21/10/2026
你已经很累了。眼睛快睁不开,明天还要早起上班。
可是,你还是舍不得睡。
拿起手机,刷一下 Facebook。
再看几个短视频。
看看 Shopee 有没有什么优惠(虽然其实什么都不缺)。
突然发现,已经凌晨1点了。
你心里想:”惨了,明天又要累死了。”
但手指还是继续滑。😂
为什么我们明明很累,却偏偏不肯睡?
网络上有个很流行的说法,叫做 Revenge Bedtime Procrastination,中文常称为「报复性熬夜」。
白天,我们的时间好像都不属于自己。
早上赶着送孩子上学。
上班忙着处理工作、应付老板、回复信息。
下班后,还有家务、孩子的功课、各种责任。
忙了一整天,终于到了晚上。
孩子睡了,工作群组也终于安静下来。
这几个小时,终于是属于自己的。
所以,即使身体已经很疲倦,我们还是想再玩一下手机、追一集电视剧,或者什么都不做。
因为心里总觉得:
“我今天已经忙了一整天,难道连一点自己的时间都没有吗?”
于是,我们用睡眠来交换那一点点自由。
只是,睡得越迟,隔天就越累。白天没精神,到了晚上又更想补偿自己。
就这样,陷入一个循环。
当然,不是每个熬夜的人都在「报复性熬夜」。有时候,失眠、焦虑、轮班工作,甚至身体疾病,都可能影响睡眠。
那我们可以怎么办?
与其一直责怪自己没有自律,不如试着在白天留一点时间给自己。哪怕只是15分钟。
喝杯咖啡、散散步、听喜欢的音乐,或者安静地坐着,不需要完成任何任务。
也可以给晚上的自己设一个小界限:
例如睡前30分钟,先把手机放到一旁。
休息和属于自己的时间,其实不必每晚都二选一。
也许你舍不得放下的,是这一天里,终于属于自己的那一点时间。🌙
👇 你昨晚几点才放下手机?最后在刷什么?留言告诉我们
It's 11:30 PM.
You're exhausted. Your eyes are heavy, and you have to wake up early tomorrow.
But instead of going to bed, you pick up your phone.
A little Facebook.
A few more reels.
Maybe check Shopee for something you don't actually need.
Suddenly, it's 1 AM.
You tell yourself, "I'm going to regret this tomorrow."
And then you scroll some more. 😂
Why do we stay awake when we're already so tired?
There's a name for this that has become pop**ar online: revenge bedtime procrastination.
During the day, so much of our time belongs to other people.
Work deadlines. Meetings. Children. Household chores. Messages that need answering.
By the time everything is done, there's hardly any time left for ourselves.
Then, finally, the house goes quiet and nobody needs anything from you.
For the first time all day, the time feels like yours.
So you stay up a little longer, because going to bed feels like giving up the only freedom you had today.
The trouble is, we end up borrowing time from our sleep.
We wake up exhausted, and by the next night we want even more of that time back.
And the cycle continues.
Of course, not all late-night wakefulness is bedtime procrastination. Insomnia, anxiety, shift work and medical conditions can also interfere with sleep.
So what can help?
Instead of simply blaming yourself for lacking discipline, try making some room for yourself during the day. Even 15 minutes of uninterrupted personal time can be a starting point.
Take a walk.
Enjoy a coffee.
Listen to music.
Do something that doesn't involve being productive.
And consider setting a gentle boundary with your phone, like putting it away 30 minutes before bed.
Rest and time for yourself shouldn't have to compete every single night.
Maybe what you're holding on to at 1 AM is the one part of the day that finally felt like yours. 🌙
👇 What time did you finally put your phone down last night? And what were you scrolling? Tell us in the comments
The Good Life Project
Dr Heng Ying Huei | Dr Poh Yih Chew