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Anca Anam Cara, Balbriggan (2026)

05/09/2026

What if forgiveness begins when you stop fighting with the fact that it happened?

Forgiveness doesn't mean that what happened was okay.

It means you stop using your present life to argue with your past.

It happened.

But the story you carry from it is still being lived now.

And this is where revision can become so powerful.

One practice is to write the old version of the experience, acknowledge it, and then consciously release that page. Afterwards, you write the experience again — not by denying reality, but by imagining the version in which you received what you needed: protection, love, safety, understanding, being chosen, being heard.

You return to that revised story daily, allowing a new inner experience to become familiar.

The second practice is different.

You go back to the version of you who was there.

You don't judge her with the wisdom you have today.

You meet her.

You pray for her.

You tell her:

I see you.
I know what you went through.
You are not alone anymore.
I am here.
I love you.
I forgive you.
You are safe with me now.

Because sometimes what needs healing isn't only the memory.

It's the identity you created inside that memory.

Revision changes the story.
Prayer changes your relationship with the self who lived the story.

You are not trying to erase the past.

You are choosing not to let an old version of it determine who you are allowed to become.

If you want to explore more practices around revision, self-concept, healing and identity transformation, I invite you into my WhatsApp community.

There are two spaces — Romanian & English.

Come join us. 🤍

01/09/2026

At first, we think manifestation is simple: write down what you want, make a few wishes, send them to the Universe… and wait for them to arrive.

Then we learn that we don’t manifest simply from what we want, but from who we are.

But for me, there was an even deeper layer that completely changed the game:

We don’t even manifest from who we truly are. We manifest from who we BELIEVE we are.

Because look around you.

There are so many women who are beautiful, intelligent, loving, magical, talented, incredible mothers, brilliant professionals… and yet they keep finding themselves in the same situations, repeating the same patterns, struggling to receive the things they consciously say they want.

Why?

Because underneath the conscious desire lives the self-concept.

And your self-concept wasn’t created yesterday.

It was shaped over years by the experiences you went through, by what people told you, by what you experienced in relationships, by rejection, betrayal, comparison, criticism, abandonment, disappointment…

And somewhere along the way, you may have learned:

I’m not good enough.
I’m not worthy.
I have to prove myself.
I’m too much.
I’m not enough.

And even when your conscious mind says, “I want love. I want success. I want abundance. I want a healthy relationship,” your deeper self-concept may still be saying something completely different.

And this is the part of manifestation nobody talks about enough.

You can’t simply affirm your way out of an identity you’ve been carrying for years.

You have to understand it. Recalibrate it. And change the identity you are unconsciously living from.

Because the question isn’t only:

“What do I want?”

It’s:

“Who do I believe I am?”

That changed everything for me.

30/08/2026

What if being “delusional” is actually the first stage of creation?

Think about it.

Almost everything that exists today was, at some point, 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐚 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐧𝐨 𝐩𝐡𝐲𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐭.

A building existed first in someone's imagination.

A business existed first as a thought.

An invention existed first as something nobody else could see.

A Ferrari existed before there was a Ferrari sitting in someone's driveway.

And this is where I think we've misunderstood the word delusional.

We often call someone delusional when they speak about something as if it already exists, even though we cannot see it yet.

But what if that is exactly what faith asks us to do?

There is a beautiful story around the early days of Ferrari that captures this perfectly. Luigi Chinetti believed so strongly in what Enzo Ferrari was building that he entered a Ferrari in the first post-war 24 Hours of Le Mans, even though Enzo himself didn't believe the car was ready for it.

The car won.

The world didn't suddenly create the possibility that day.
Someone simply acted on a possibility before everyone else could see it.

And isn't this remarkably close to what faith asks of us?

The Bible repeatedly speaks about approaching things from a place of certainty rather than constantly waiting for visible proof.

Faith isn't: I'll believe it when I see it.
Faith is: I can see it within me before I can see it around me.

And perhaps this is why the people who create extraordinary things often look a little “crazy” in the beginning.

Because 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐬𝐧'𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐯𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐲𝐞𝐭.

