The Relaxed Willow

01/09/2026

Very powerful and the journey I walked alone because in order to see the light I had to go through my own darkness and that meant isolation and solitude because everyone and everything was just a distraction keeping me away from myself

An Empath with no boundaries is self destruction because we feel everything deeply and carry the emotional weight for everyone else

That is not compassion for others it is self abandonment

01/09/2026

Back from October 2024 when betrayal was enough to crack me wide open. I didn’t even know who I was anymore. You see the pattern kept repeating no matter how much love I gave to everyone else I kept getting my heart smashed to pieces by the people I thought would never hurt me.

Husband, family, friends

It was a soul contract I came to remember

People questioned my Sanity because it’s easy for others to point the fingers when you start to see the reality for what it is, not the illusion

I’m so greatful I came here to learn that lessons, because now I know exactly who I am,
I self taught myself and did the shadow work
Healed my inner child hood wounds
And came home to self whole & complete
I forgive myself and others
I take accountability for my own actions
But most of all that old version of me she has gone
She earned this place where she stands now
She has a lion heart
She comes with boundaries
She is no longer nice, she is kind
She can love but she can still choose to walk away
She no longer abandons her self
Oh and it comes at a cost, but the cost is much greater if you abandon yourself again
People will call you selfish, because they no longer have unlimited access to you
And the biggest lesson of all is she did not become bitter she still kept her heart open to love even when she was still bleeding.
She is me.
She stands in truth
She is her true authentic self and no longer dims her light to feed other’s egos because that is self betrayal

31/08/2026

🌿 Sunday Reflection 🌿

I’ve been thinking about spirituality again this week.

The betrayal cracked me wide open and made me question everything—not just what had happened, but who I was within it.

Looking back over my life, I began to notice patterns. I had been giving far too much of myself away: my time, energy, understanding, forgiveness, and often my own needs.

I don’t say that with blame. It was simply a pattern I had to become curious about.

Why did I feel I had to give so much? What was I looking for? What was I afraid would happen if I said no? What beliefs was I carrying about being a “good” person?

And then came another uncomfortable question:

Were some of those beliefs even mine?

Because I’ve realised something.

I haven’t become less nice, kind, or compassionate. I haven’t closed my heart.

I’ve just stopped giving myself away.

Being nice can sometimes mean keeping the peace, avoiding conflict, or doing whatever keeps everyone else happy. Being kind can mean being honest, saying no, and holding a boundary—even when someone else doesn’t like it.

Some people might call that selfish because they no longer have access to the old version of me: the one who would over-give, over-explain, over-understand, and put herself last.

But my heart is still open. I can still care deeply. I’ve simply learned that compassion doesn’t mean abandoning yourself, kindness doesn’t mean having no boundaries, and loving people doesn’t mean carrying them.

For me, this is part of what spirituality has become—not just what I believe, but how I behave, respond, and treat myself and others.

It’s also something I carry into my work at The Relaxed Willow: creating a calm, welcoming space where people can pause, reconnect with themselves, and receive care without having to give anything in return.

I’m still learning and questioning. I don’t have all the answers. I simply know what it feels like to walk through the uncomfortable parts and discover things about yourself you didn’t know were there.

Life moves in cycles, just like the seasons. Autumn reminds us that letting go isn’t always an ending. Sometimes, it’s how we make space for new growth.

So today I’m wondering:

Where might you be giving too much of yourself away?

Have you confused being nice with keeping everyone else happy?

Could being kind sometimes mean being honest about what you can and cannot give?

What might you be ready to release this autumn?

And if someone calls you selfish because your boundaries have changed, could it simply be because they no longer have access to the old version of you?

No right answers.

Just something to sit with.

🌿

The Relaxed Willow 🌿

27/08/2026

26/08/2026

🌿 LIE BACK, RELAX & LET YOURSELF BE CARED FOR 🌿

Sometimes your body just needs permission to stop.

Our lying-down Indian Head Massage gives you the opportunity to fully relax while we take care of you.

You can simply lie back, close your eyes and let yourself switch off for a while.

