05/26/2026
Make Friends With Your Mind Retreat - this Saturday 5/30
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Excerpt from this month's newsletter:
Take a common example, that of an “overthinker” part. This is the part that chews on decisions from every possible angle, leading to anxiety, sleeplessness, and analysis paralysis.
And typically, the inner dialogue is something like “if I could get this part of me to SHUT UP, then I could move forward in life”
An adversarial inner relationship = tension, stress, inflammation.
Once a part like this is explored with curiosity, it is most often traced back to an untenable childhood situation where there were big feelings with no solution or support available.
The mind swooped in with this strategy of vigilant overthinking—which probably didn’t help produce any real results, but did likely serve as a distraction from the real boogeyman—the feeling of powerlessness or fear that the situation produced.
If the part was speaking, it might even say something like “I’m sorry, I was just trying to distract you from feeling the hurt.” Hardly villain talk.
Now, this is a generalization of what is often a much more complex and nuanced psychological construction. But, you can probably see that once the positive intention of a part is recognized—the conversation takes a very different tone, one of forgiveness and repair.
And that felt sense of relief in the room? My guess is, it’s the collective exhale of a whole inner family system no longer having to maintain a fighting stance.
