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04/09/2026

A gentle reminder today: that you belong to yourself first…

Notice what happens the moment you try to rest…

“I should just finish that first.”
“I need to reply right now.”
“I cannot relax until this is sorted.”

Oeff been here

This one went under the radar for me for years … caring has quietly become self-abandonment … and not even noticing that resting begins feeling like something to avoid … a threat instead of relief.

Underneath it flows the urge to fix, or manage and saying yes to everyone else … is often an old and tender adaptation that may hold (out of others)

*If I get it right, I’ll stay safe.
*If I am useful enough, I won’t disappoint anyone.
*If I need less, I won’t be a burden.

Over-functioning was how we stayed connected as well as protected. However your body does not need to pay this steep cost for belonging with exhaustion and loneliness anymore.

The invitation is: before you say yes to one more request today, take a moment- pause - and ask

“ Do I actually have the capacity for this?”

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Virgo NewMoon Women’s Circle
Saturday 12 September · 16:00–19:00
De Roos, Amsterdam

A held afternoon of inquiry, cyclical ritual, storytelling, nourishment of the soul and heart . Unfinished is the entry requirement.

link in my events women’s circle 🌹
For those where group work is too soon - DM me for 1:1
With care Wen-Wei

03/09/2026

It may be that you find yourself here…
“I need to be more disciplined.”
“I just need to get through this list.”
“I’m responsible.”
“I just have high standards.”
I’m gently inviting you to take a moment’s pause and look underneath these…
I’ve also been one to catch myself in these patterns. I can relate very well.
For there could be a very tender drive underneath…
that if we get it right, we might finally feel safe.
Or the wish to be loved and accepted… without being a burden.
The energy behind this pattern may be fear.
These are just a few of the things that can sit underneath what is driving the perfectionism.
We are born needing connection—what is termed “attachment”: to be loved, protected, seen and safe.
If having needs, making mistakes, feeling distressed, or struggling were not welcomed or attuned to… we adapted. We changed in order to fit in, to stay safe.
Thus, we may have become helpful, prepared, correct, or low-maintenance… because connection matters.
As children, we know this intrinsically: without connection, we cannot survive.
So this is not about blaming ourselves for having these patterns, It is about becoming aware of them… and beginning to ask whether we still need to live by them.
Can we let ourselves rest before everything is finished?
Give ourselves permission to let ourselves need support?

So dear woman, be welcome into upcoming NewMoon’s Circle …There is something powerful about being in a well-held group with other women.A space where we can begin to gently uncover the patterns we have been living by…and recover the parts of ourselves that have been pushed aside in order to cope.
We do not have to do this alone…A place for reflection, storytelling, ritual, soul-sharing, connection…Expereince being carried by one another and to receive nourishment, reflection and the experience of being with together who understand something of this too.

Link in the events

With care Wen-Wei

27/08/2026

That knot in your stomach may not be about food at all…

Late August’s got a way of arriving in Amsterdam city… One moment there’s still summer light, a little more breathing space around the edges of life, whereas the next, calendars are filling, work rhythms are accelerating and the whole long list of things that need holding returns before we have properly come back to ourselves…

For many of us, it’s happening unnoticed and quiet in the background... The jaw begins to clench, breath stays high in the chest where sleep changes and thereby energy thins… moreover underneath it all … is the familiar feeling that we should perhaps become more organised, or more disciplined… more capable of carrying it all…

However, perhaps your body’s simply responding intelligently to a pace of life that asks you to take in much much more than you can truthfully hold.

Virgo season is often reduced to routines and That knot in your stomach may not be about food at all…
Late August has a way of arriving in Amsterdam city… One moment there is still summer light, a little more breathing space around the edges of life, whereas the next, calendars are filling, work rhythms are accelerating, and the whole long list of things that need holding returns before we have properly come back to ourselves…
For many of us, it is happening quietly. The jaw begins to clench, the breath stays high in the chest, sleep changes, energy thins, and underneath it all is the familiar feeling that we should perhaps become more organised, more disciplined, more capable of carrying it all…
However, perhaps your body is simply responding intelligently to a pace of life that asks you to take in more than you can truthfully hold.

Virgo season’s often reduced to routines and getting everything in order… Yet its deeper invitation is discernment…

What’s truly mine to tend?
What’s been placed in front of me because I’m the one people rely on?

What am I swallowing simply because nobody’s named it as too much?

Perhaps September doesn’t need a stricter routine from … Perhaps it needs a slower relationship with it all

On Saturday 12th September, we gather at De Roos in Amsterdam for the Virgo NewMoon Women’s Circle, from 16:00 to 19:00.

There will be story, ritual, sharing, rest and the quiet experience of being held within a circle of women, without needing to arrive with everything resolved.

Unfinished is the entry requirement…

To reserve your cushion, send me a message here, or visit the link in the comments below
With care,
Wen-Wei 🌹

25/08/2026

Unfinished is the entry requirement....
I lv hatvthis us a space ...
Here we come unfixed, unpolished, unfinished, and here we gather anyway.