Indian Head Massage focuses on the head, scalp, neck, shoulders using soothing massage techniques to help ease everyday tension and promote a sense of relaxation and wellbeing.

✨ What can you expect?

🌿 A calming, nurturing treatment
🌿 You remain lying down throughout
🌿 Gentle focus on the head, neck and shoulders
🌿 Time away from the noise of everyday life
🌿 No pressure to talk — just space to be

And if you feel you’d like to take your treatment a little further, you can add Chakra Energy Reiki.

This combines the physical relaxation of Indian Head Massage with the energy work of Reiki, creating a more complete treatment experience for the mind, body and energy.

You don’t have to arrive feeling a certain way.

You don’t have to explain everything.

You can simply come as you are. 🤍

Because sometimes we don’t need fixing.

We just need somewhere we can pause, breathe, be still and feel cared for.

The Relaxed Willow is a place where you will feel seen, heard and validated — no matter how big or small.

🌿 Your time. Your space. You matter here. 🤍

25/08/2026

✨ my service’s and price list from the 1/09/2026 ✨

25/08/2026

✨🔮 The Relaxed willow collective energy insights 🔮

🌿🤍 Tarot card 4 of pentacles reversed🌿🤍

I feel the energy message of this card is saying that there maybe a fear or a scarcity mindset around abundance, it can mean we are so focused on the outcome in the 3d earthly realm that we are focused on a lack mentally and it can make you feel ungrounded and you could be blocking your own energy and keeping yourself stuck by trying to force outcomes.

Becoming aware is key to this because if you are trying to force something ask yourself why do I feel fear around this situation?

What am i trying to control the out come to?.

Why do I feel I’m not worthy or safe to be seen ?

Then get curious and ask yourself is this true to me is this my belief?.

Ground your energy, and go with the flow what is ment for you will not pass you by.

This could be the universe teaching you a lesson of patience and can you stay grounded and hold your energy and trust in the divine timing when you can not see things working in the background.

Sometimes we hold on so tightly that we can’t see the wood for the trees 🌲 and we just need a different perspective 🧘‍♀️🪷

Have a beautiful evening

Peace love and light

Donna 🧘‍♀️🪷✨🌿🤍🔮

25/08/2026

Reiki 🌿 | The Relaxed Willow

Sometimes you don’t need to fix anything.

You just need a little space to stop.

Reiki is a gentle treatment that offers time to slow down, switch off from the outside world and simply be.

During a Reiki session, you remain fully clothed while I work with gentle hands-on or hands-above-the-body techniques.

People may choose Reiki as a way of supporting relaxation, calm, emotional wellbeing and self-care.

You might notice a feeling of deep relaxation, stillness, warmth, peacefulness or simply enjoy having an hour where nothing is expected of you.

Every experience is different — and there is no right or wrong way to experience Reiki.

🌿 60-minute Reiki treatment
Including a 10-minute pre-treatment consultation
Original price: £55

This isn’t about fixing you.

It’s about giving yourself permission to pause.

🤍 You are allowed to rest.
🤍 You don’t have to earn it.
🤍 You are already enough.

The Relaxed Willow
A space to relax, recharge and reconnect with you.

Reiki is a complementary wellbeing practice and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

25/08/2026

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24/08/2026

🔮✨The Relaxed Willow Tarot card insight of the day for the collective Energy:

Eight of pentacles : The pentacles represent what we want to build and create in the earthly 3d realm

I feel that you are focusing on putting the hard work and dedication into your skills so that it becomes second nature to you and that you could do it with your eyes closed. ( mastering the skill)

This could be that you already have some strengths and skills so you are learning as you work and you have enough knowledge and skills to start.

Just remember You don’t have to be perfect to start, and this could lead to boredom and burnout if you keep putting yourself off or keeping yourself stagnant because you keep telling yourself you are not ready.

small actions to your crafts leads to consistent improvement.

like the craftsman on the card he is on his 8th pentacle with his eyes closed he has mastered it so he is ready

Don’t let your own fear or limited beliefs hold you back
And don’t wait to be perfect because nobody is perfect 😊

Have a beautiful day

Peace love and light

Donna 🧘‍♀️🪷🤍🌿✨🔮