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Profound Way Coaching, 112 Harvard Avenue #618, Claremont, CA (2026)

06/04/2026

You’re not really asking:
“How do I move on?”

You’re asking:
“Why does this STILL affect me so much?”

Different question entirely.

Usually the answer is simple, even if it’s uncomfortable:

You haven’t fully processed it yet.

Not because you’re weak.
Not because you’re broken.
Not because you’re “doing healing wrong.”

More often, it’s because the approach you tried didn’t actually reach the part of you that was hurting.

Or maybe you forced yourself to forgive because everyone kept saying you should.

So you said the words.
You made the decision.
You tried to act “healed.”

Meanwhile your body was over there like:
“…absolutely not.” 😆

And then people start getting angry at themselves for not being over it already.

Which creates a whole second layer of resentment.

Now you’re hurt *and* frustrated with yourself for still hurting.

Super efficient suffering strategy.

Listen:

Healing emotional pain can take time.

That’s normal.

What matters is having a process that actually helps you work through it instead of pretending it’s gone.

That’s why my approach starts with the body, not just the intellect.

Because unresolved pain doesn’t just live in your thoughts.

If you’re ready to let that shi!t go, comment or DM "FORGIVE".

06/03/2026

I used to think healing resentment was a one-and-done thing.

Like:
“Great. I forgave THAT person. Done forever.”

Ha.

Turns out life keeps handing you new material. 😆

The first huge resentment I carried was toward my ex-husband.

I had the full dramatic internal monologue:
“I gave him the best years of my life.”
“I’ll never recover from this.”
“My life is basically over.”

I was 34. Which now feels hilariously young to have declared emotional death over.

But at the time?
It felt completely real.

I was exhausted from crying and obsessing, so I started looking for a way out of that mental loop.

That became the beginning of everything I teach now.

Eventually I healed enough that my ex and I could even exchange kind messages occasionally.

And then life said:
“Oh, you thought we were done here?”

Because next came breast cancer.

And honestly?
That resentment surprised me more than the divorce.

Cancer felt personal.

Like my own body had betrayed me.

I remember thinking:
“How could my body do this to me?”

But this time something was different.

I had already practiced forgiveness once before.

I knew how to work with resentment instead of drowning in it.

So instead of staying stuck in anger at my body, I shifted toward supporting healing.

And no, this is not the part where I claim I became magically enlightened and never got resentful again.

Still human over here.

I still get hurt sometimes.

The difference is:
I don’t stay there for years anymore.

I have a practice now. A system. A way through.

That’s what the Stillpoint Forgiveness Practice became.

Comment or DM "FORGIVE" if you’d like to learn more.

06/02/2026

A lot of people avoid forgiveness because they think it means saying:

“What happened was fine.”

Nope.

Forgiveness is not approval.
It’s not permission.
It’s not pretending you weren’t hurt.

It’s releasing the grip the past still has on your nervous system, your thoughts, and your daily life.

You can fully acknowledge that something was harmful *and* decide you no longer want to carry it everywhere with you.

Those two things can exist together.

Forgiveness is not about rewriting history.

It’s about reclaiming your present.

Comment or DM "FORGIVE" if you want to learn more.

05/30/2026

You walk into your favorite coffee shop without mentally scanning the room first.

No anxiety.
No stomach drop.
No rehearsing what you’d do if *they* walked in.

Just coffee.

Normal life.

That’s when you realize something has changed.

You’re no longer organizing your life around the person who hurt you.

You stop avoiding places.
Songs.
Topics.
Memories.

Your energy isn’t trapped in the past anymore.

It finally has somewhere else to go.

And oddly enough, one of the biggest shifts happens when you stop seeing the other person as a cartoon villain and start recognizing they were wounded too.

Not excusing them.

Just seeing more clearly.

That’s where things started changing for me.

These days, life feels different:

☮️ more peace, less simmering anger
💝 deeper relationships and more emotional availability
🛌 better sleep and less emotional noise at night

Forgiveness turned out to be very different from what I thought it was.

Less about pretending.
More about freedom.

That’s exactly why the Chakra Way of Forgiveness exists.

Comment or DM "FORGIVE" if you want to learn more.

05/29/2026

This is for the person who has been quietly holding onto something for a long time.

Not talking about it.
Not fully processing it.
Just carrying it.

It starts to change you in ways you don’t always notice at first.

You get more guarded.
Less open.
Less patient.
More tense around people, even when nothing is happening in the moment.

And over time, it can start affecting your relationships.

Not because you became a “bad person.”

But because unresolved pain doesn’t stay contained.

You still want to be warm, present, easy to be around.
That version of you is still there.

It just feels harder to access.

And I want to say this clearly:

You’re not alone in that experience.

Many people end up here after long periods of carrying resentment without a real place to put it.

I’ve seen it in students. I’ve lived it myself.

The shift doesn’t happen by forcing yourself to “be fine.”

It happens when you finally have a way to actually work with what you’re holding.

From there, things can start to change.

Not instantly.
But honestly.

If you’re ready for that first step, comment or DM "FORGIVE".

05/28/2026

Time for myth busting.

A lot of people are carrying the wrong definition of forgiveness, and it keeps them stuck longer than the actual situation did.

❌ Forgiveness means excusing what happened
✅ It actually means you stop carrying it

❌ Forgiveness means you’re okay with it happening again
✅ You can forgive someone and still set clear, firm boundaries. In fact, you should.

