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12/03/2026

I get asked all the time, does the narcissist know what they're doing?

And the answer is YES, of course they know.

Narcissists are not going into some kind of blackout trance state (which, if this were true... would it not be something that requires immediate medical attention??) when they’re abusing you.

✅ They know EXACTLY what they’re doing.

❌ Don’t let their convenient selective amnesia fool you.

❌ Don’t let their playing dumb fool you.

❌ Don’t let the s**t their enablers say fool you.

❌ Don’t let the nonsense ,the abuse ,apologies all over social media say fool you.

THEY 100000% F*CKING KNOW!!!

Abuse of any kind is NOT a mistake.

It’s a CHOICE the abuser makes and is AWARE of no matter how dumb they try to play.

Narcissistic abuse IS abuse, and as much as narcissists and their enablers want to be victims and excuse away their behaviour, the reality is they’re well aware of what they’re doing.

🤯In the narc’s mind, if they can gaslight you enough to convince you they had no choice but to abuse you, didn’t realize they abused you, had no idea, can’t remember, or whatever, maybe you’ll feel guilty enough to stick around for even more abuse!

This is all part of the manipulation game so they can keep repeating the cycle of abuse with you.

✅ Be aware of it.

🚫 Don’t engage in it - because when you do, you feed them even more supply and give them more opportunities to continue mindf*cking you.

Courtesy - Online blog

06/03/2026

06/03/2026

A narcissist will abandon anyone, no matter how close, if the relationship threatens their delusion of being blameless.

Accountability is their breaking point. The minute you challenge their version of events, ask for an apology, or hold up a mirror to their abusive behaviour…

The narcissist will choose their ego over the relationship every single time.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known them.
It doesn’t matter how much you’ve sacrificed.
It doesn’t matter how loyal, patient, or understanding you’ve been.

The moment the truth disrupts the image they have carefully built — the image where they are always the victim, always misunderstood, always right — you become the threat. And when you become the threat, you become disposable.

They don’t walk away because they don’t care.
They walk away because facing accountability would shatter the illusion they survive on.

To admit fault would mean confronting their own insecurities.
To apologize would mean acknowledging harm.
To take responsibility would mean losing control.

And control is everything to them.

So instead of reflecting, they rewrite the story.
Instead of apologizing, they deflect.
Instead of repairing, they retreat — or retaliate.

They may smear your name, twist the narrative, or paint you as the unstable one. Anything to protect their ego from the unbearable weight of truth.

Because for a narcissist, preserving their self-image is more important than preserving the relationship.

And that’s the painful reality — you can love them deeply, stand by them faithfully, and fight for the connection with everything in you…

But if loving them requires them to look at themselves honestly, they will choose themselves — not growth, not healing, not you — every single time.

24/02/2026

Financial abuse is one of the most effective tools a narcissist uses.
Not because it is loud, but because it is strategic.

They blur boundaries around money early.
Small favors turn into leverage.

They control access while pretending to provide support.
Dependence is disguised as help.

You are encouraged to trust them.
Then slowly stripped of financial autonomy.

Bills are ignored.
Promises are broken.

Your concerns are minimized.
Your stress is dismissed.

They create chaos and then blame you for the consequences.
Debt becomes another way to keep you stuck.

With narcissists, money is not shared.
It is weaponized.

You are left cleaning up damage you did not cause.
While they walk away untouched.

That kind of abuse rewires your sense of safety.
Because survival becomes tied to control.

Healing begins when you name it.
And reclaim your independence one decision at a time.

18/02/2026

When a narcissist gets caught lying, they don’t respond with shame or honesty. They double down.

They will swear on anything sacred.
On their reputation.
On their family.
Even on their own children’s lives.

Not because it’s true — but because they know how powerful that kind of declaration sounds.

They understand that most people would never invoke something so serious unless they were telling the truth. And they rely on that assumption. They weaponize your sense of morality against you.

While you’re thinking, “No one would lie about something like that,”
they are calmly doing exactly that.

It isn’t about the lie itself anymore. It’s about winning. About regaining control. About making you question your instincts and back down.

And if you still don’t believe them, they’ll act offended. Hurt. Betrayed that you would even question their word.

The performance becomes bigger than the original deception.

Because to them, protecting their image matters more than protecting their integrity. And the more cornered they feel, the more dramatic the oath becomes.

The tragedy isn’t just the lie.
It’s how far they’re willing to go to avoid being exposed.

