12/05/2026
A word I wish to return to you…
Eros.
Not the way our culture uses it… the flush of new attraction, the performance of desirability… but something far older, and far more your own than we’ve been told.
In my own understanding, Eros is the river that was always running underneath everything… the untameable creative life force that moves through women when we’re fully inhabiting our own skin, present to what is actually here, responsive to what our body knows before our mind has assembled its explanation.
This ungrabbable mystic force isn’t lost to us… but we may be simply blocking it.
Through the abandoning of parts of ourselves that felt like too much, or not enough… shadow parts lost in the dark. Moreover, we move against our cycles rather than with them, not staying with what is difficult and tender.
The inner marriage is the clearing of that blockage… and it’s the work of this season,
whether in partnership or not.
Committed relationship isn’t for the faint-hearted… whether that’s with a partner or with the forgotten parts of yourself.
It is the unglamorous practice of collecting what went into the shadow and saying… I see you… I am staying… I am not leaving you behind again… and our partnerships are the direct mirror of this.
When you stop abandoning yourself, the channel opens, and Eros moves through more fully… in the body… in what you create… in how you love.
Here you see my beloved Roland. We are entering our nineteenth year together… what I know now, that I didn’t know then, is that this isn’t something I found, but something I became available for, because I did the clearing work… and because he chose to do his own.
That is what commitment actually is… not romantic dazzle… but two people choosing, again and again, to keep clearing the channel in themselves… and rekindling the connection with one another.
Staying is the hardest and most beautiful thing I have ever chosen.
I am a woman who knows that the love I have outside me is only as real as the love I have learned to practice within.
My 1-on-1 work is where we do this together. Send me a message.
In beauty,
Wen-Wei
