01/11/2025
ALTERNATIVES TO GENETICALLY COMPATIBLE RELATIONSHIP(3)
‘LOVE’-DRIVEN RELATIONSHIP
The Filipinos have never stopped telling anyone who cares to listen that ‘you don’t tell the heart who to love.’ This is largely true. Even in these times that money and affluence have received power to purchase ‘love’, you could still tell when you genuinely love someone.
So, when a person is unrepentantly in love with someone else, it shouldn’t be trifled with or wished away. Love is real - let’s not set up a debating contest on it. And anywhere you find real love, noble ‘guys’ like patience, forgiveness, tolerance and forbearance usually lurk around. Including the ability or propensity to take risks.
But, love flows from the heart, and the heart, with all its emotional rollercoaster, is not always right! In fact, a synonym of the heart left out of the dictionaryn is, ‘headlong’. Because, as long as its feelings and emotionality are in place, calculated risks, sound judgment and proper analysis should go to Olumo Rock and hit their heads there! The heart doesn’t care.
Let’s do a volte-face, please.
Before a plunge, the mind, on the other hand, normally asks itself, “supposing I dive in there and scatter my head on a rock, what will I tell people?” So, it reasons, analyses and judges, and, through meticulousness and sound judgment, it achieves its goals MOST times. But, because it’s always expecting heaven and earth to align with logic, it turns its butt on gut feeling and intuition.
How do we connect the dots?
Let’s see.
In feeling love, for example, the heart should seek the scrupulous counsel of the mind and not think that the whole world is weighed only with the scale of Romeo and Juliet. And, the mind, in reasoning, must allow the gooey and tampering caress of the heart, and do well to remember that even Albert Einstein made mistakes and had weaknesses.
When the heart is impregnated by the soundness of the mind, the love that issues from it is sacrificial and seeks for the good and wellbeing of others. But, anytime it’s over the moon and euphoric, it divorces the advantage of the mind, and questions like, “What’s your genotype and blood group?” go back to sender!
As far as it’s concerned, if Rhesus factor, genotype and relatives are going to stand in the way of its joy, then all of them are killjoys that should be ferried to River Nile and drowned there, for all it cares. Good riddance to serial spoilers!
The gift of the mind to man is so great that no man can operate beyond the level of his mind! Therefore, though the heart has its solid place, hinging a sexual relationship solely on unguided love, produced by the flimflams of the heart, is divorcing the resourcefulness and cross-checking abilities of the mind. And a decision taken this way is lopsided and will likely lead to shipwreck!
So, is it proper to lean only on the fragility of ‘unsalted’ love to take a decision on something as dire as a sexual relationship?
Be the best judge.
SOCIETY FOR HEALTHY LIFESTYLE