Think Change Hypnotherapy

Think Change Hypnotherapy Helping people Think Change using hypnosis and therapy.

Why doesn’t s*x always feel like it did at the beginning?Because long-term relationships change.Early attraction often c...
11/09/2026

Why doesn’t s*x always feel like it did at the beginning?

Because long-term relationships change.

Early attraction often contains novelty.

Anticipation.

Uncertainty.

Discovery.

Over time familiarity increases.

Life arrives.

Work.

Children.

Stress.

Laundry.

Exhaustion.

That doesn’t mean desire is destined to disappear.

It means couples sometimes need to stop expecting desire to run entirely on autopilot.

Long-term erotic connection may require intention.

Novelty.

Conversation.

Space to miss one another.

Affection that isn’t always expected to lead somewhere.

And remembering that you’re lovers as well as parents, housemates and administrators of family life.

Good long-term s*x doesn’t necessarily happen by accident.

Sometimes we have to keep making room for it.

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Consent isn’t simply the absence of “no.”It’s the presence of genuine choice.Consent can be enthusiastic.Quiet.Verbal.Co...
11/09/2026

Consent isn’t simply the absence of “no.”

It’s the presence of genuine choice.

Consent can be enthusiastic.

Quiet.

Verbal.

Communicated through mutually understood behaviour.

And it can change.

Agreeing to one thing doesn’t mean agreeing to everything.

Starting doesn’t mean someone has to continue.

Being married doesn’t create permanent consent.

Having enjoyed something previously doesn’t mean wanting it today.

And nobody owes s*x because somebody paid for dinner, feels frustrated or has been waiting.

Good s*xual communication makes room for:

“Yes.”

“No.”

“Not tonight.”

“Slower.”

“Can we stop?”

“I’d like to try…”

“I don’t like that.”

Safety doesn’t spoil s*x.

For many people it creates the conditions in which they can actually relax enough to enjoy it.

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Connection Before S*xSometimes one partner says:“We’d feel closer if we had more s*x.”And the other says:“I’d want more ...
10/09/2026

Connection Before S*x

Sometimes one partner says:

“We’d feel closer if we had more s*x.”

And the other says:

“I’d want more s*x if we felt closer.”

Neither is necessarily wrong.

They may simply experience desire differently.

For one person s*x creates emotional connection.

For the other emotional connection creates s*xual desire.

Then each waits for the other to go first.

Understanding that cycle can completely change the conversation.

Instead of:

“You never want me.”

Or:

“You’re always pressuring me.”

We can begin asking:

“What helps you feel connected to me?”

Sometimes the route back to s*x begins nowhere near the bedroom.

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JealousyJealousy isn’t proof that monogamy is natural.And being jealous doesn’t automatically mean you’re insecure.Jealo...
10/09/2026

Jealousy

Jealousy isn’t proof that monogamy is natural.

And being jealous doesn’t automatically mean you’re insecure.

Jealousy is an emotion.

It can contain fear.

Attachment.

Comparison.

Possessiveness.

Past betrayal.

Fear of abandonment.

Or uncertainty about where we stand.

The important question isn’t:

“How do I never feel jealous?”

It’s:

“What happens when jealousy appears?”

Can you talk about it?

Can you distinguish between an emotion and a demand?

Can you ask for reassurance without trying to control another person?

Emotional maturity isn’t never experiencing difficult feelings.

It’s learning what to do with them when they arrive.

ASK THE THERAPIST“Can an open relationship actually be healthy?”Yes.And it can also be unhealthy.Just like monogamy.Cons...
09/09/2026

ASK THE THERAPIST

“Can an open relationship actually be healthy?”

Yes.

And it can also be unhealthy.

Just like monogamy.

Consensual non-monogamy is an umbrella term covering relationship structures where people knowingly agree that romantic or s*xual connections with others may occur.

Research does not support the assumption that consensually non-monogamous relationships are inherently less satisfying than monogamous ones.

What matters enormously is the consensual part.

Honesty.

Communication.

Agreed boundaries.

Autonomy.

S*xual health.

Jealousy being discussable.

And nobody being pressured into an arrangement they don’t genuinely want simply because they’re frightened of losing their partner.

An open relationship isn’t cheating with permission.

It’s a relationship structure requiring explicit agreements.

And opening a struggling relationship rarely removes the struggles already inside it.

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S*xuality Doesn’t Always Fit A Box“What if I’ve always identified as straight but I’m attracted to someone of the same s...
09/09/2026

S*xuality Doesn’t Always Fit A Box

“What if I’ve always identified as straight but I’m attracted to someone of the same s*x?”

It means you’ve noticed an attraction.

You don’t have to immediately hold a committee meeting inside your head to decide what it means.

For some people s*xual orientation feels clear and stable throughout life.

For others attraction or identity can be experienced with more fluidity.

A feeling doesn’t require an emergency label.

You are allowed to be curious about yourself.

You are allowed to take your time.

And you don’t owe anyone a definition before you’re ready to give one.

Sometimes therapy isn’t about finding the answer.

It’s about creating enough psychological safety to explore the question.

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S*xual OrientationS*X TALK TUESDAYS*xual orientation isn’t a psychological disorder.Homos*xuality was removed from the A...
08/09/2026

S*xual Orientation

S*X TALK TUESDAY

S*xual orientation isn’t a psychological disorder.

Homos*xuality was removed from the American Psychiatric Association’s diagnostic manual in 1973 and the World Health Organisation stopped classifying it as a disorder in 1990.

Yet shame around s*xuality hasn’t disappeared.

For some people therapy is the first place they’ve ever spoken openly about attraction, identity or relationships without editing themselves.

Sometimes the work isn’t changing anything about s*xuality.

It’s undoing years of shame surrounding it.

Nobody needs therapy because they’re gay, le***an or bis*xual.

They may need a safe therapeutic space because of what other people taught them to believe about being themselves.

Those are very different things.

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S*X MYTH MONDAY“If the s*x is good the relationship must be good.”Nope.Great s*xual chemistry can exist inside a relatio...
08/09/2026

S*X MYTH MONDAY

“If the s*x is good the relationship must be good.”

Nope.

Great s*xual chemistry can exist inside a relationship that is emotionally incompatible.

Equally a loving relationship can go through periods where s*x becomes difficult.

S*x can tell us something about a relationship.

But it can’t tell us everything.

Someone can make you feel intensely desired and still not make you feel emotionally safe.

Someone can be a wonderful life partner while the two of you need help rebuilding s*xual connection.

Don’t confuse intensity with compatibility.

And don’t automatically confuse a s*xual difficulty with a failed relationship.

Sometimes the question isn’t:

“Is the s*x good?”

It’s:

“Is the whole relationship good for me?”

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P**n Isn’t S*x EducationP**nography can depict s*x.That doesn’t make it s*x education.P**n is produced entertainment.Rea...
07/09/2026

P**n Isn’t S*x Education

P**nography can depict s*x.

That doesn’t make it s*x education.

P**n is produced entertainment.

Real s*x involves communication.

Consent.

Bodies that don’t always behave predictably.

Different preferences.

Laughter.

Awkward moments.

Changing your mind.

Stopping.

Talking.

And no obligation whatsoever to perform s*xuality in a particular way.

When po*******hy becomes someone’s primary s*xual teacher it can create unrealistic expectations about bodies, pleasure and what partners supposedly “should” enjoy.

Good s*x isn’t about recreating somebody else’s script.

It’s about discovering your own.

Together.

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