23/06/2026
I wanted to introduce myself a little, so you can see the human behind the counsellor.
Im Cathryn someone who once thought being a professional was unreachable for me. Me and education didnt really mix well, I tried but I was lacking confidence, got very bullied, crap grades and after leaving ended up going through the motions of what I thought my life should look like.
In my 20s life got hard, I felt loss and grief that I didn’t understand and in my 30s I lost my hero to cancer, my beautiful dad.
I had various counselling sessions along the way until I met one specific counsellor. I admitted to her, “I wish I could do your job, but I can’t as I had, had my own demons.” She asked me, “Who says you can’t? What’s stopping you?” I listed all of the reasons, and the people that told me I couldn’t, also listing the fact that I struggled with academia. She played devils advocate and got my brain ticking over. I realised I had survived so many things that younger me would never had conceived I could.
Thanks to that counsellor, and accepting my loss and grief, recognising that if I could get through that why couldn’t I start to be more who I wanted to.
So that following January I started doing all the things younger me thought I couldn’t. I booked myself on a counselling course, then I booked my first plane flight! I was nearly 40 but the thought terrified me! I took the flight, I survived, I booked my first abroad holiday with my friends (my world opened up!), ticking off all the things that scared me, this was the start of unbecoming everything I thought or others made me think I was. I learned to find my authentic self.
I’m weird, quirky, a loving mum. I met a man who became my best friend, my calmer self, who matched my weird, I qualified as a counsellor, overcoming all my academic struggles working hard on my inner self. I took up drumming lessons in my 40s because why not! I have a mini zoo going on in my house, because again I can!) and then I booked to see Dogstar🤭 last weekend because I wanted to see the man I looked up to as an example of gentleness in a harsh world. Sadly didn’t get to see him in person. I’ve always said I’d just love a conversation with him. Plus the music 🥰 Glimmer, my favourite.
If I can do it, there’s a big chance for you too. Who would you be, what would you do if there were no restrictions?