10/15/2026
The what if's can haunt us. The what if questions come up during a healthy pregnancy, but even more so during loss or infertility. The normal questions of pregnancy become laced with guilt and its easy to think that something you did or did not do caused this. Im here to tell you, its not your fault. Lay down the "what ifs", the search for a reason or cause. Grieve what has been lost.
Sometimes its grieving what you thought pregnancy would be like as you are vomiting into a trash can six months in. Sometimes its grieving the loss of a child. Or the easy way of believing that you'll get pregnant right away once you start "trying".
Grief is not right or wrong. There is no "right" way to grieve, its ok to mourn things that the world says to move on about.
💛 No matter where your mind is today, there will be light again soon. And if you need to say the what ifs out loud so that you can set them down, call me up and I'll make a pot of tea. Ill hold the "What ifs" for you.💛