03/07/2026
Because school sees performance.
Home sees recovery.
Many heart kids work incredibly hard to hold it together in structured settings.
They follow rules.
They mask confusion.
They push through fatigue.
They suppress big feelings.
When they get home, the nervous system finally lets go.
That release can look like:
Crying
Anger
Irritability
Total shutdown
This is called restraint collapse. It’s common in kids who are working above their natural capacity all day.
It doesn’t mean school is wrong.
It doesn’t mean you’re wrong.
It means both settings are seeing different parts of the same child.
If this happens in your house, you are not alone.