Kirsty Marie Energy

23/06/2026

☀️Ananda-Rose McNair and I hosted a lovely solstice gathering on Sunday evening with meditation and energetic exercises to calm the nervous system, reflect, and better access our internal resources and creativity. This flowed into a beautiful light language transmission from Rose. During this transmission, we were prompted to receive messages from our guides and inner earth. Perhaps most delicious of all was the simple pleasure of connection with other radiant and interesting souls.

🐈Fun bonus: a black cat wandered into the venue off the street, delightfully assured of its right to be there and receive our adoration! True abundance!

Interested in receiving light language messages? Check out Rose’s channel here. https://www.youtube.com/ Sometimes we do lives here too like this one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yj8yUOTNIKE

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Hello Friends, Thank you for joining us today for this live event....

18/06/2026

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12/06/2026

When there’s a grain of truth in a statement we perceive as judgemental, it can be so much more triggering than if it were patently untrue!

When I was struggling with my high needs refluxy firstborn, I accepted a referral to maternal mental health from my midwife. I was dubious about it being very helpful, but decided I may as well give it a go. I was hopeful I could get a little practical support with my baby, e.g. someone to hold him so I could eat and shower.

Unfortunately, at that time the visiting nurse’s ‘help’ mainly consisted of advice on how to get my baby to ‘self settle’ which I wasn’t interested in. She shamed me for being unwilling to let my boy cry, just for a little bit you know, because he was manipulating me!

Then, in her official report she referred to this as an anxious attachment. I was mad. How dare she?!.....And my feelings around this were totally justified… not wanting to sleep train your child doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with your attachment to them, quite the opposite.

HOWEVER, one of the reasons this was so triggering for me was because there was a wee bit of truth in it, even though I didn’t agree with her rationale at all. I was anxious. It was difficult for me to accept help, even though I desperately needed it. If I got a chance to lie down, my nervous system was so wired from the constant worry and exhaustion I would struggle to rest and would hear phantom cries causing me to leap up and check.

Of course, what I needed was not judgement or unwanted advice but SUPPORT… physical, practical support like meals made and dishes done, someone trusted to hold my baby and NOT let him cry.

Additionally, I needed support to recalibrate my nervous system… someone to listen to my experience, hold me in it and assist me in regaining my alignment, my energy my joy.

I learned so much about myself through my early parenting journey, but the learning could have been so much less painful.
Parenting is beautiful and, sometimes, parenting is so intense. What you do matters, and YOU matter.

For real, holistic support from the physical levels to the spiritual without judgement get in touch with me.

www.kirstymariedenny.com

10/06/2026

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04/06/2026

Do you have a hypervigilant baby? ⚠️

When my babes were small, they startled SO easily and dramatically, right from birth… you know, that reflex where babies suddenly fling their arms out, giving themselves a fright?

Sometimes they’ll go right back to sleep, but often (always in the case of my boys) they’ll start to cry. Sleep time over 😭.

This response, is of course, the reason babies are sometimes swaddled to keep them sleeping longer without startling themselves, but if it’s a natural reflex, why does it need to be suppressed? And why does the response seem so much stronger in some babies?

This is an example of a primitive reflex and it’s an important stage in development. Although the response I mentioned is often referred to as the startle reflex 📢, technically it’s the Moro reflex. This reflex is triggered in response to the sensation of falling (which is way it can be so hard to set down a sleeping baby although they may be happy sleeping in arms) or sudden stimuli like a loud noise.

❓ What are Primitive Reflexes and Why do they Matter?

Primitive reflexes are involuntary patterns of movement that are controlled by the brainstem. In a newborn baby, these reflexes allow for the fundamentals of survival… the instincts involved in birth, breastfeeding, responding to stimuli etc. Each reflex is important and acts as a building block in development.

In a typical developmental progression, these reflexes begin to ‘integrate’ as the baby practices them and gradually transitions to more consciously aware movement patterns. Although these reflexes don’t ‘disappear’ they cease to be in the driver’s seat so to speak.

