Norah Finn Therapy

05/06/2026

Telling people they need to learn not to argue back is unrealistic. Especially if you’re a woman. I’m tired of that draconian message designed to keep us demure and polite. Absolutely fight back when a fight is brought to you. Stand your ground. Don’t allow anyone intimidate or belittle you.

I’m tired of the message that the answer to conflict is always to stay silent, walk away, or be the bigger person. The message shouldn’t be “don’t fight back.” The message should be: “don’t attack people. Don’t bully people. Don’t intimidate people”. Give that message to bullies. Let them know that we will fight back against bullying.

If someone comes at you with hostility, disrespect, or psychological aggression, you have every right to stand up for yourself.

Refusing to be a doormat, having boundaries, standing your ground, is not aggression. It’s what a mentally healthy person does.

Too often, men who stand up for themselves are considered assertive, while women who do the same are considered aggressive. I reject that double standard. I refuse to be stereotyped by that outdated patriarchal message.

Most of the time, I’m an amicable woman. I enjoy peace, cooperation, and respectful conversations. I’m not looking for conflict.
But if someone brings a fight to me, they shouldn’t be surprised when I refuse to roll over.

I don’t shy away, intimidate easily, or crumble under disapproval. My self-esteem is not dependent on anyone else’s approval.

Raise your voice, and I’ll match your tone. Attempt to shout me down, and you’ll find I won’t be silenced.

I don’t believe people should suppress their fighting spirit. There is a difference between being peaceful and being passive. There is a difference between being kind and being a doormat.

I am a lover. I value kindness, compassion, and connection. But I am also a fighter.

For me, being whole means being comfortable with both.

Love when love is called for. Strength when strength is required.

Love or war, I’ll take each as it comes and respond accordingly.

You have a right to empower yourself. Stand into your power. I’m certainly right behind you💜

05/06/2026

I wish you all a wonderful weekend filled with everything that is good for your body, mind, and soul 💜

04/06/2026

How you choose to treat those around you says everything about you. .ycc is such a lovely place to be, to work out of, and to visit. They value and respect all. They give so much to their local community.

Give their page a follow. I’m very happy to be delivering my services out of this busy hive of activity for the local community. And the staff - second to none. Such lovely people 💜

04/06/2026

04/06/2026

“Hi, I’m Norah and I use the pronouns she/her. What about you?” Then use that person’s pronoun and encourage others to do the same. People have a right to identify in the way they choose to identify.

Gender identify and s*xual orientation, are two different things.

Gender identity is each person’s internal and individual experience of their gender. It’s about how you present your gender to you and the world, and how you want others to recognise you. The physical features that you were born with do not necessarily define your gender. It is a person’s sense of being a woman, a man, both, neither, or anywhere along the gender spectrum.

Sexual orientation is about who you’re attracted to. Sexual orientations include gay, le***an, heteros*xual, straight, as*xual, bis*xual, q***r, polys*xual, pans*xual etc. Some people believe that none of these labels describe them accurately. Some people don’t like labels at all. Some feel comfortable with certain labels and not others.

There was a time in this world when same s*x couples were victimized & discriminated against? And it’s not that long ago either. It was considered okay as long as they “did it in the privacy of their own homes”. They could not openly show any displays of public affection towards each other without disgust and prejudice. We were ignorant as a species to the internal psychology of humanity. People suffered deeply.

Struggles with gender identities have always been there. I’ve worked with them as long as I’ve practiced as a therapist. It’s a hard road for people and their families. A road made a million times more difficult in a cruel world of opinions.

Many parents are now navigating their children through waters that are muddy and clouded with judgement. They are holding their children. They are afraid & worried. Please be kind.

Knowledge is power. Education is freedom. In a world where our psychology is ever evolving, it is our job to examine our prejudices. How free are we really?

The only real freedom that’s ever worth fighting for is - the freedom of our own mind from our inner judgements. How free is yours?

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03/06/2026

I am delighted to be delivering my services, counselling, psychotherapy, and clinical supervision, from Bawnogue Community Centre.

