14/06/2026
Manko o sa le teng ke tlo lata linko tsa lona from toxic relationships tsa metsoalle, malapa le mekhatlo
English version. Basa tsebeng sekhoooa ke tlo le etsetsa ea Sesotho shortly
Belonging to a group is a basic human need. It provides connection, support, identity, and a sense of purpose. However, belonging should not come at the cost of your dignity or values.
Ke tlo lefa exercise h**e o shebe na are you belonging to the good or toxic group. Haele toxic e hloka warning, set boundaries or distance yourself from that group
Here is a self-reflection exercise that can help people evaluate whether a group, family, workplace, friendship circle, church, political organization, or community is healthy or toxic.
Belonging Assessment: Love, Respect, or Toxicity?
Instructions
For each statement, rate how often it is true:
* 0 = Never
* 1 = Rarely
* 2 = Sometimes
* 3 = Often
* 4 = Almost Always
Part A: Signs of Love and Respect
1. People listen when I speak.
2. My opinions are considered even when others disagree.
3. I feel emotionally safe around the group.
4. My successes are celebrated.
5. When I make mistakes, I am corrected respectfully.
6. People show concern when I am struggling.
7. I can be myself without fear of ridicule.
8. Boundaries are respected.
9. Members are generally honest with one another.
10. I leave interactions feeling valued.
Part B: Signs of Toxicity
11. I am frequently mocked, belittled, or humiliated.
12. I feel I must earn basic respect.
13. Members gossip about one another.
14. I am afraid to express disagreement.
15. People use guilt to control others.
16. Some members are treated as superior to everyone else.
17. I often feel drained after spending time with the group.
18. My achievements are minimized or ignored.
19. I feel pressure to betray my values to fit in.
20. Problems are denied instead of addressed.
Part C: Reality Check
21. If a loved one were treated the way I am treated here, I would be concerned.
22. I stay mainly because I fear being excluded.
23. I frequently make excuses for behavior that hurts me.
24. The group improves my well-being.
25. The group helps me become a better person.
Scoring
Respect and Love Score
Add items 1โ10.
Maximum = 40
Toxicity Score
Add items 11โ20.
Maximum = 40
Reflection Items
Review answers 21โ25 carefully.
Interpretation
Healthy Group
* Love and Respect Score: 30โ40
* Toxicity Score: 0โ10
This group is generally supportive, respectful, and psychologically safe.
Mixed Group
* Love and Respect Score: 20โ29
* Toxicity Score: 11โ20
The group has both healthy and unhealthy dynamics. Boundaries and honest conversations may be needed.
Concerning Group
* Love and Respect Score: Below 20
* Toxicity Score: Above 20
There are significant signs of disrespect, manipulation, or emotional harm.
Highly Toxic Group
* Love and Respect Score: Below 15
* Toxicity Score: Above 30
The group may be damaging your emotional well-being and sense of self-worth. Consider seeking support, strengthening boundaries, or reducing involvement.
Final Reflection
Complete these sentences:
1. I feel most respected when __________________________.
2. I feel most disrespected when ________________________.
3. The behavior I tolerate most often is _________________.
4. If I trusted my instincts, I would ____________________.
5. The healthiest step I can take this month is ___________.
Remember: A healthy group does not require perfection. The key question is whether people consistently treat you with dignity, respect, and goodwill, especially when there is disagreement or conflict.
