29/04/2026
I want to share something that gives little perspective on Hailie’s life. Being a teenager is about testing boundaries, finding yourself and wanting to fit in. For Hailie, it’s no different but at the same time, it’s very different.
Hailie is a teenager, yet there are restrictions that most teens never have to think about. She is advised not to play contact sports, no rollercoasters, advised against getting piercings or tattoos. These aren’t just cautious choices, they are medical choices to minimise risks.
Recently, Hailie made a decision many teenagers make. She got a 2 new piercings on her ear. She didn’t ask and did it herself with a piercing gun and only told me later.
To some, that might seem like a small thing. Something normal. Something harmless.
But for Hailie, it isn’t.
Hailie has a mechanical heart valve, which means she is at risk of a serious infection called endocarditis. Because of that, her cardiologist has been very clear- no piercings, no tattoos. Even something as simple as an ear piercing can introduce bacteria into the bloodstream and put her valve and her life, at risk.
So now, for the next few weeks, we were told to watch closely for any signs of infection. We hope that everything will be okay.
And at the same time, we understand why she did it.
Because sometimes, she just wants to feel like a normal teenager.
That’s the hardest part of all of this not just the medical side, but the emotional one. The constant balance between keeping her safe and allowing her to feel like she belongs.
This is the reality for so many families living with complex conditions. The risks are real, even when the choices seem small.