05/14/2026
Doulas are islands, we often work in silos; holding and witnessing so much, navigating systems and schedules and spontaneity with little to no support.
Cary House was born of this. Two doulas who started backing one another up, creating connection points with one another’s clients so it felt organic, no matter who showed up at the birth. We began as an intention to do this work differently, to create a space rooted in sustainability and collaboration.
We came together trying to find solutions to work that is inherently unsustainable. We’ve been circling different models over the years, trying to find a way forward that FEELS good. We were never interested in being an agency. There is already so much disconnect in the birth space. We wanted a centralized space that supported birth workers in the same way we support the families we all work with. Education, processing trauma, sharing stories and navigating the systems in place within a community structure.
I have long wanted to gather doulas but until now haven’t had the capacity to do anything more. I now find myself stepping away from attending birth and into the midlife shift. I met with a doula I admire deeply earlier this week and our conversation sparked this action.
A doula decompression circle.
The nuance of birth is such that no matter how many we attend and how much we learn, we still haven’t scratched the surface of all the ways this unfolds. Of all the things families experience and we are asked to hold. If you are looking for community around this work, let’s get into it.
This is something I feel very strongly about. We are in the midst of times that demand a shift toward rematriation; a return to a non-colonial, non-patriarchal world view and birth work is a powerful space for this energy.
Doula Decompression is a place to come together in our shared experiences, decompress from the weight of this work, talk through ways to step out of the silos and into community around birth work.
THURSDAY, June 4th 7pm at Cary House