16/10/2026
Who knows, nurture or nature, we women often fall into the trap of pleasing & looking after everyone else first.
Making sure the needs & desires of others are met way before our own.
Our own needs become squeezed in around everyone else - or worse still they become abandoned entirely.
The thing is, if we are always putting everyone else first we may become so disconnected from ourselves that we actually lose all sense of our our needs and wants - let alone our desires.
This is especially true for mums and caregivers but I know I’ve done it even when it’s just been me and (one of my) husbands! I felt it was ‘my job’ to meet his needs & to look after his wellbeing first…and it most certainly wasn’t!
Looking back, I know I abandoned a lot of myself in that period of my life.
So today maybe have a little think.
Where ARE your own needs and wants and desires?
Are they slap bang in the centre of your life, where they belong?
Or are your own needs and desires somewhere on the periphery of everyone else’s?
Are you the centre of your own life?
It’s a really fundamentally important question.
It isn’t selfish to put yourself first in your own life. It’s actually self abandonment not to!
It might be something as simple as you cooking food today that you’d really like to eat (and not the food that everyone else in the family prefers!).
It might be telling the kids to take the bus today instead of you taxiing them.
It might be going for a walk with a friend or a swim & sauna for yourself.
It might be carving out 15 minutes to listen to a nice meditation.
It might be booking that evening pottery class you’ve always wanted to do…or it might even be booking in for a beautifully supportive circle here on the 31st Oct (3 spaces left!) 😉
Whatever you choose to do for yourself. Enjoy it. No guilt.
No need to justify it to anyone else.
This is your life.
It is a gift that won’t last forever.
Enjoy YOUR Friday 💕
Sending love
Ali ###