Tina People Therapy

30/07/2026

Stay hopeful. Most of the things we worry about don’t actually happen

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30/07/2026

One of the great lessons of my life: the source of your pain does not need to be involved in your healing of it. I’m a big believer that in our healing process we need to be witnessed.

Witnessing is powerful, profound, important work. When it can be done by someone who contributed to the origins of your pain it can be an incredibly healing process. What a gift. But that is not always the scenario. And it doesn’t need to be. In fact, when we keep returning to the source who continues to defend, deny, rationalize, explain, and prioritize protecting themselves over hearing you, it can be hurtful and sometimes harmful.

That’s why going where you can be seen, heard, and witnessed is an important thing to prioritize and honor for yourself. This can be hard when we want so desperately for the other person to just acknowledge, own, and apologize. It’s easy to keep going back for more and to get stuck in the loop of negotiating with the self about ways you might be able to make that happen. But at some point there comes a moment where you have to accept that it is not there where your healing will happen. You release it needing to come from there. You stop trying to control that. You grieve. But in that, you make space to be seen, heard, and understood by someone who can, someone who will, someone honored to do so.

30/07/2026

Sometimes there are beautiful days that you can’t (or don’t want to) enjoy outdoors, and that’s okay! Here are some ways to combat “nice day guilt.” 😎

29/07/2026

29/07/2026

If you're struggling to sleep during a heatwave, you're not alone. While we can't always control the temperature, there are some practical steps that may help you stay cooler at night and improve your chances of getting more restorative sleep 💜

23/07/2026

14/07/2026

Being grounded doesn’t mean nothing affects you. It means you can feel disappointment, anger, grief, or fear without letting the emotion make every decision for you. Emotions are messengers, but if they escalate they can also hijack our brains (the tsunami of hormones taking over the amygdala, and disabling the prefrontal cortex).

But you can pause. You can listen to what the feeling is trying to show you. Do some deep breathing (inhale for 4 , exhale for 6 to engage the parasympathetic nervous system so things calm down). And then you can choose your response with greater clarity.

"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” - Viktor Frankl

This is not about denying our emotions or becoming numb. The idea is to become steady enough to stay connected to ourselves, even when life feels difficult.

What helps you return to yourself when your emotions feel overwhelming?

Drop a 💛 if you think have a strategy or are open to one

10/07/2026

Most people don’t struggle because they “have too many feelings.” They struggle because they don’t have the language for what they’re feeling.
That’s where the Feelings Wheel can help.
Instead of stopping at:
“I’m mad.”
“I’m stressed.”
“I’m fine.”
Try getting more specific.
Are you feeling hurt? Rejected? Discouraged? Overwhelmed? Insecure? Lonely?
Research shows that being able to identify emotions more clearly helps us regulate them more effectively and communicate with greater understanding and empathy in our relationships.
This week, try using the Feelings Wheel during a conversation with your partner. You might be surprised how much easier it becomes to explain what’s really going on underneath the surface.
Save this for later and send it to someone you want to feel more emotionally connected to 💙
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10/07/2026

When was the last time you and your partner touched with no agenda?