Now, I'm not talking about denying facts, refusing evidence or pretending something exists when it doesn't.

I'm talking about holding a possibility so deeply that you begin 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐰𝐡𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥.

What's even more potent than affirming that you believe is KNOWING.

✨ I don't know exactly how it will happen, but I KNOW this is possible for me.✨

And when you truly know something, you stop negotiating with every piece of evidence that tells you otherwise.

A good starting point is : 𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐈 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐞𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐈 𝐚𝐥𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐲 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞?

This is the part people sometimes call delusional.

But perhaps every great creation needs a moment where you are willing to be ~delusional~ enough to hold the vision before the world gives you permission to believe in it.

Because the world usually shows you the evidence after someone was willing to believe without it.

And for me, this is the deepest part of faith.

I don't only believe that God exists. I know.

Knowing is certainty.

And when you know, you don't need the physical world to constantly reassure you.

You move.
You act.
You become.
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞.

And eventually, what existed first as an invisible possibility begins to have a visible form. Because manifestation is not about create something new. Everything is already created for us, we just have to align with the version of reality we want.

29/08/2026

What if the reason becoming the woman you want to be feels so hard… is because you are trying to build her on top of an identity that has never been truly transformed?

You can go to therapy.
Take courses.
Read the books.
Understand your patterns.
Learn about your wounds.

And still find yourself repeating the same life.

Because understanding something is not the same as embodying something new.

Sometimes we put a beautiful bandage over a wound without ever cleaning what is underneath.

And then we try to build a new identity on top of it.

The woman who chooses herself.
Who receives.
Who creates.
Who takes space.
Who trusts herself.

But the old identity is still quietly deciding what feels safe, possible and familiar.

So you force yourself.
You push.
You create routines.
You try to discipline yourself into becoming her.

But what if you didn't have to?

You don't force yourself to brush your teeth.
You don't need motivation to remember who you are.

You simply do it because it has become natural.

What if your next level of transformation could feel like that?

Not another performance.
Not another version of you trying harder.

But a woman whose new way of thinking, choosing, moving, receiving and living has become so deeply embodied that it no longer feels like something she has to become.

It simply feels like her.
Because a new identity needs more than a new story.

It needs a new foundation.

27/08/2026

Why are you so different lately?

You’ve changed.

You never used to be like this.

Why can’t you just be happy with what you have?

Are you sure you’re making the right decision?

Maybe she is different.
Maybe she’s finally listening to herself.
Maybe she’s tired of always putting everyone else first.
Maybe she doesn’t want to keep saying yes when she means no.
Maybe she’s tired of being the strong one all the time.
Maybe she wants more from life.

More joy. More freedom. More time for herself. More connection with her body. More courage to do the things she once dreamed about.

And yes… this can feel uncomfortable.

Not just for the people around her.
For her too❗

Because when you’ve spent years being one version of yourself, it can be scary to become someone new.

You might doubt yourself.
You might feel guilty.
You might wonder:
Who am I now?

But you don’t have to go back to the old you just because the new you feels unfamiliar.
You are allowed to change.
You are allowed to want something different.
You are allowed to become a woman you actually recognize when you look in the mirror.

And maybe the part of you that you thought was lost…was never lost.

She was simply waiting for you to come back to her.

✨ From Pain to Superpowers.

26/08/2026

𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐀𝐒𝐊𝐄𝐃 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐅𝐑𝐄𝐄𝐃𝐎𝐌. 𝐒𝐎 𝐖𝐇𝐘 𝐃𝐎𝐄𝐒 𝐈𝐓 𝐅𝐄𝐄𝐋 𝐒𝐎 𝐇𝐀𝐑𝐃 𝐓𝐎 𝐊𝐍𝐎𝐖 𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐓𝐎 𝐃𝐎 𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇 𝐈𝐓?

From the moment we are born, so much of our life is 𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐮𝐬.

At first, there is our mother, who decides when we eat, when we sleep, when we go out and when we come back. Then comes kindergarten, where there is a time for everything, followed by school, with its timetables, bells, homework, rules and expectations. Later come university, work, meetings, deadlines, responsibilities and calendars.