❌ Forgiving means you approve of what they did
✅ You can forgive the person and still fully reject the behavior

❌ Forgiveness means forgetting and never talking about it again
✅ You don’t erase your memory. You integrate what it taught you

Most confusion comes from mixing forgiveness with tolerance or reconciliation.

They are not the same process.

Forgiveness is internal.
Boundaries are behavioral.

One changes what you carry.
The other changes what you allow.

And this part is usually missed:

Forgiveness was never about the other person.

It was about whether you keep living with what happened inside you.

Comment or DM "FORGIVE" to learn more about the Stillpoint Forgiveness Practice.

05/27/2026

You already know there’s something you haven’t fully let go of.

You feel it in the small reactions.
The mood shifts.
The decisions you second-guess.
The way your body holds tension at the wrong times.
Even your sleep sometimes.

So yes, you know.

But here’s the part people get stuck on:

You don’t want them to get away with it.

And I’m going to say this plainly.

They already have.

If you’re still carrying the pain, they’re not the ones paying for it anymore.

You are.

Take a breath and let that land a bit.

They’re probably not thinking about it the way you are.
And in many cases, not thinking about it at all.

Meanwhile, they still have space in your head.

Rent-free.

That’s the real imbalance.

Forgiveness isn’t approval.
It isn’t denial.
It isn’t letting someone off the hook.

It’s removing them from a position they don’t deserve to occupy anymore.

You can release the hurt without excusing what happened.

Those two things are not the same.

Comment or DM "FORGIVE" if you want to learn more.

05/26/2026

The mistake is thinking you have unlimited time to deal with your resentment.

You know it’s there.

You know it’s affecting you.

But you keep telling yourself:
“I’ll deal with it later.”
“When life calms down.”
“When I feel ready.”

Hate to break it to you…

You’re probably never going to feel ready.

And it’s not going to magically hurt less while you keep avoiding it.

That’s not pessimism.
That’s how emotional patterns work.

The more often your brain revisits the same hurt, the more automatic the pattern becomes.

You strengthen it every time you rehearse it.

Meanwhile, your body keeps paying the bill:

⚠️ stress and anxiety
⚠️ sleep disruption
⚠️ tension and emotional exhaustion
⚠️ relationship strain
⚠️ increased risk of depression and other health issues

People think resentment fades with time.

Usually it fades with attention, honesty, and actual processing.

Otherwise it just settles in and becomes part of your personality.

And here’s the annoying truth:

Self-care is a lot like having kids or getting married.
If you wait for the perfect time, you’ll wait forever.

If you want to stop hurting, at some point you have to stop postponing your healing.

Comment or DM "FORGIVE" if you’re ready to start.

05/22/2026

Every year you hold onto resentment, it keeps affecting your life.

Not just emotionally.

Physically too.

Your relationships.
Your stress levels.
Your sleep.
Your nervous system.

People love to pretend resentment is “just a feeling.”

Your body disagrees.

Some uncomfortable facts:

😖 Suppressing emotions has been linked to significantly higher cancer risk in some studies.

😡 Intense anger episodes can temporarily increase the risk of heart attack and stroke.

😤 Even a few minutes of anger can affect blood vessel function and stress response afterward.

😩 Chronic anger and resentment are strongly tied to anxiety, irritability, depression, and emotional exhaustion.

That’s not nothing.

As a breast cancer survivor, I think about this stuff differently now than I used to.

Do I know whether years of anger and stress contributed to my illness?

Nope.

Nobody can know that for sure.

But I *do* know I’m no longer interested in living in a constant state of bitterness, tension, and emotional armor.

Been there. Exhausting.

And before anyone misunderstands this:

Forgiveness is not pretending bad things didn’t happen.

It’s deciding those experiences don’t get unlimited access to your body, mind, and peace anymore.

There are real, evidence-based ways to process resentment and let your nervous system stop living in survival mode.

Comment or DM **FORGIVE** if you want to learn more.

05/21/2026

Thinking you’ve moved on is not the same as actually letting go.

One is avoidance.
The other is healing.

A lot of people do this without realizing it.

You decide:
“Okay, I’m over it.”

Or maybe they apologized and you accepted it, so now you assume the emotional cleanup is complete.

Done and done.

Except… that’s usually not how this works.

Because making a decision is not the same thing as processing what happened.

You can intellectually decide to move on while your body is still carrying the resentment.

That’s why people say they’ve “let it go”
while still replaying the story, feeling activated, or getting emotionally hooked by the same thing months or years later.

That’s not failure.

That’s unfinished work.

Sometimes we rush to forgiveness because discomfort feels intolerable.

We want relief immediately.

So we skip ahead and try to claim the lesson before we’ve actually sat with the experience.

That’s not healing.
That’s avoidance wearing spiritual clothing.

There is no emotional shortcut.

Your body doesn’t heal a broken bone just because you’ve decided it should.

Same goes for heartbreak, betrayal, and resentment.

I know this because I tried the “just decide to let it go” route for years.

Didn’t work.

What did work was learning an actual practice.

A repeatable way to process what I was carrying instead of pretending I was done with it.

That’s what I teach now.

And yes, I still get resentful sometimes.

Still human.

The difference is I don’t live there anymore.

Comment or DM **FORGIVE** if you want to learn more.

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