14/05/2026
Being told I couldn’t have my own children was heartbreaking. I didn’t know how I was going to get through it or how I would find my way.
I’d been given this second chance at life after cancer and then I felt guilty for feeling sad. I wanted to make the most of this precious life but I was weighed down by grief.
During the fertility tests, the consultant asked me, “Did you not think to freeze your eggs?”
I’d started chemotherapy 3 hours after diagnosis and wouldn’t have survived much longer if I hadn’t started treatment then, so I didn’t have that option.
But even so, what an unhelpful thing to say.
The whole experience felt lonely and unsupported.
I wish I’d known back then that I was going to find my way. That I would find happiness and joy again.
I didn’t realise that amongst all the grief, this would also become the beginning of finding my purpose, writing my book, and starting my coaching business.
I don’t think there are enough conversations around this topic, so I wanted to contribute to one.
If this is part of your story too, whether by choice or not by choice, you’re so welcome here.
☕️ I’d love to build a community for childfree women where we can talk honestly about purpose, legacy, grief, joy and creating a meaningful life beyond the script.
WomenOver40
