19/10/2020
Is getting married an answer?
I read an article and realized that people get married thinking that it could be an answer to their problems. Understand, you problem is YOURS! It is only you who can solve that problem and not anyone else. DO NOT THINK that marriage can solve problems or can cure your loneliness, only you can do that.
I wont say a happy person but a person who is aware can be happy in a marriage. Be happy as a single, be independent - when i say independent - i mean to say own yourself, own your worries, own your happiness, own everything that is yours and then look for a companion who understands and does the same. Marry because of love and when it feels right, not out of loneliness or any mess that you are not able to deal with alone!
Remember, we all are a mess in our ownself, why do you think your partner will be no mess, he/she is also a human being. So, if you marry to find a solution, you are multiplying your mess! What further create problems is when you make your partner responsible to solve your mess, i mean, why should he/she? Ask yourself this question 10 times!
The key is to clear your own mess, be responsible for your own life, own your problems and continue to do that all your life! Then only you can find happiness in any relationship. Look for a partner and not for a parent in a marriage! High time we take responisibilty for our lives!