It’s a wonderful centre filled with community spirit and activities. A hive of activities serving so many different areas of community. The staff at .ycc would teach us all what community is about. They are filled with humility, support, and kindness.

Thank you all for the lovely welcome into your centre. I feel a part of this community already.

It’s such a pleasure serving my community from this wonderful spot. Don’t hesitate to buzz me if I can support you,
Norah 0851277002 💜

03/06/2026

WHERE THERE IS NO SELF-AWARENESS, or ability to reflect on one’s own failings, there can be no true personal responsibility. Without responsibility, harmful behaviors are bound to be repeated.

When someone is aware of their behaviour, but still refuses to take responsibility, that persons refusal to accept responsibility means that they intend to repeat the behavior.

A mistake made with awareness is not a mistake, it’s a choice.

Be cautious with people who avoid personal responsibility and accountability. A relationship cannot grow, heal, be equal, shared, or saved, when one person refuses to own their behaviour.

Lack of personal responsibility and accountability are indicators of a relationship that will be grounded in passive aggression and coercive control.

Mentally healthy people do not behave with a lack of self responsibility in this world. Being able to take responsibility and accountability for the impact your behavior has on others, is an indicator of mental health.

02/06/2026

I jumped in the car this morning forgetting I strapped Buddha in my passenger seat last night as I was moving her. Was out on the main road before I realised she’s still in the car with me. Guess she’s spinning around Dublin with me today. We’re after getting a few laughs. She looks contented. Mind you, she always does. And before you think it, yes, she needs a good dusting off after the move. Bit like meself. I wish you all a beautiful day ahead. Be like Buddha. Be unaffected by all the external noise. “Strap yourself in - enjoy the ride” 💜

02/06/2026

IF LOVING SOMEONE is centred around conflict rather than harmony, it may be worth asking some difficult questions.

Relationships, whether with a partner, family member, friend, or colleague, will have challenges. But when the experience is consistently messy, painful, and exhausting rather than supportive and nourishing, something needs attention.

Love can feel as natural as breathing. It doesn’t mean there will never be disagreements or difficult conversations, but healthy relationships are not defined by constant struggle.

If you’re always working hard just to keep a relationship functioning, consider whether the dynamic is truly serving both people.

Sometimes patterns need to be addressed together. Sometimes external support can help. And sometimes the healthiest choice is to step away.

Relationships contribute to your wellbeing, they’re not meant to diminish it. 💜

01/06/2026

HAVE YOU BEEN THINKING about change? About how you want your life to be? About what you really want?

Have you been wondering why the same repeated patterns keep showing up over and over in your life?

Have you been trying to get to the bottom of what’s happening? Have you been trying to work it out for yourself?

That’s where therapy can help!

There is no therapist who can fix your life. That’s not what therapy is about. You’re a wise human. You know exactly what you need to heal in your life.

The problem is – why have you not done it?
That’s what therapy is about.

It’s about growing in awareness to overcome the obstacles that are keeping you stuck.

Some are conscious patterns. Some are so deeply embedded in the subconscious that we need support to bring those destructive patterns into conscious awareness. Once we see them, we cannot unsee them. That’s what empowerment is about.

That’s the goal of therapy. Once we acknowledge what is, it can no longer lurk in the unconscious, causing havoc and creating blocks in our lives. It’s letting the shadow out and into our vision where we can keep our eye on it, instead of it residing invisibly within our psyche.

Therapy is not a quick fix. It’s a slow burn. It’s a process that grows in awareness through years. The fact that we want a quick fix is a pattern that’s worth unraveling in the therapy room.

We learn to move patiently and lovingly with ourselves, at our own pace. We learn to sit with ourself by acknowledging and understanding the patterns we’ve created to avoid our true self.

It’s the start of June. There are seven months left in this year.

Where could you be within yourself by the end of this year? No one knows the answer to that. But chances are that the sooner you begin your inner journey, the sooner you’ll be in a more content place than if you had never started therapy.

Therapy can be life-changing. If you’re struggling right now, you don’t have to continue the same cycle.

Therapy works …. there’s no doubt of that. Avoiding the deep inner work is only avoidance of self. 💜