06/06/2026
🚨As a mental health therapist who has worked with children and adults who have survived assault, abuse, and trauma, here are 10 things I recommend teaching children:
1. Adults don't ask children for help.
If an adult needs help finding a dog, carrying something, or going somewhere, the answer is, "Let me get my mom or dad." There is rarely a reason an adult needs a child's help.
2. The internet is a dangerous place.
Social media, online games, and chatting with strangers online can expose kids to people who don't have good intentions. Children should not have unrestricted access to the internet or unsupervised interactions with strangers online.
3. Never go to a second location.
If someone ever tries to force you into a car or take you somewhere else, you fight, scream, run, and make as much noise as possible. Draw attention to yourself-statistics show that a person has a higher chance of survival staying put and fighting, than they do once taken to a second location.
4. You don't owe strangers information.
You don't have to tell anyone your name, where you live, where you're going, or anything else about yourself. Additionally, you don’t have to be “nice” to strangers. Short and to the point is appropriate.
5. Trust your gut.
That uneasy feeling is there for a reason. If something feels off, listen to it. Intuition is a gift from your Higher Power.
6. Use your voice. Make a scene.
If someone you don't know is bothering you or following you, yell, "I don't know you! Help!" You scream for Mom or Dad, even if we are not there, other parents will be-and heads will turn. The goal is to get attention from safe adults nearby.
7. Pay attention to your surroundings.
Being aware of what's happening around you is one of the best safety skills you can have. No scrolling while walking, walking with headphones in, or anything that distracts you from your surroundings and could make you a target.
8. Your body belongs to you.
You do not have to hug, kiss, or be physically affectionate with anyone if you don't want to. Not family, not friends, not anyone.
9. Have a family code word.
If someone says they're picking you up, that Mom sent them, or there's an emergency, they need to know the code word. If they don't know it, you stay put and find a trusted adult.
10. Teach children how to protect themselves.
Talk about self-defense, confidence, boundaries, and what to do if someone ever makes you feel unsafe.
These conversations aren't meant to make our kids afraid of the world. They're meant to help them move through it with confidence, awareness, and the knowledge that they can trust themselves and come to us with anything.
What would you add to this list?