Freddie Deegan, Loss & Grief Counsellor

06/08/2023

Happy birthday my wonderful Pete.
Every day with you in my life is like a new beginning.
May your year ahead be filled with love, laughter, good health, and me! ❤️

03/06/2023

Had to share this 😂. Love it.

30/10/2017

27/10/2017

Essential to
Tips for grieving ...
Allow yourself time and space to grieve .... the reality is, that after suffering any sort of loss, often we immerse ourselves in the daily business of family, friends and work, to subconsciously keep busy. If we are busy, we don't have time to think, which means we don't have to face reality.
The truth is, that if you don't find a time and space to grieve, you may end up suffering from what is termed "complicated grief", grief that only hits you years later, in the meantime holding you back from finding a way forward.
Find a special place to remember the person or situation you have lost - somewhere special to you that you can switch off and allow yourself to wallow in your loss - IT'S OKAY TO DO THIS!
Find a song that means something special to your situation - play it, shutting your eyes and let it wash over you - IT'S OKAY TO DO THIS!
Cry, because you can - IT'S OKAY TO DO THIS!
Find whatever works for you, giving you the opportunity to grieve - IT'S MORE THAN OKAY TO DO THIS!

11/10/2017

Essential to
Tips For Grieving ...
Keep Life As Simple As Possible
If you have gone through any loss, try and keep your life as simple as possible, in other words, try not to make any major decisions.
Often in the first stages of loss and grief, "knee jerk" decisions are made to move home, move job, etc., and because we are totally immersed in grief, and possibly fear, those first decisions may not be the right path forward.
Take deep breaths, and allow yourself to grieve, without making life changing decisions.
Similarly, don't try and start a new book club, or take on additional responsibilities at work, as examples.
Just keep it simple for a while.

05/10/2017

Essential to
Tips for grieving ....
Be Gentle With Yourself ..... expect to go through many, and varied emotions if you have suffered any loss. It's okay to feel that anger, or that depression, or to still find joy in life and laugh. I have had clients who feel that after a significant loss, if they let their "guard" down and laugh, they are being disrespectful, and people will think they don't care. Not true, know that it's okay to have all emotions, good and bad and don't self judge.

03/10/2017

Have a look at my new Blog posting, Loss & Grief Counselling -
What is it, and what to expect.

It is often assumed that Loss & Grief healing is only associated with the death of a loved one. Whilst this is certainly one of the most difficult losses anyone can be faced with, there are many other types of loss, which are sometimes not acknowledged, discussed or dealt with. Loss can be manif...

03/10/2017

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15/07/2017

It is often assumed that Loss & Grief healing is only associated with the death of a loved one. Whilst this is certainly one of the most difficult losses anyone can be faced with, there are many other types of loss, which are sometimes not acknowledged, discussed or dealt with. Loss can be manifested in absolute grief, or a feeling that something is missing in an otherwise happy and successful life; a vague depression for no apparent reason, or perhaps unexplained fatigue. Be aware, that children can equally experience this sense of loss and anxiety.
Loss and resultant grief can be associated with, the passing of a loved one, anticipated loss to terminal illness, coping with a special needs child, the dissolution of a relationship, loss of a job or retirement, relocation, adult children leaving home, loss of a pet, to name a few.
An effective means of dealing with loss is to verbalize one's grief, and to have someone experienced help you through this difficult time.
Grief is unique, complex and very personal. However emotional healing and adjusting to new realities can be achieved with objective, confidential, reciprocal sharing with a trained counsellor.