14/05/2026
Some things that can help to support perspective taking in a child with a social communication difference without encouraging masking to performing social behaviour:
1. Slow social situations down. Many autistic children process social information more slowly, especially during emotionally charged moments. Rather than expecting immediate social insight (“Why would you say that?”), it can help to revisit situations later when the nervous system is calm.
2. Be aware of possible shame. Focus on moving away from this first! Shame tends to increase anxiety and masking, not genuine understanding.
3. Try to separate impact from intent. A child may say something very direct or miss a social cue without any desire to hurt someone. Beginning with curiosity (“I wonder what was happening for you there?”) keeps connection intact.
4. Model different viewpoints naturally and without pressure: “Sometimes people can feel disappointed when they don’t get to post their way.” This reduces cognitive demand for your child.
5. Remember that perspective-taking is harder under stress! If a child is dysregulated, overwhelmed, sensory overloaded, anxious, or in fight/flight mode, access to social thinking becomes much harder. Regulation should always come before reflection.
6) Respect different communication styles. Some children may communicate care differently. Some show empathy through problem-solving, sharing information, practical help, loyalty, or checking in later once they have processed things internally.
Remember that some of this might fit for your child and other parts might not! We hope this is helpful ✨
