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05/09/2026

Happy Fathers Day to all the amazing Dads, steps Dads, uncles and friends out there that were and still are a roll model to you

Today my dad is in Adelaide representing NZ in the Veterans woodchopping

I have always looked up to my Dad and watching him live his dreams gave me inspiration to live mine

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02/09/2026

Something I think we massively underestimate is how much our body needs movement that isn’t about exercise, weight loss or pushing ourselves harder.

Lymphatic drainage and fascia movement are a good example of that.

Your lymphatic system doesn’t have a pump like your heart. It relies heavily on things like breathing, muscle movement and everyday movement to help fluid move around the body.

And fascia the connective tissue that runs throughout your body also responds to movement. When we move in different directions, stretch gently, breathe deeply and stay normally hydrated, we help our tissues stay mobile rather than constantly feeling tight and restricted.

This doesn’t need to mean an hour at the gym.

It can be:
• deep breathing
• shoulder rolls
• ankle and calf pumps
• gentle twisting
• stretching through different angles
• walking
• even a few minutes of moving your body after sitting for too long

I think sometimes we get so focused on “fitness” that we forget the body also needs maintenance.

Not punishment.
Not pushing through pain.
Not another thing to achieve.

Just giving your body the movement it needs to function well.

And for me, that is another part of self-care that doesn’t get talked about enough learning how your body works and doing small things consistently that support it.

You don’t always need to do more.

Sometimes your body just needs you to move it differently.

I first learnt about this with Rebecca Whyte at Peak Performance Massage many years ago, she is the queen of education around this and massage to help your body recover and function like it should.

31/08/2026

Have you ever stopped to think about where your language comes from?

Not your vocabulary...

The phrases you automatically use every day.

Most of us grow up borrowing language from our parents, grandparents, teachers, workplaces, culture and communities. We repeat it because it's familiar, not because we've ever stopped to ask ourselves whether we actually believe it.

Things like:

• "Grown men don't cry."
• "Harden up."
• "That's just the Southland way."
• "I'm just not a people person."
• "I'm useless with money."
• "I always mess things up."
• "That's just who I am."

But here's something I've been observing...

Sometimes a person's behaviour has changed, their understanding has grown, and their identity has evolved... yet they're still speaking the language they inherited years ago.

Maybe it's time we became curious about the words we use.

Instead of:
❌ "I'm just not good enough."
Try:
✅ "I'm still learning."

Instead of:
❌ "I always mess things up."
Try:
✅ "I made a mistake, and I'll learn from it."

Instead of:
❌ "Men don't cry."
Try:
✅ "Strength isn't the absence of emotion; it's having the courage to face it."

Instead of:
❌ "That's just who I am."
Try:
✅ "That's who I've been. I'm still becoming."

Instead of:
❌ "I can't."
Try:
✅ "I haven't learnt how... yet."

Our words matter.

Not because they magically change our lives, but because they reveal the stories we've inherited—and sometimes the stories we've never stopped to question.

Growth begins with curiosity.

So today, listen to yourself.

Ask:
"Is this language describing who I truly am... or is it simply something I've always heard?"

That one question might be the beginning of a completely different conversation with yourself.

30/08/2026

Wow just wow

26/08/2026

Have you ever admitted you were wrong... but deep down, you didn't actually believe you were?

It's an uncomfortable question.

Sometimes we apologise to end the argument. Sometimes we agree because we're exhausted. Sometimes we say, "You're right," while our mind is still trying to prove why we're not.

That's not growth.

That's compliance.

Real growth begins when we allow ourselves to become curious.

Instead of asking:

"How do I prove I'm right?"

Ask:

"What if I'm missing something?"

That doesn't mean the other person is automatically right.

It means you're giving yourself permission to explore another perspective without feeling like your identity is under attack.

One of the greatest barriers to growth isn't making mistakes.

It's believing that admitting a mistake somehow makes us less worthy.

The strongest people I've met aren't the ones who are always right.

They're the ones who can honestly say:

"I hadn't thought about it like that."

"I can see my part in this."

"I was wrong."

Not because someone forced them to say it.

Because they became curious enough to discover it for themselves.

Growth doesn't happen when we defend our beliefs at all costs.

Growth happens when we're brave enough to question them.

Maybe the next breakthrough in your life won't come from finding a new answer.

Maybe it will come from asking yourself a better question.

25/08/2026

Yesterday, after work, I gave my dad a massage before he heads over to Adelaide to represent NZ Vets in woodchopping so bloody proud of him.

Then it was , cooking tea, catching up on everyone's day, doing all the normal life stuff.

Later that night, everyone had gone to bed and I found myself sitting alone in the kitchen scrolling when I came across a Golden Buzzer performance.

It was a group of people, all with different disabilities, standing on a stage singing together.

And I cried.

Not because they had disabilities.

Not because I felt sorry for them.

But because of the absolute joy on their faces.

They had set out to do something. They had got themselves on that stage, stood in front of thousands of people and gave it everything they had.

And before that Golden Buzzer was ever pushed, they had already won.

I think sometimes we get so caught up in what the world considers an achievement — the money, the title, the recognition, being the best that we forget what achievement actually feels like.

Sometimes winning is having the courage to get on the stage.

Sometimes it's doing something you didn't know you could do.

Sometimes it's simply being completely present in a moment you're proud of.

Watching their faces reminded me that success doesn't have to look impressive to everyone else.

It just has to mean something to you.

And bloody hell, it was beautiful to watch.

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21/08/2026

Something I’ve noticed about us humans over the years from living my own life, making my own mistakes, and watching others make theirs.