❌ When these reflexes are ‘retained’ (remain active) there are a raft of possible consequences affecting our learning processes, sensory perception and emotional responses.

Possible reasons for retention of primitive reflexes include emotional stress, chronic illness and pregnancy or birthing complications. There isn’t always an obvious reason and retained reflexes are not usually a sign of ‘bad parenting’.

Interestingly many behaviours and sensory challenges commonly associated with retained reflexes like the Moro are also associated with ADHD and autism. Think hyperactivity, fidgeting, hypersensitivity to light, sound or touch, volatile emotional responses, challenges with focus, fine and/or gross motor control………………

🧠 So what’s going on? Are the symptoms of autism/ADHD a result of retained reflexes or are neurodivergent kids more inclined to retain reflexes due to pre-existing differences like more sensitive nervous systems? It’s a bit of a chicken and egg scenario and, of course, will vary from individual to individual along with a whole host of other factors. In a practical sense it makes sense to try working with the reflexes and see whether there are beneficial changes! The great news is that suboptimal integration can be addressed at any age!

🌼 Integration of primitive reflexes can be addressed as part of kinesiology sessions along with simple exercises that can be done at home. Contact me to find out more! www.kirstymariedenny.com

02/06/2026

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29/05/2026

Elimination Communication (EC):What is that?

Only another thing that I failed at as an attachment parent haha (see previous posts for my growing checklist).

This came onto my radar a couple of years before I had my first baby when travelling in South America. We spent some time with indigenous families still living predominantly in the Amazon, and watching their little ones crystallised something that had been a passing thought previously… surely most people living in traditional ways weren’t always washing nappies?! 🌱

I looked into this a little more upon returning home, and, once expecting, added it to my slightly obsessive research agenda. Well, it completely made sense to me.. as a way of being in tune with baby’s cues and needs, and as a bonus, to save on nappies and protect my baby’s skin.

I bought a potty, I made sure I had easy on/off clothing and nappies for my winter babe. Prepared!

This turned out to be just one more thing that didn’t go to plan! My baby had trouble latching, so initially all my focus was on ‘fixing’ this issue and of course, making sure my baby was well nourished. EC would have to wait a little bit.

🚽 EC relies on noticing subtle cues..often a baby beginning to wiggle or fuss a bit at the breast, or when in the sling. If you’ve read previous posts, you’ll know that breastfeeding and babywearing are both in my list of fails, presenting a bit of a stumbling block! If my baby was latching for more than a few seconds, or miraculously sleeping/not screaming, there was no way I was going to disturb him for a potty break.

In addition to being extremely unsettled most of the time, my little one had very frequent, explosive bowel movements. Initially, not only did I fail at EC, but also at using cloth nappies, as all the ones I had were too big, and as soon as we did get one on amid screaming and thrashing it would be immediately soiled. Pretty soon, my poor babe had a terrible nappy rash to add to his woes. Epic. Fail. 😭

💭 My main reason for wanting to EC was to honour my baby’s needs and communication.. EC experts suggest that babies don’t like nappies until we train them to, and that we lose an opportunity to attune to our babies if we ignore their toileting cues. I can certainly see the wisdom in this. But my situation was different, I needed to adapt. Was I really less in tune with my baby?

Let’s look at the evidence: I knew when he was going to wake even before he started to wiggle and grunt, I knew my baby’s reflux, gut and feeding issues weren’t ‘just a bit of colic’ and ‘nothing to worry about’. I also knew he had a tongue tie despite being assured by multiple professionals that he did not. I was a relentless advocate for my baby despite being a recovering people pleaser who would sit down and shut up rather than risk any conflict… my baby helped me find my voice.

When I was in hospital with my boy at just a few weeks old getting him checked out after a night of projectile vomiting, a nurse saw me carrying him down the hallway and said “he knows who his mummy is doesn’t he?” I remember thinking what a strange thing that was to say.. of course he knew his mummy! 🤰

By the way, if you do feel a bit disconnected from your baby due to any number of factors – traumatic birth, NICU or SCBU stays, post-natal depression, it’s my belief that it’s never too late to build this bond, as well as your intuitive connection with your baby, and to healthily process any trauma. One of the wonderful things about being human is that we don’t rely purely on biological instinct, we are conscious beings and we CHOOSE love and connection.