On Saturday the 12th of September, we meet at De Roos in Amsterdam, 16:00 to 19:00, for our Virgo NewMoon Women’s Circle.

Held for whatever you actually are right now, rather than the version of you that feels it needs to be resolved and ready in some knda way.

This season is not about a stricter routine or another way to fix yourself, it is about reclaiming consent over your own care, and learning the difference between devotion and depletion in your own body.

Spaces are kept limited to protect the intimacy of the space
• Saturday 12th September
• 16:00 – 19:00
• De Roos, Vondelpark, Amsterdam

Ticket linking comments below or on my events

With care Wen-Wei

22/08/2026

Small reminder… No, you don’t need a stricter routine for this autumn. You need your feminine body to be permitted to stop performing so hard.

Late August always seems to arrive with an unspoken command to organise, to prepare, and to swallow the impending pace whole. Tragically, you therefore assume that your physical heaviness is simply poor discipline.

So…

How long have you been the one who is relied upon? The one who anticipates every need before it is said aloud, who carries the emotional weight of the entire house, who does the invisible work that nobody sees and nobody has ever counted.

Because dear woman, when you live like this for years, your body stays on high alert until rest itself begins to feel like laziness (which it’s not). … Like the seal woman that Clarissa Pinkola Estés writes of, who dries out when kept too long from the sea, your body begins to wither when everything you have is given away to everyone else.

Also for many of us in our forties and fifties, this is happening alongside a phase that has never been properly explained to us… experienced as fatigue that arrives out of frigging nowhere, or sleep that no longer brings rest, or the hot flare and flush… the flatness. …Symptoms with no name, so no legitimacy, and therefore no help.

They’re signs that you’ve outgrown a structure that was never built for this phase of your life.

Our body is the first line of defence, for it registers the exhaustion your mind keeps pushing past.

What you are watching in this video is simply a space being made ready….Sheepskin cushions, blankets, candles, low light. My own living room, turned into a place where one woman comes to lie down and be worked with, slowly, in her own time….Nothing pushed, poked or prodded.

Therefore, dear you, the invitation is this.: Stop trying to organise your way out of depletion… no need for another system to fix yourself. Please give yourself permission to sit down, or lie down, and honour your limits.

And if you would like to do that in company rather than alone:
On Saturday the 12th of September we gather at De Roos in Amsterdam, from 16:00 to 19:00, for our Virgo NewMoon Women’s Circle. We will lay down the invisible load and breathe good life back onto tired bones and beautiful bodies. A larger version of this room, dear woman, with other women in it to share with.

You do not need to arrive rested… Unfinished is the entry requirement ;)

Details and tickets are in the event linked below, or write CIRCLE in the comments and I will send it to you directly.

https://www.rest2flow.com/womens-circle-de-roos-amsterdam-rest2flow

With softness and care 🌹 Wen-Wei

19/08/2026

Do you ever feel that quiet severing when you sit down at a screen? Oh yeah…That sense that you have to leave some part of your full, feeling self behind in order to become the ‘productive’ self that is expected to perform?

I’ve been feeling it strongly this week, as we stand on the bridge between the radiant, expressive heart of Leo and the devotional, focused energy of Virgo. Well it was an invitation to share with you what I do to merge these two worldsand not choose between them.

So, here’s this small ritual and it’s not about cleansing the space, but about consecrating the self within the space. Thus, before the work begins, I take a moment to honour the lineage that brought me here, the future I am creating, and the spirit that animates me in the present moment…It’s a way of gathering all my parts, so my work can flow from a place of wholeness, not inner fragmentation.

This personal practice is essential and important however the deepest truth is that this work is not meant to be done alone.

Wonder Woman, we practice in private so we can show up in community, to be witnessed and held in our wholeness.

This is the sacred purpose of the circle.

Our September Women’s Circle is now open.. gathering in our new home at De Roos on the 12th of September, from 4pm to 7pm, for an evening of deep reconnection. If this call resonates, the link is in my events section
Or below👇🏽🌹

https://www.rest2flow.com/womens-circle-de-roos-amsterdam-rest2flow

16/08/2026

There’s much talk of how we show up in relationship with others, no? Maybe there’s an undertone/pressure to be present, open, and balanced for our partners, our children or our work. However, when our own inner world is unsettled, every one of these external connections can begin to feel like a role/performance maybe worse… a drain.… offering energy from a space that has not first been filled.

With the Sun in the radiant heart of Leo and the Moon in relational Libra, the cosmic invitation is clear…. It asks us not to choose between self and other, but to understand that a truly balanced and honest relationship with the world can only flow from a grounded connection to our own inner and true centre.

This is what i understand means to practice authorship
Which is, to consciously tend to our own inner garden and to hold our own intention, so that when we do turn towards another, we do so not from a place of depletion, but from a full and sovereign heart.