After years of being a “professional” in every sense, and sometimes absolutely no sense, of the word 😂, these are some of the biggest things I’ve learnt:

Most lessons arrive after we needed them.
We often learn the lesson at an age where we’re already using it. Maybe that’s the point. Wisdom isn’t knowing everything beforehand it’s actually using what life has already taught you.

Relationships require you to get outside of yourself.
We can be incredibly selfish without even realising it. We think about what we need, what we’re not getting, and how we feel. A healthy relationship starts when both people can genuinely ask, “What does the person I love need from me?” Not at the expense of yourself but alongside yourself.

Being a good parent doesn’t mean getting everything right.
Provide the essentials. Give them safety, love and boundaries. Support what they want to explore without forcing your own expectations onto them. We are ALL going to mess our kids up in one way or another 😂. They are their own people, and part of growing up is working out what they want to keep from us and what they want to do differently.

Good friends don't have to be constantly present.
Life gets bloody busy. Families come first. Work happens. Kids happen. Years can disappear. Real friendship can survive the gaps. You might have been saying, “We really need to have that drink!” for two years eventually you bloody will.

Honesty starts with being honest with yourself.
Not blame.
Not somebody else’s version of events.
Not what you think people want to hear.

It starts with being brave enough to look at yourself, own your part and speak your truth knowing you can't control how another person reacts to it.

Actions over everything.
If you genuinely want something, most of the time you already know what needs to happen next.

So go do it.

And lastly...

You don't have to personally experience everything to become wise.

Listen to people who have already walked the road.

Listen to the person who built the business and the person who lost one.
The person who stayed married and the person who got divorced.
The parent whose children are grown.
The person who succeeded and, probably even more importantly, the person who completely fu**ed it up.

Ask them what they would do differently.

We spend so much of our lives learning things the hard way when generations of people are sitting right beside us carrying answers they paid for with years of their lives.

Sometimes wisdom isn't experiencing more.

Sometimes it's shutting up long enough to listen.

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19/08/2026

Every morning my alarm goes off at 5:15am.

And yes… it is an ungodly hour 😂

I get up, have my coffee, and either do Pilates or head out for a walk.

But here's the important part:

I'm not telling you to get up at 5:15am.

I'm not telling you to exercise the way I do.
I'm not telling you that a “good routine” has to look anything like mine.

I do it because I've worked out that this is something I need to do for myself.

Before work.
Before the house.
Before the kids.
Before Profusion.
Before the demands of the day start pulling at me.

For that little bit of time, I'm doing something that benefits me physically AND mentally.

And some mornings I don't want to.

I'm tired. It's cold. It's dark. My brain can come up with plenty of very convincing reasons why staying in bed would be the better option.

But I've learnt something about myself:

I feel better when I make time for myself before I start giving my time to everyone else.

Your version might be completely different.

It might be a 20-minute walk after dinner.
Sitting outside with a coffee before everyone wakes up.
Going to the gym.
Gardening.
Stretching.
Reading.
Getting out in the shed.
Taking the dog around the block.
Or simply having half an hour without your phone and without somebody needing something from you.

It doesn't have to be impressive.
It doesn't have to go on social media.
And it definitely doesn't have to happen at 5:15am.

It just needs to be something you deliberately make room for because it is good for you.

We are very good at finding time for the things and people that need us.

Sometimes we need to become one of those people.

What do you do that's just for you mentally, physically, or both?

P.s your welcome for my morning face in my Xmas pj's haha

16/08/2026

Wanting change and being willing to change your routine are two very different things.

We often talk about patterns when it comes to human behaviour.

The patterns we repeat.
The choices we keep making.
The reactions we fall back into.

But underneath a lot of those patterns is something much more ordinary:

Routine.

Routine becomes a fixture in our lives. We know what happens next. We know what's expected of us. We don't have to think too hard about it.

Even when that routine isn't working anymore, changing it takes thought, effort, discipline and a willingness to be uncomfortable for a while.

And when we're already emotionally exhausted, stressed or just trying to get through everyday life, changing something familiar can feel like another job we don't have the energy for.

Then there's another layer:

"There's nothing wrong with me."
"Why should I have to change?"
"This is just who I am."

That's where routine can start protecting identity.

Because sometimes changing what we do forces us to look at who we've convinced ourselves we are.

So when someone says they want their marriage to improve, their health to change, their family life to feel different, or their life to move forward, I think there's an important question to ask:

What are you actually willing to change in your everyday routine to make that happen?

Because wanting a different outcome while protecting every routine that created the current one isn't change.

It's hope without action.

And sometimes the first step isn't changing your whole life.

It's identifying the one routine you keep defending that no longer deserves its place in it.

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12/08/2026

Sometimes I think we’ve made life far more complicated than it ever needed to be.

This picture represents something I think a lot of us are craving without even realising it.

Simplicity.

Kids swimming in the river.
Food made by Grandma.
Being outside until it got dark.
No pressure to capture every moment, improve every part of ourselves, or constantly chase the next thing.

Just being where your feet were.

We spend so much of adulthood believing happiness is somewhere ahead of us when I think some of the happiest moments of our lives were the ones we didn’t even know were important at the time.

There’s something worth learning from that.

Maybe improving your life isn’t always about adding more.

Sometimes it’s removing the noise.

Slowing down enough to notice what you already have.
Being present with the people in front of you.
Making ordinary moments matter again.

A good life doesn’t have to be an impressive one.

Sometimes it’s a river, Grandma’s cooking, people you love, and absolutely nowhere else you need to be.

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