17/10/2026
🧠 One of the things I find particularly important when we talk about ADHD in women is the gap between what people see and what it costs.
✨ A woman can look organised, accomplished and completely “on top of things” while using enormous amounts of energy to maintain that appearance.
🌿 And sometimes, what looks like perfectionism, procrastination, forgetfulness, emotional overwhelm or inconsistency has a much more complex story underneath it.
💛 This is also why I’m careful about turning individual behaviours into diagnoses. None of these experiences, on their own, mean someone has ADHD. But when patterns are persistent and significantly affect daily life, they can be worth exploring with an appropriately qualified professional.
🤍 For me, understanding neurodivergence has never been about finding an excuse for the things that are difficult. It has been about replacing shame with understanding and asking a much more useful question: What support would actually allow this person to function well?
💬 I’d love to hear from you: what’s one thing women with ADHD are still misunderstood about?