Im inviting you to give yourself permission to take that quiet moment first.
The soft permission to place a hand on your own heart before you extend it to another…. practice this quiet grounding, BUT- not as another ‘task’ to perfect, however awareness that it’s as a simple, yet radical act of self-authorship.

It is in this silent, intentional space that the most profound relationship I.e. the one with yourself, is nourished.

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* This deep, personal work of authorship is the heart of what we explore in my one-to-one container.

So as we move towards autumn, a new space has opened for one woman to begin this journey with me… and if this quiet call resonates, you can send a direct message for a chat

* Bringing this energy into my classes today:
3pm: Yin & Somatic Wisdom at De Roos
6:15pm: Restorative & Storytelling at The Yoga Circle

🌹with care
Wen-Wei

14/08/2026

There’s a softness in the air after a potent moment like the eclipse- can you feel it? Sensing of a newness- a seed planted. Catching myself almost immediately, my mind asking, ‘What now? What is the plan?’ That impulse to build, to act or to do something with the intention - Oeff -feels urgent, as if wasting an opportunity.
Could this be what this world taught us to be equating our worth with our productivity, even in our most sacred, internal moments?

Please remember that our bodies, don’t operate on the same timeline as a cosmic event….An eclipse passes in a moment -and- its energy takes time to land and integrate within us.

Think of the seed you just planted and in the days after it is sown, a most vital work happens invisibly, in the dark.
So - no pushing, but for protecting.

This quiet period isn’t emptiness, but integration.

A sacred, unseen work that allows the new reality to take root in the soil of your being, rather than the fleeting idea in your mind.

The true work after the work.

This is your permission to be deeply unproductive today :)

Your only task, if you choose to accept it - no acting upon your new intention, but to create a safe and gentle container for it.
Invitation to be the warm… dark earth for your own seed.
Value the quiet, internal work of integration over any loud and external action. I’s the gentle, courageous art of protecting the tender thing as it settles into you…knowing that this quiet nurturing is the most potent action you could possibly take.

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This practice of creating a safe and intentional container for our tender inner work is the very heart of what we do in circle.

The women’s circles return on the 12th of September, in our new home at De Roos.
And an intimate waitlist has already begun to form for this gathering.

If you feel a call to join us and to have a dedicated space to honour this quiet, essential work be most m warmly welcome to send me a direct message with the word ‘waitlist’ to be added.

A word I wish to return to you…Eros.Not the way our culture uses it… the flush of new attraction, the performance of des...
12/05/2026

A word I wish to return to you…
Eros.

Not the way our culture uses it… the flush of new attraction, the performance of desirability… but something far older, and far more your own than we’ve been told.

In my own understanding, Eros is the river that was always running underneath everything… the untameable creative life force that moves through women when we’re fully inhabiting our own skin, present to what is actually here, responsive to what our body knows before our mind has assembled its explanation.

This ungrabbable mystic force isn’t lost to us… but we may be simply blocking it.

Through the abandoning of parts of ourselves that felt like too much, or not enough… shadow parts lost in the dark. Moreover, we move against our cycles rather than with them, not staying with what is difficult and tender.

The inner marriage is the clearing of that blockage… and it’s the work of this season,
whether in partnership or not.

Committed relationship isn’t for the faint-hearted… whether that’s with a partner or with the forgotten parts of yourself.

It is the unglamorous practice of collecting what went into the shadow and saying… I see you… I am staying… I am not leaving you behind again… and our partnerships are the direct mirror of this.

When you stop abandoning yourself, the channel opens, and Eros moves through more fully… in the body… in what you create… in how you love.

Here you see my beloved Roland. We are entering our nineteenth year together… what I know now, that I didn’t know then, is that this isn’t something I found, but something I became available for, because I did the clearing work… and because he chose to do his own.

That is what commitment actually is… not romantic dazzle… but two people choosing, again and again, to keep clearing the channel in themselves… and rekindling the connection with one another.

Staying is the hardest and most beautiful thing I have ever chosen.

I am a woman who knows that the love I have outside me is only as real as the love I have learned to practice within.

My 1-on-1 work is where we do this together. Send me a message.

In beauty,
Wen-Wei


“As we create, this wild and mysterious being is creating us in return, filling us with love.” Clarissa Pinkola EstésThe...
30/04/2026

“As we create, this wild and mysterious being is creating us in return, filling us with love.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés

There is something most women have never been told… that the heat we carry in our body is not about desire for another…
but It’s our own intense sensory awareness… ALIVE and waiting…

It is our WILDISH NATURE, our CREATIVE LIFE FORCE…
and the very thing that makes you… you

Again - we were taught and conditioned to believe our power lies in our beauty. Phe!

Dear Woman… your beauty is the natural consequence of it… your inner power

It is what pours out of a woman when she is truly, fully, unapologetically and naturally alive inside herself….

This Sunday evening I’m holding an intimate Beltane MoonLodge in a private yurt in Amsterdam West.. with the wild surrounding us and flowers in our hands.

Be welcome
Link in bio

In beauty
Wen-Wei





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