Reach Your Zenith with Shelley Anne Turnbull

Reach Your Zenith with Shelley Anne Turnbull I work with people to reframe their emotions so they can live the life they deserve. Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner certification from Marisa Peer

“One of our greatest freedoms is how we react to things.”— Charlie MackesyI love this.Because we don’t get to control ev...
04/09/2026

“One of our greatest freedoms is how we react to things.”
— Charlie Mackesy

I love this.

Because we don’t get to control everything that happens to us.

We don’t control what other people say.
How they behave.
Whether they understand us.
Whether they disappoint us.
Or whether life suddenly throws something at us that we absolutely did not see coming.

But there is a space between what happens and what we do next.

And that space is ours.

Sometimes our first reaction will be anger, hurt, fear or frustration — we’re human. Healing isn’t about never feeling those things.

It’s about learning that we don’t have to let that first reaction decide what happens next.

We can pause.

We can ask, “Is this mine to carry?”

We can choose the boundary instead of the argument.
Peace instead of proving our point.
Walking away instead of being pulled back into an old pattern.

And sometimes we can simply decide…

I’m not giving this any more of my energy.

That is freedom.

And the more we heal, the more we realise just how much of our power lives there. ❤️

If you’re tired of being triggered into the same reactions and patterns and you’re ready to understand what sits underneath them, send me a message. RTT may help you create a very different response.

The people around us can be insensitive, narcissistic, toxic and, sometimes, abusive.We cannot always control how other ...
02/09/2026

The people around us can be insensitive, narcissistic, toxic and, sometimes, abusive.

We cannot always control how other people behave.

But we can learn to stop carrying what belongs to them.

Their anger is not yours to hold.
Their criticism does not define you.
Their behaviour is not a measure of your worth.
And their inability to love you well does not make you unlovable.

Healing is learning where they end and you begin.

You may not have chosen what happened to you, but you can choose what you carry forward.

Protect your peace.
Set the boundary.
Release what was never yours.

And remember…

Your happiness does not have to remain in the hands of someone who hurt you.

If you’re finding it difficult to let go of someone else’s words, behaviour or the beliefs they left behind, you don’t have to figure it all out alone.

Sometimes we need help untangling what happened to us from who we actually are.

If this speaks to something you’re carrying, send me a message. We can have a gentle, no-pressure chat about whether RTT could help you release it. ❤️

There comes a point when you stop explaining.Not because you don’t care.Not because you have nothing left to say.But bec...
01/09/2026

There comes a point when you stop explaining.

Not because you don’t care.
Not because you have nothing left to say.

But because you’ve realised that repeatedly sharing your feelings with someone who continually dismisses, minimises or ignores them is exhausting.

You spoke.
You tried.
You gave them opportunities to understand.

And eventually, silence isn’t punishment.

It’s self-preservation.

Sometimes protecting your peace means accepting that not everyone is capable of holding your heart with the care it deserves.

And that’s when you stop knocking on a door that was never really being opened. ❤️

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Sara Al Madani said:“Ask yourself — are you giving from love, or for love?”And that really made me question myself.Becau...
30/08/2026

Sara Al Madani said:

“Ask yourself — are you giving from love, or for love?”

And that really made me question myself.

Because I have always been a giver.

I give my time.
My energy.
My support.
My understanding.
My forgiveness.
Often far beyond the point where it is healthy for me.

And I’ve always thought that came from love.

But what if sometimes it came from wanting love?

What if giving was how I learned to feel valuable?

What if being helpful, accommodating, understanding and needed became a way of earning my place in someone’s life?

That’s a very different thing.

Giving from love says:

“I want to give this, and I am okay whether or not you give something back.”

Giving for love says:

“If I do enough, help enough, understand enough, forgive enough, perhaps you’ll choose me. Appreciate me. Stay. Love me.”

Oof.

Because sometimes what looks like generosity on the outside is actually an old survival strategy underneath.

And that doesn’t make the giving false. The love can still be completely genuine.

It simply means there may be another part of us quietly asking:

“Will this make me worthy of being loved?”

That’s the part worth getting curious about.

Because love was never supposed to be something we earned by exhausting ourselves.

So now I’m asking myself a different question when I feel that familiar urge to give more:

Am I giving because my heart genuinely wants to… or because some part of me is afraid of what will happen if I don’t?

There’s a lot of freedom hiding in that answer.

I saw a reel of a child being taught that all emotions are welcome, but all behaviours are not… and I was amazed that th...
30/08/2026

I saw a reel of a child being taught that all emotions are welcome, but all behaviours are not… and I was amazed that this idea was being taught and understood so early in this child’s life.

If only we had all been taught this.

You’re allowed to be angry.

You’re allowed to feel jealous, frustrated, disappointed, scared, hurt or overwhelmed.

You’re allowed to have feelings that are messy, uncomfortable and inconvenient.

You don’t have to apologise for feeling them.

But feelings and behaviour are two different things.

Being angry doesn’t give you permission to hurt someone.

Feeling rejected doesn’t give you permission to punish someone.

Feeling jealous doesn’t give you permission to control someone.

Feeling hurt doesn’t give you permission to deliberately hurt someone back.

Imagine what might change if children grew up understanding:

“There is nothing wrong with what I feel. But I am responsible for what I do with what I feel.”

So many of us grew up learning the opposite.

Don’t cry.
Don’t be angry.
Don’t make a fuss.
Be good.
Be nice.
Stop being so sensitive.

So we learned to suppress the emotion rather than regulate the behaviour.

And then we carried that into adulthood.

This is why so much of the work I do isn’t about getting rid of emotions. It’s about understanding them. Where they came from. What they’re trying to tell you. And how to respond to them without allowing them to run your life.

Your emotions are allowed to exist.

And you are still responsible for what you choose to do next.

What an incredible thing to teach a child.

And what an incredible thing to finally learn as an adult.

www.reachyourzenith.net

Nobody handed you wings.Sometimes you have to build them yourself.Piece by piece.Boundary by boundary.Choice by choice.H...
28/08/2026

Nobody handed you wings.

Sometimes you have to build them yourself.

Piece by piece.
Boundary by boundary.
Choice by choice.

Healing isn’t always about becoming someone new. Sometimes it’s finally realising you have the power to create a life that feels like yours.

And maybe those wings were inside you all along… you just had to remember how to use them.

Your emotions are knocking at the doorI often talk about emotions as though they’re visitors knocking at your front door...
26/08/2026

Your emotions are knocking at the door

I often talk about emotions as though they’re visitors knocking at your front door.

You can pretend you didn’t hear the knock.

Turn the television up.

Keep busy.

Distract yourself.

Tell yourself you’re fine.

But emotions have an annoying habit of refusing to take the hint.

Ignore them for long enough and they don’t necessarily disappear.

Sometimes they start showing up somewhere else.

In your reactions.

Your relationships.

Your sleep.

Your anxiety.

Your body.

Your coping behaviours.

The answer isn’t allowing every emotion to take over the entire house either.

It’s opening the door and asking:

“What are you here to tell me?”

Feelings are information.

We can acknowledge them without allowing them to run our lives.

And sometimes the feeling you’re experiencing today isn’t really about today at all.

That’s where the deeper work begins.

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