I did have a little success with pottying in the small window in between starting solids (firmer stools) and my boy becoming extremely mobile (no time to potty!). 👣

I also switched to cloth nappies, but not the ones I originally planned… I needed the ones that were the easiest to put on a rapidly moving child haha. Expectations smashed, over and over, what a ride!

On this note, neurodivergence can have a significant influence on toileting, intersecting with factors like gut health and allergies. If your baby is constantly on the go… it may be harder, if they have little internal body (interoceptive) awareness of the need to toilet, it may take much longer. If they are resistant to the demand of toileting or nappy changes or have sensory issues around it, patience is likely to be required!

The gift and the challenge, is to meet your unique child where they are, over and over, and, just as importantly to meet yourself in the emotions, beliefs and comparisons that present themselves to be seen and compassionately met.

If you’d like some support with your child, processing the reality of your parenting experience, or you suspect neurodivergence 🧠 may be a factor, check out my website www.kirstymariedenny.com

21/05/2026

Baby Wearing. 👶🏼

Babies love it, right?! Even the most unsettled baby will snuggle down as if back in the womb.🤰

We-ell, most love it!

In my previous two posts, I talked about how the reality of early motherhood was poles apart from my cozy expectations. This really shook my confidence, starting with the grief of breastfeeding being near impossible.

Well, at least I could wear my baby for that closeness and bonding…right? Wrong again.

I had purchased beautiful organic baby slings as part of my vision of motherhood. My firstborn hated them. All of them. Trying to get him in there was like some kind of Olympic sport where both of us ended up sweating profusely and crying. If he did fall asleep in there for a few short minutes, he’d wake up again screaming and straining against the fabric. 🐙

So, what was going on? My baby did have a lot of body tension initially, probably related to his tongue tie, so it may have been physically uncomfortable for him. However, as he grew and developed it became clear that his temperament was a major factor.

Babies have preferences, they’re not all the same.

This was a baby who loved to be in motion…all the time! . 🏃‍♂️‍➡️🏃‍♂️‍➡️ When he was upset, he didn’t respond to gentle cuddles, he responded to bouncing, or lying on his playmat and smashing his favourite toy (not sure what that parrot did to him). After the early newborn stage, he loved car rides and buggy rides…so long as we were moving fast!

He needed that vestibular input, but didn’t like to feel restrained. Occasionally, as he got older, I would pop him in a carrier to whip around some shops that weren’t buggy or trolley friendly or go on a short nature walk… but he’d be wiggling the whole time and I had to be moving FAST!🏍️

My poor husband bore the brunt of this carrier hate once, wearing our boy on his back for a short walk to a beautiful waterfall. After all, we were moving briskly and there was lots to look at. The walk there was fine, but apparently by the walk back he’d had enough and alerted Dad by biting him hard enough to draw blood! 😬

This child was obviously on a mission to smash my expectations. He’s still in near constant motion in the most delightful way and very affectionate. He does have an ADHD diagnosis, and all of his quirks are part of his expansive charisma. 👣

My second born loved to be worn (thank goodness after all that $ I spent on slings) and was constantly glued to my body. What a blessing given I had a super-fast toddler to chase around! He still loves cozy little spaces and requests ‘bat huggles’ where I wrap him in my cardi. 🦇

Early motherhood is such an emotional time, and it’s easy to compare your experience to that of others as well as your own vision of how it would be. Remember that babies do, of course, have different temperaments and different neurology and the things that ‘all babies love’ are really only the things that most babies love.

Allow yourself to adapt, and remember that if things look a little different for you, if your baby is high intensity or high needs, you aren’t getting it wrong, you’re simply meeting those needs the best way you can. 💜

If you’d like some support with your high intensity child or suspect neurodivergence 🧠 may be a factor, check out my website www.kirstymariedenny.com