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Psychotherapy & Counselling
As a therapist and counsellor, I work with a range of areas including : anxiety, stress, depression, trauma, neurodiversity, relationship and family conflict, self confidence, expat challenges, loneliness and confusion.

What if learning to trust ourselves more could help soothe our anxiety. It might not always have been easy for us to tru...
16/10/2026

What if learning to trust ourselves more could help soothe our anxiety.

It might not always have been easy for us to trust ourselves. Maybe our feelings were often dismissed, our choices questioned, or we learned that keeping others happy was more important than listening to ourselves, so it can be challenging to develop confidence in our own judgement.

We may find ourselves overthinking, seeking reassurance or struggling to recognise what we need.

But self-trust is something we can begin to build, gradually creating more space for our own needs, choices and voice. And we might find the more we do this, the more we can soothe our anxiety.

Therapy can help strengthen our self-trust. DM me ‘therapy’ for more information. 💚

Elaine

28/09/2026

Perhaps we don’t always have to see ourselves through someone else’s eyes 💜



Setting boundaries can feel especially difficult when we’re anxious.We might worry about disappointing someone, feel we ...
25/09/2026

Setting boundaries can feel especially difficult when we’re anxious.

We might worry about disappointing someone, feel we need to explain ourselves, or replay the conversation afterwards wondering if we’ve done something wrong.

Sometimes having a few simple phrases to draw on can make it a little easier to say what we need.

And if guilt or anxiety shows up afterwards, it doesn’t necessarily mean the boundary was wrong.

I’m curious which feels more challenging -setting the boundary or sitting with what comes afterwards?

21/09/2026

Our tolerance for certain things can change at any time.

What we might have tolerated in the past doesn’t have to be what we tolerate in the here and now.

We may find ourselves becoming more aware of what leaves us feeling anxious, depleted or uncomfortable. We might begin to recognise that certain relationships, expectations or ways of being treated no longer feel okay to us.

Sometimes, we can be honest with someone and say, “I know this may have been okay with me before, but it doesn’t feel okay for me now.”

That doesn’t always mean someone has done something wrong. It may mean our needs have changed, or that we’re beginning to understand them more clearly.

And sometimes, it means we’re finally acknowledging something that has been difficult for us for a long time.

There may be shame about what we accepted in the past. Guilt about setting a boundary now. Discomfort when someone doesn’t understand why things have changed.

We can make room for those feelings without taking them as a sign that we need to go back to how things were.

Other people may not understand our boundaries, particularly if they’ve become used to us doing things a certain way. We may have to sit with the discomfort of being misunderstood.

But we can begin to recognise that someone else’s discomfort doesn’t automatically mean we’ve done something wrong.

We have choices about what we continue to make room for in our lives. Not every situation is easy or safe to step away from, and sometimes change happens gradually, with support.

Perhaps part of building trust in ourselves is allowing our understanding to change — and listening when something that once felt manageable no longer feels right.

We might begin by asking ourselves:

What is it that I no longer want to tolerate in my life?

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With many blessings,

Elaine

If we grew up in a home where someone’s mood could change at the drop of a hat, we may have learned to pay very close at...
15/09/2026

If we grew up in a home where someone’s mood could change at the drop of a hat, we may have learned to pay very close attention to other people’s moods.

A change in tone. A different expression. A silence that feels unusual. This might have brought up a lot of fear in the home or we might have felt that we were in trouble in some way.

We might still find ourselves noticing these small shifts in the here and now, and wondering what they mean, whether we’ve done something wrong, or whether we need to make things okay.

There can be many reasons these patterns develop, but becoming curious about what we learned to pay attention to can help us understand why certain situations affect us so strongly now.

Perhaps we can begin to wonder:
Why do I often feel responsible for other people’s moods?

Therapy can be a really useful way to explore this 💚

Elaine | Integrative Psychotherapist
High-functioning anxiety, overthinking & self-doubt

07/09/2026

Sometimes we get so used to doing certain things that we don’t really think twice about them.

Overthinking everything. Going back over conversations in our heads. Questioning decisions we’ve already made. Finding it hard to switch off. Worrying about letting people down. Putting pressure on ourselves to get things right.

We might just think, “That’s just me. I’ve always been like that.”

And of course, these things don’t always mean anxiety is behind them. But understanding anxiety a little more can sometimes help us see familiar patterns in a different way.

Instead of only asking, “How do I stop doing this?”, we might start wondering:

“What’s going on for me when this happens?”

Sometimes that little bit of curiosity can be a useful place to start.

Elaine | Anxiety Psychotherapist

https://www.therapywithelaine.com/

What is high-functioning anxiety?Things can seem to be going well, we can be meeting expectations and appearing confiden...
03/09/2026

What is high-functioning anxiety?

Things can seem to be going well, we can be meeting expectations and appearing confident and capable, while experiencing something quite different internally.

An active mind. Constant second-guessing. Difficulty switching off. Worry about getting things wrong. Feeling responsible for others. The sense that we should be doing more, or doing it better.

Because we’re still functioning, it can sometimes be difficult to recognise just how much energy anxiety is taking from us.

In my work, I’m interested not only in ways of managing anxiety, but in understanding what may sit beneath some of these patterns and why they can be so challenging to change.

Sometimes becoming curious about our anxiety can be a helpful place to begin.

With many blessings,

Elaine | Anxiety Psychotherapist
High-functioning anxiety, overthinking & self-doubt
Online Therapy | UK & Ireland

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Anxiety can often be spoken about as something to get rid of or push away. But for many of us, it can be more layered th...
09/06/2026

Anxiety can often be spoken about as something to get rid of or push away. But for many of us, it can be more layered than that.

It can be connected to past experiences, present pressures, future worries, our relationships, and the way our nervous system has learned to stay alert.

It can also show up in different forms — not just worry, but fear, anger, overwhelm, overthinking, or self-doubt.

Rather than trying to immediately change it, there can be something powerful in simply getting curious about it.

And in that space, a little more compassion can begin to emerge. Easier said than done I know, but with practice we can strengthen our compassionate muscle, helping to soothe our anxiety and hear what it really needs us to know.

Save this post as a gentle reminder 💛

05/06/2026

The week is ending.

The to-do list may still be there.

The pressure to do more may never fully disappear.

But for a moment, consider this:

What would change if you trusted that you have done enough this week?

An invitation to sit with this question before rushing to answer it.

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