We become incredibly good at following structure.

But 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐟𝐞𝐰 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐚𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧.

So what happens when you finally have freedom?

When nobody is telling you what to do anymore, when there is no timetable, no teacher, no boss and no external structure organising your day?

✨ Sometimes freedom does not feel like freedom.

Sometimes it 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐜𝐫𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, scattered energy, unfinished projects, mental clutter and that frustrating feeling of having so much to do but not knowing where to begin.

And perhaps you are not lazy. Perhaps you are not lacking discipline.

Perhaps you simply spent so many years being organised from the outside 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧.

This is one of the layers I work with through 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐀𝐧𝐜𝐚 𝐀𝐧𝐚𝐦 𝐂𝐚𝐫𝐚 𝐌𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐝, because creating a new identity is not only about discovering who you are. It is also about 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲, 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬, 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐞𝐱𝐭.

This is also where I sometimes bring 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐲 into the work.

I work with different oils according to the qualities and states I want to support. There are 𝐟𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐢𝐥𝐬 I particularly like when I am working with themes such as scattered energy, 𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐨𝐟 𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐲 𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 and the feeling that your energy is everywhere except where you need it to be.

I do not see an essential oil as something that magically fixes the problem for you. I see it as a 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐚 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥, creating an association with the state you want to cultivate and bringing your attention back into the present moment.

𝐏𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐲, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝, 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐪𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐲𝐦𝐛𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐦. 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞.

And this is one of the things I love about the Anca Anam Cara Method: I do not believe transformation has to happen through one single doorway.

Sometimes we work through identity.
Sometimes through the body.
Sometimes through movement, breath or energy.
Sometimes a plant becomes part of the ritual.

The tools may be different, but the intention remains the same: 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐧 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐭.

Because the goal is not simply to become more organised.

The deeper work is 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐜𝐚𝐠𝐞.

And if you want to know which💧four essential oils I use for this particular theme, comment 𝐅𝐑𝐄𝐄𝐃𝐎𝐌 below and I’ll send you their names, along with the quality I associate with each one and how I would use them as part of a ritual.

22/08/2026

Be careful what you rehearse in your mind

21/08/2026

You can spend years understanding your patterns and still find yourself repeating them.

You can know where your fear comes from, understand your attachment style, recognise your limiting beliefs and be deeply aware of your own behaviour, yet still feel unable to create the change you know you are ready for.

Because sometimes the pattern is not held only in the mind.

It is held in the identity you created around what happened to you, in the assumptions you made about who you are, what you deserve and what is possible for you.

This is where we begin in an Identity Alchemy Session.

We regulate the nervous system, uncover the beliefs and self-concept beneath the pattern and, when needed, bring the body into the process through somatic practices and Energy Dance, so that the transformation becomes something you can actually embody.

Whether you are trying to create a new relationship, bring a project to life, make a major decision or simply step into a version of yourself you know is waiting for you, we work at the level of the woman who is creating that reality.

Because your next chapter requires more than a new goal.

It requires a new relationship with yourself.

Identity Alchemy Session
Transform identity. Change your reality. 🦋🧠💜🌱✨

DM me ALCHEMY if you feel ready to explore what is really keeping you from your next chapter.

18/08/2026

What if the attention you’re waiting to receive from others is the attention you keep refusing to give yourself?

We often think relationships change when the other person changes.

But sometimes, the biggest shift happens when you stop abandoning yourself for the relationship.

Your attention is energy. And what you consistently give your attention to becomes part of your reality, your patterns, and eventually, your identity.

So ask yourself today:

What am I feeding with my attention?

My fears?
My symptoms?
What’s missing?
What someone else is doing?

Or… me?

Because the way you treat yourself becomes part of the language through which you teach others how to relate to you.

You don't need to become less loving.

You need to stop disappearing inside your love for everyone else.

Me first. Then we.

And if you feel that it's time to come back to yourself and transform the identity you've been living from, this is exactly the work we explore in The Identity Alchemy.

✨ DM me ALCHEMY and let's see if an Identity Alchemy session is the right next step for you.

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