03/09/2026
“But they’re fine at school…”
Then they come home and everything falls apart.
Tears. Anger. Exhaustion. Withdrawal. Meltdowns over something seemingly tiny.
For some children, getting through the school day takes an enormous amount of effort.
They've coped with the noise, people, instructions, transitions, expectations and sensory demands - and home is finally the place where they feel safe enough to let it all out.
So those first few minutes after school might not be the best time for:
“How was your day?”
“What did you do?”
“Have you got homework?”
“Why are you so grumpy?”
Sometimes what they need first is less.
A drink and a snack.
Quiet.
Movement.
A familiar activity.
Or simply some time without demands.
Our free Back to School Better Parent & Home Support Guide has more practical ideas for making the transition between school and home a little easier.
https://totalhealthwestberks.co.uk/back-to-school-anxiety-support