16/05/2023
Grow at your own Pace
Personal growth is a want to move forward, to make changes in your life. An important part of this growth is doing it at your own pace, and choosing how you are going to measure it.
There are pitfalls which I’m sure all of us have fallen into, I still do to some extent, hello comparison, but I’m getting better and can pick myself up far easier than in the past.
Stop comparing yourself to others, yes, it’s good to see how friends or peers are doing, but it is not healthy to compare where you are, to where they are. We are all on different journeys and how we get to where we want to be, is individual. When looking at someone else’s progress we are taking the focus away from ourselves, our priorities and our needs. We also tend to compare the worst of ourselves to the best of them, and to their perception of what success is.
When we are consistently going after our dreams, aiming for a better us and doing it at our own pace, we are growing. Take a look and appreciate how far you have come, remembering to celebrate the smallest steps.
Go at your own pace, you can ask others for advice or thoughts, you do not have to act upon it, unless it feels like the right thing for you to do. Real growth comes from making decisions for yourself
I’ve been there, I was being told that I needed to be posting all the time, I was watching peers do it and my mind was literally going blank, I felt that I had nothing to say, it was not the correct time for me to hear that. To be told that I needed to do this, sent me into a tail spin and I retreated and did nothing, it had the opposite effect on me. I had to get there in my own way, and speed.
It’s brave to step outside your comfort zone, but it is braver to do it when you are ready to do it.
Trying new things is good, however only act upon them when you are ready to step outside your comfort zone. Taking advantage of opportunities for growth is essential for life, but only when you are ready and want to take advantage. Know that you are working to get there, but in your own time, you have the power to decide when you are ready.
When you decide to do something, make sure that you are doing it for yourself not for someone else.
Bloom at your own pace.