14/02/2026

WHY DO NARCISSISTS HATE YOU SO MUCH?

There are a number of possible reasons…

One that I’m sure you’ve heard loads of times and that is that you are no longer a good source of narcissistic supply. You don’t give them what they need. You don’t give them the attention they think they deserve. It’s pretty sad to see an adult who thinks the world should revolve around them and if it doesn’t, they throw a hissy fit. 🤪

You called them out on their bad behaviour. How dare you? They don’t like anyone who points fingers at them and doesn’t let them shift the blame like they always do. They’ll need to be able to justify in their delusional little minds what they did to you, and you wouldn’t let them do that or play the victim.

You exposed them to others. They want other people to think well of them and you have told people the truth. They are insecure little losers who don’t want their behaviour and deep rooted insecurities laid bare.

They hate the fact that they can’t control you. They wanted you to back down when they spewed venom in your direction, but you let it run off you like water off a duck’s back. They despise your inner strength. They’ve found out that you are much stronger than they are. You didn’t react in the way they expected you to. They are weak individuals who need to put others down in order to feel good about themselves. You don’t need to do that. You are confident in the person you are with no need to pretend to be something you’re not.

You are just so damned nice! People love you for who you are. They hate that you are everything they know they can never be. You’ve got a kind heart, are empathetic and basically a nice person. They have to pretend to be a nice person. It’s all fake and they can’t keep up this pretence for long. They’ll hate the fact that people are drawn to you, that you are respected and more popular than they are and you don’t even have to try.

They hate you because you are happy and they’re not and never are. They have fleeting moments when they think they are happy but underneath they are pretty sad, individuals, who don’t really like themselves. Life is a competition, to be better, to be seen by everyone as better, their happiness dependent on what people think about them and when that’s not good, well, their ego takes a massive hit. They will never be truly happy when no external source can change what they feel inside.

They are intensively envious of anything you do or have that is better than them, whether that be material things or your relationships with family, friends or co-workers, your popularity, your personality, to name but a few. They hate to see your success and will try to diminish your achievements to anyone who will listen to their vitriol.

To sum it all up, their hatred has absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and how they view themselves. Try not to get pulled into their drama and put in place strong boundaries. If possible, cut contact and keep them and their supporters at a distance.

Courtesy - Anne McCrea

13/02/2026

A narcissist will tell you to “get over the past”
while they continue the exact same behavior in the present.

They’ll say you’re holding grudges.
That you’re too sensitive.
That you keep “bringing up old stuff.”

But what they call “the past”
is often a pattern
that never actually stopped.

They don’t want resolution.
They want amnesia.

They want you to forget
without them changing.
To forgive
without them taking responsibility.
To move forward
while they stand still.

When you point out the repetition,
they accuse you of living in yesterday.

But you’re not stuck in the past.
You’re reacting to a cycle
that keeps replaying.

You can’t heal from something
that’s still happening.

You can’t close a chapter
that they keep rewriting
with the same ink.

“Get over it”
isn’t a request for peace.

It’s a demand for silence.

Because if you stop talking about it,
they never have to confront it.

11/02/2026

Some narcissists are masters at faking empathy. Here's how they do it...

Learn more...
https://narcissisms.com/how-narcissists-fake-empathy/

01/02/2025

May “F” in February stand for “Finally”
May we finally receive what we’ve been praying for💜💚

💛May this new month bring breakthroughs,answers to prayers ,and promises fulfilled💟🐚🪽🌠

28/06/2024

*"Check yourself. Sometimes you are the toxic person. Sometimes you are the mean, negative person you're looking push away. Sometimes the problem is you. And that doesn't make you less worthy. Keep on growing. Keep on checking yourself. Keep on motivating yourself. Mistakes are opportunities. Look at them, own them, grow from them and move on Do better,be better. You're human. It's okay."*

👉🏻This is a powerful reminder to take responsibility for our actions and strive for personal growth. It's easy to forget that we all have flaws and can contribute to negativity, but acknowledging this is the first step towards positive change.🫶🏻

*Here are some key takeaways from this message:*

*Self-awareness:* Recognizing our own negative behaviors and patterns is crucial for personal growth.

*Accountability:* Taking ownership of our mistakes and their impact on others is a sign of maturity and integrity.

*Growth mindset* : Viewing mistakes as opportunities for learning and improvement allows us to move forward and become better versions of ourselves.

*Self-compassion:* Accepting that we are human and imperfect is essential for maintaining a healthy sense of self-worth and motivation.