09/03/2026
Grief doesn’t always wait until you’re somewhere safe and private.
A memory can surface in the middle of a meeting. A song can catch you off guard at the grocery store. Someone can say their name and suddenly your body is responding before you’ve even had time to process what happened.
This is one of the simple practices I teach for those moments.
Alternating gentle taps from your right foot to your left is a form of bilateral stimulation. And because you can do it inside your shoes, it’s something you can use discreetly when you need help staying present.
It isn’t about making the memory disappear or trying not to feel your grief.
It’s a tool for helping reduce some of the emotional intensity that can accompany a difficult memory or sudden wave of grief.
This is also the kind of practical grief support we practice together inside my Grief Community, so you have tools to draw from when grief shows up in real life—not just when you have time set aside for it.
Learn more about the Grief Community at leigh-ann-larson.com.