03/09/2026
The roles of women - the carrier of beauty, the supporter, the protector, the care giver are highlighted during Women's History Month.
While ever in awe of Women's Power in its blooming creative multifaceted expression,
this year I'm especially attuned to noticing how women are born with the need to make the world brighter, more beautiful, tastier, healthier...
As humans of all genders, we do all the things mostly because there's a desire and need to do them...
For the last 3 months I ponder a lot on a role of a woman as a caregiver, given my mom's situation... For many people, taking care of the other being is so natural, that, consuming and exhausting as it gets, it is done easily, without procrastination and excuses(unlike the other tasks).
What sometimes becomes harder is to take care of self due to empathy trick of the mind.
Empathy is understanding of another's situation and trying to feel the same feelings, "fitting into the other person's shoes". This is a pitfall of caregiving - the mind starts genuinely focusing on the others, fulfilling their needs and, having only so much energy available, ignoring its (ours!) own needs, and overtime stops taking care of self.
I recently encounted the phrase "Taking care of self is not pampering, it is a need". Sounds nice, yet, with self-care associating with spas and retreats it equals "extra expenses". And I know that women are household budget planners, as well...
Here's my example as a possible inspiration and ideas of wholesome self-care.
Sometime early on, I got into a subculture of public bath houses. It is a rare breed this time, as market economy wants to "improve" on everything, yet they exist in every country.
Every week I go to a public bathhouse. For $7 ( an equivalent of "coffee+pastry" for two people here) I get the opportunity to use a specific steam room, heated by a real stone oven to cleanse the sinuses and sweat out toxins.
I follow with the shower rinse ( I prefer cold), and keep repeating the steaming followed by shower.
In the bathhouse women bond over this cleansing ritual and start coming at a particular time to see their "bath friends" and, of course, share their own beauty secrets and remedies.
Multiple homemade masks from natural ingredients were brought and generously shared by the bathhouse' women group who "adopted" me. I've tried masks from honey, starch, salt and milk - ah, glowing skin! Coffee left in coffee maker' filter is a simple yet wonderful scrub
with a follow-up moisturizer effect, as coffee oils are released into the skin by the heat in the steam room. No "packaged" scrub could match!
We exchange massaging and scrubbing each others' backs with loofahs, and - herbal teas in the front room.
The contrast heat/cold of bath certainly plays a big role in how wonderful one feels afterwards. Yet - human connection and the satisfaction of sharing and of giving yourself needed care is itself dramatically healing...
I hope that this little illustration reminded you first of a powerful bonding through sharing, and secondly, of the importance and the ease of giving yourself some love and care, especially in tandem with sharing.
Inviting and sharing beauty secrets or simply, quality time with your friends and relatives has a surprising self-care effect.
To honor International Women's Day, 8th of March and the whole Women's History Month - let's remember to self-care in a holistic, easy, soul feeding way.
Our own kitchens and our own minds have at least one simple beauty recipe. Let's translate this into self-care today - and continue for this wonderful month
"because sometimes the only control we have is how we come back to ourselves."