06/10/2026
I turned 50 on Saturday š„³ and had an incredible day celebrating with the person I wanted to spend it with most - My husband, Steve.
Iām not much into parties or grand gestures where I am the center of attention, and everyone close to me knows this: Donāt EVER throw a party for me. Luckily Steve feels the same way.
I much prefer things on the quieter side. After all, I am celebrating myself, in my own way thatās meaningful to ME which includes contemplations on thoughts, perspectives, and reflections - so getting out on our motorcycles exploring some great food spots and being able to talk to each other through our intercoms for our first ride of the season couldnāt have been more perfect for me.
Truly, an ideal day.
Even though we have been riding together for 12 seasons now and maybe that makes it nothing special. But, to us, it is.
Itās in the regular, average stuff we do together that has built us this beautiful life we have.
I donāt give AF how cheesy this sounds, but it really didnāt matter to me WHAT exactly we did on my birthday. If the weather was crappy we would have found something else to do and that would have been a different adventure with a different story attached to it. What mattered to me is that I was with Steve for my birthday.
I didnāt have expectations of the particular day I turned 50.
Not because I am afraid of being disappointed - not at all. In fact, itās quite the opposite. I am really good at making the most of pretty-much anything in front of me. I can roll with it because I know I can create the memory of what I want to hold in my mind. I decide what perspective I want to take away.
When we pushed the bikes out of the garage, geared up, helmets on and ready to head out, Steveās bike wouldnāt start.
Even though he made sure that the batteries in both our bikes were charged ahead of time, knowing we planned to take em out for the first time after sitting all winter.
So, he jumped it and took the jump box with us in case it wouldnāt start back up after our stops on our little restaurant tour.
This was my idea:
š¤ Apps at the Mountain House right on the water.
š„ Dinner overlooking a lake somewhere
š¦ Ice cream at sunset, maybe coordinating with some friends if possible.
That was the plan. šļøšļø
Fun, right?
Well, as soon as we pulled into the Mountain House parking lot & shut off the bikes, he immediately tried to start up again and⦠nothinā. DEAD.
The fact that we had to stop at Advance Auto Parts to change out his battery while on my birthday ride or that we had to cut it short after dinner because a MASSIVE storm was about to roll through (hence the squinty faces š because my hair was whipping around & getting into my husband's eye balls š) was actually part of what makes my life so amazing.
I donāt put all this energy and expectation into ONE particular day being a certain way. I am here for it! The key chain for my bike key literally says āadventure awaitsā That includes batteries dying and needing to figure out and problem solve. These things happen and what it demonstrates to me is that I have become the person who can handle it, whether thatās on my birthday or not.
I feel SO GOOD about my age and who I have become to get here.
Iām fu***ng proud of hitting this milestone and looking back, part of what makes it, is that Iām a girl who FU***NG WENT FOR IT! I have zero regrets. No wishing, wondering or dreaming āwhat ifā¦ā
This path has definitely come with a lot of losses along the way, but because I just kept going anyway - while getting better and better at listening to my gut and intuition - I am now reaping the benefits of living a life I feel really good about in a body that can carry me through all of it. I mean - I just curled 35 pound dumbbells in my workout last week. šŖš¼šŖš¼ Like⦠whaaaa?! The human body never ceases to amazes me when given the proper environment, inside and out, to thrive. (Menopause INCLUDED!)
Since I do take really good care of myself, this next decade (and beyond) is incredibly exciting for me to think about.
Iāve got so much good stuff going on in my businesses (currently have 3 of them! Unrelated to one another) and in my life, including such incredible relationships - my family, friendships, and especially the one with my sister.
Which btw, we didnāt take even one picture when her & I were celebrating together on Sunday š which is very typical for both of us and neither of us really care to change that (for those into Human Design, we are BOTH Manifestors and also introverts lol), the day was for US anyway and we loved it. And that's all that matters. š„°