31/12/2025
DATING DOCTORS FOR BENEFITS
In my few years of working, I discovered something interesting. As a young male doctor in Kenya, I suddenly appeared very attractive to many young women. Sumptuous. Palatable. Visually nutritious.
For a brief moment, I thought I had finally become visible to the feminine world.
Alas.
It was not me. It was my pocket and by extension my title that was doing the heavy lifting.
So I dated, but with intention and strong guardrails.
On dates, I would casually ask a dangerous question.
“So what are your expectations?”
About ninety percent of the ladies never wanted to answer this directly.
Later, I understood why. Clarity is expensive. Clarity sets boundaries. Clarity demands accountability. And as they say, clarity and vibes are like water and oil.
So expectations remain unspoken. Floating. Waiting.
Then chaos erupts later when those unspoken expectations are not met.
Eloi. Eloi.
Some women were however, very clear about their expectations. Some were reasonable. Others required a supplementary budget and divine intervention.
At first, I thought it was only young male doctors catching strays in these streets.
Eloi again.
Then I heard the testimonies of my counterparts, the young female doctors.
Enter stage left. The muscular gym enthusiast with a deep voice. Romantic. Masculine. Calm. Emotionally available. Consistent. Listens actively. Does housework while she is busy at work.
Premium package.
disappear
Fast forward a few months. Four hundred thousand shillings disappear. Sometimes consciously into a certain project that was supposed to multiply tenfold. At other times, it's mysterious, like airtime on a dual-SIM phone.
These stories are not isolated incidents.
may want to approach it slightly differently, treating it
Lesson of the year. Dating while actively working is rarely a pure love affair. You may want to approach it slightly differently, treating it more like an interview than usual.
And a proverb from the Luhya community sums it up perfectly.
"When you visit your in-laws for negotiations, do not eat until you have discussed and resolved what brought you there. If you eat before you talk, you will be saying yes and amen to all their demands".
Happy end of 2025 and welcome to 2026.
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