06/27/2026
You wonder why? Because women are not supported during their pregnancy nor after they give birth. They are expected to have the baby and keep going like before. Women are expected to now have full-time jobs, attend to laundry, cleaning, dishes, bottles, pumping, bath time, and somehow spend quality time with their baby since they’re required to pay someone else to virtually raise them because their income is needed to survive! She is required to get up through the night, yet have all her s**t together for the board meeting the next morning. She’s expected to feed her family healthy, homemade meals and attend doctor’s appointments, dentist appointments, and optometrist appointments. God forbid she has a child in school and has to remember all the many, many days they have “off” for religious holidays for every religion in the world at this point, for which she must secure outside care and pay for that as well. She’s required to remember if it’s the 100th day of school, silly hair day, or costume day for the dinosaurs they are learning about, all while trying to keep up with the pressing demands of her job, her mother-in-law needing to know why she’s not being invited over or sent videos and pictures all the time, and her sister claiming she’s not being treated as she should be, so she’s out of the family for the fifth time this year, or maybe the sixth…she can’t remember.
Oh, and we haven’t even started on the duties of a wife as she falls into bed exhausted and he nudges her because, after a day of EVERYONE WANTING SOMETHING FROM HER, she has absolutely nothing left to give. AND THIS IS ALSO WHY SO MANY MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE.
So here’s the thing. If we want different, we have to INTENTIONALLY CHOOSE to do differently. It takes effort. It takes a willingness to live like others are unwilling to live. But it does take consistent dedication to what matters MOST to you and your spouse in how you raise your family.
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Nearly half of American women around age 30 are now childless.
In 2014 that number was closer to one in three.
Something changed and it wasn't an accident.
According to CDC provisional data released in April 2026, the U.S. fertility rate hit another record low in 2025. About 3.6 million babies were born, down nearly 20% from two decades ago and 710,000 fewer than the peak in 2007.
But here's the part most people aren't talking about.
The decline isn't really about women choosing careers over kids. That's the popular narrative and it's not what the data shows.
The share of childless women ages 25 to 29 jumped from 50% in 2014 to 63% in 2024. And when researchers ask why, the most common answer isn't ambition or ideology. It's that they haven't found the right partner and don't want to raise children alone. The second most common answer is that they can't afford it.
71% of American adults say having children isn't affordable for most people right now.
Think about what that means. We just established that raising one child costs over $300,000 before college. The average first-time homebuyer is now 40. Childcare alone runs $17,000 a year nationally. A family of four needs $294,000 a year to live comfortably by current standards.
The math on starting a family has fundamentally broken down for a generation of people who actually want one.
There's also a partner problem that doesn't get enough attention. Marriage rates are at historic lows. Men and women are spending less time in shared spaces than at any point in modern history. Remote work, algorithmic dating apps, and social fragmentation have made it genuinely harder to find a committed partner than it was 20 years ago.
Women aren't opting out of motherhood. A lot of them are waiting for conditions that keep not arriving.
The birth rate is a lagging indicator. What it's actually measuring is the accumulated weight of housing costs, childcare costs, stagnant wages, and a dating culture that stopped working for a lot of people.
That's a harder problem to solve than just telling people to have more kids.
