10/09/2026
There were tears, angry emotions and plenty of eye stares….
The weekend I had the pleasure of spending the day with a whole pile of amazing people doing one of Charles Myssy work shops…
Charles is what you call a shadow work facilitator…
Think about therapy but think about it as 10 times deeper and darker….
You’ve heard of terms like “ child hood trauma “ right?
So think of it like that…
To be around grown men who broke down into tears….
To see woman, fall to their knees in tears from opening up and allowing themselves to be honest and extremely vulnerable, was breathtaking…..
My biggest takeaway: I’ve not been focusing on myself and I’ve been putting others first….
Business, life, wellbeing had been pushed to side, worrying too much on pleasing others…
For me, it was business and personal standards that took a hit….
Gym and food are good because it’s a habits I’ve built over the last 10+ years…
For you, it might be the same…
Too busy saying yes to everyone one, that you don’t focus on you…
This doesn’t mean a bottle of w**e and eating ice cream every night you get home from work…
Putting yourself first is doing the things that WILL have you feeling and looking better, with FEELING being the man priority
Society has you convinced that looking after yourself is knocking back a bottle of w**e, with ice cream and cheese, while you spend hours watching tv and scrolling..
They tell you that exercise everyday is “ obsessive “
They tell you that controlling your food intake is “ restrictive “
They tell you red meat is the devil and you 15 protein bars a day 🙄
Now, I’m not saying don’t have some w**e and a chilled night on the sofa
I’m saying 99% of people focus on the wrong things because it’s what they’ve told for years…
Rather than focus on the things that really benefit us….
Guess what, fitting into your clothes more comfortably, looking in the mirror naked and loving what you see back, waking up with more energy and motivation every singe day…
Will come from doing the not so glamorous things….
Exercising, controlling your food intake, making better choice, rather than a bottle of w**e a night most nights
Boring but essential 🙌