13/09/2026
Over time, Iβve become very intentional about the spaces I enter and the things I allow into my personal space.
I stopped going into spaces where gossip is the preference of the day.
I have no interest in listening to people tear each other apart.
I gain nothing from listening to conversations where women are demeaned, degraded, or ridiculed by other women.
I have also stopped accepting certain people into my personal space because I have no desire to see those things appearing on my timeline.
I donβt want to open my personal page and be confronted with gossip, people exposing other people, belittling them, or discussing what somebody has and what somebody doesnβt have.
I have no interest in that.
I remember one particular experience that stayed with me.
I went into a salon to have my hair done. While I was there, some of the women were talking about another woman who had been attacked by a different woman over a man.
And what disturbed me wasnβt simply that they were talking about it.
It was how they were talking about it.
They were justifying the attack.
They were laughing.
They almost seemed happy about it.
And as I listened, I noticed something profound: the man had completely disappeared from the story.
No discussion about the fact that the man was involved with both women.
No discussion about what he may have been telling one woman versus what he may have been telling the other.
The woman became the one who supposedly deserved the violence.
And I remember sitting there thinking:
What am I listening to?
I felt like I had stepped outside of myself and was observing human behavior from another dimension, trying to understand how women could become so disconnected from their own humanity that they could watch another woman being attacked and actually find amusement in it.
It was the second time I had gone to that salon and heard women discussing somebody elseβs life in such a degrading way.
And from that point forward, I never went back.
And people donβt seem to understand that what you consume, what you discuss, what you repeat, and what you project matters.
Some of you donβt understand energy at all.
And I donβt expect everybody to understand it.
But those who understand, understand.
Your hair has always been regarded as an extension of the body, a sensory and symbolic connection to the world around you.
So when someone is sitting over your head, touching your hair while filling the environment with gossip, hatred, ridicule, jealousy, and conversations centered around destroying another person, I personally donβt want any part of that energy.
Because if you understand energy, you understand that what is being spoken and projected into your environment does not simply disappear.
The words carry emotion.
The emotion carries energy.
And that energy is being released into the very space where your hair grows, around your scalp and your follicles.
Your follicles are alive.
Your scalp is alive.
Your body is receptive to its environment.
And that is one of the reasons I am extremely selective about who I allow around me and who I allow access to my personal space.
Because I donβt believe everything is harmless simply because you canβt see it.
But then we wonder why certain behaviors become normalized.
Children are watching.
Children are listening.
Children learn how adults speak about people.
They learn how women speak about women.
They learn how conflict is handled.
They learn whether another personβs pain is something to empathize with or something to laugh about.
They learn whether women should protect one another or compete with one another.
And then we are shocked when children grow up attacking each other, fighting in schools, humiliating one another, bullying one another, and developing hatred toward people who look just like them.
Where do you think they learned it?
Cycles donβt appear out of nowhere.
They are taught.
They are observed.
They are repeated.
And sometimes the most dangerous thing we can do is normalize behavior simply because weβve seen it for generations.
So no, I donβt want to sit in spaces where gossip is entertainment.
I donβt want to sit in spaces where another womanβs suffering becomes a joke.
I donβt want to participate in conversations where women are constantly tearing down other women.
And I donβt want those people having access to my personal space.
Because there comes a point when you have to ask yourself:
What kind of human being am I becoming by constantly consuming this kind of energy?
We have to evolve beyond our most primitive responses.
Jealousy.
Possessiveness.
Competition.
Territorial behavior.
Violence.
These are not the highest expressions of human consciousness.
If your response to conflict is to attack another human being, you are not demonstrating power.
You are demonstrating a lack of emotional regulation, self-awareness, and human responsibility.
We have to do better.
