04/03/2024
Stop making excuses for people who hurt you, treat you shabbily or badly. 98% of the time, they Know what they are doing to you while 2% of the time they aren’t sure if they really wanted to take those actions.
In life, you will often encounter people who don't treat us the way we deserve to be treated. It could be a friend, family member, or even a romantic partner.
And in these situations, it's natural to try to find excuses for their behavior.
You might tell yourself that they didn't mean it, that they're going through a tough time, or that they just don't know any better. But the truth is, more often than not, they know exactly what they're doing.
Research shows that people who hurt others often do so intentionally. They may have their own reasons for behaving badly, but that doesn't excuse their actions. And when we make excuses for them, we're only enabling their behavior and allowing them to continue hurting us.
So what can we do instead? The answer is simple: hold them accountable. This doesn't mean confronting them in a hostile way or seeking revenge. Not at all, It means setting boundaries and making it clear that their behavior is not acceptable. It means standing up for yourself and refusing to tolerate mistreatment.
Of course, this is easier said than done. It can be scary to stand up to someone who has hurt you, and you may worry about the consequences. But in the long run, holding people accountable is the best way to protect yourself and ensure that you're treated with the respect you deserve.
So, stop making excuses for those who hurt you, hold them accountable and demand better treatment. And remember that you deserve to be treated with kindness, respect, and dignity.
SELAH