that these instructions are finite in length... and then we can move onward and upward.
The only mission of this page is as a small window into the works of Dr.E. It is a place of peace and a place to hopefully share uplifting thought by my sights. Any discussion here is to be civil.
Vulgarity of any kind will not be tolerated. Ad hominem attacks on commenters or writer will not be tolerated. Sniping, manufacturing falsehoods, slanders, discounting others and snide remarks do not belong here. If you demand that others must enter into hostile, contrarian, or contentious debate with you because you say so, you'll have to take it elsewhere where people stand ready and willing to debate you by whatever rules they keep there.
Racist and sexist remarks will not be tolerated. Neither will attacks on others' religious beliefs or gender orientations. High-jacking commenting threads to screed and/or personal agendas, off topic politically, religion-wise, and otherwise, is not ok.
All posts of those nature will be removed immediately. If it continues, the person will be banned without notice. If the person banned attempts to come back in under a false name or different email address, they will be reported to facebook. If the person persists, there are now cyberstalking and harassment laws, local, state and federal, and they will be brought to bear if need be.
There is to be no advertising nor spam here. Do not post links from other pages/ sites. This is not the place to advertise one's endeavors. Many separate posts and pix all in a row will be pared down to one. Please take those to your own page.
Posts that are advertising or exploitative of members of this page here will be removed immediately. We don't solicit nor carry reviews or critiques of any authors' or artists' works including commenters' works. The page's mission is as stated: Dr. E strives to uplift.
If a commenter wants to high-five others, socialize, say happy birthday to others, start your own topic that is off topic here, please do it on your own page.
This page is not the place to troll to exploit others. I caution readers here on a regular basis to be cautious with those who have hidden agendas and who attempt to lure them in any way whatsoever, including by using my work or the loved works of others, as bait. Don’t be afraid: instead be circumspect, be wise.
This page is not therapy and is not a substitute for therapy. It is not a place for political opines or rants. There are several thousand people who read my letters I try to carefully write to them, and we appreciate all who continue to keep the comments civil and in keeping with the Spirit of this page.
I also give all here permission to not respond to comments they find personally irrelevant, obnoxious, insulting, offensive or off-topic ...and to just scroll onward instead, to not respond in kind. If it's a violation of civility, or other, it'll be taken care of by the Admins.
I hope this answers concerns I occasionally receive about some very few high jacking the topic of my post to something unrelated to the topic at hand, or those who decide to make a comment which has nothing to do with the mission of this page, or those who try to post noxious 'look at me' screed. We are aware that there are literally millions of sites online where a person can go to rant politically, and otherwise, to their heart's content. Just not here.
I am truly sorry but the time has come in my elder years, that I cannot endorse books, read manuscripts, write blurbs, do research for others, find a person an agent, analyze dreams here, recommend schools, make referrals, answer unsolicited emails and messages, give diagnoses, offer advice, endorse a project/event, write letters of recommendation.
Because I cannot respond in timely ways to unsolicited emails and cannot ethically respond to requests for therapeutic advice on this page or privately, I ever ask people who seek psychological and spiritual help to please seek aid and assistance where they live.
By my lights, each person deserves to have a trustworthy minister, wise friend, therapist, group therapist, well trained in the area they need assistance with, and preferably safely face to face.
There are also trustworthy online support groups for various matters of concern to individuals, that are focused around specific subjects and challenges, and I strongly recommend that people seeking support and education also, go to those who can support them consistently and with expert knowledge about their own area of concern.
What I can do here on this page is this: I can raise up in prayer every person of good faith who posts here, praying, as they wish, for their lives and those beyond them, to be made strong, insightful, and loving despite all else.
I can write letters on fb to all-- that I hope will uplift spirit and/or help people to see, to be validated, to learn and to keep going with as much love, as much peace, as much kindness, as much clear-mindedness and solidity, as much happiness, and as much creativity as possible.
I can, from time to time, answer a comment with a stand-alone letter, and in so doing, speak generally to an issue that I think will benefit many instead of one person only.
I can, within my power, here in my facebook chapel/ temple/ cave, see to it that the comments remain civil and supportive, clear and on topic. There seems far more than enough contentiousness in the world; easy aggression toward peaceful others; too much mannered bitter cynicism that tries to pass itself off as ‘civilized;’ way too much ‘know it all-ness, virtue signaling, trite sloganeering; far too much barging into sightlines of others’ peaceful lives without invitation, way too much negative projection onto innocents.
Thus, again, I can, within my power, here in my facebook chapel/ temple/ cave, see to it that the comments remain civil and supportive, clear and on topic so that those who gather here by choice, might have rest, kindness, focus, open heart, clarity, humor, and learning, as they wish.
I can also share my 'works in progress' with you and elucidate and answer questions about the roots of my published and forthcoming print, performance, film, and audio works. I can let you be first to see excerpts from my work that are yet to be published.
Especially, I can gently remind if need be, that ego is not the dear Soul nor the holy Child Spirit you carry, that ego ought serve, but not lead.
I can absolutely bless your way onward in the world, under the guidance of your antepasados y ancianos, your angelitos y santitos, and Greater, as you yourself find and know the ways you are called by Source without source.
I can and will pray for you always…
with all abiding love— Peace be with you…
¡La Diosa y El Dio te bendigan!
dr.e
Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés Reyés,
Psychoanalyst and Post Trauma Recovery Specialist,
1970 to present, most recently for Arabic speaking Palestinians and people of Beirut, as well as Gulu speakers, once child soldiers, now adults, in Uganda.
CODA
These commenters' rules for civility, are based on those at TheModerateVoice.com, a political news blog with high traffic numbers daily, read by movers and shakers in mainstream media. I'm managing editor there, and you will often see quotes from themoderatevoice show up on CNN, WaPo, ChiTrib, LAT and other major news outlets.
Unlike literally millions of blogs and websites on the internet that not only allow but solicit sarcasm, attacking, sniping and slashing at other commenters, and disrespect from writers toward commenters, TheModerateVoice also has strict rules for civility that are enforced.
I'm a journalist at TMV going on 15 years now. In addition to being a columnist, and now Managing Editor of 15 international journalists, I also moderate comments. And we strive to keep a civil living room definitively.
The gender ratio of those commenting at TMV is about 85% male, and 15% female. I trust you can read between the lines when I say, I've walked through the fire well, am known for treating people courteously if they present that in return, and that I know what it takes to keep a civil, interesting room, where people can learn, discuss, and tell their own stories, including especially, the ones who are shy who often say so up front.
The point of commenters' rules in such an overculture of need and greed, cheap vitriol and too easy anonymous commenting or commenting under false names, flouting the rules, is this: To allow the purpose of the site to be fulfilled. And to create an environs so that souls intent on demonstratively caring for the soul—their own and others’ --can feel welcome, instead of attacked.
To that peaceful end, we are here together.
With love again.
--dr.e
