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Profound Way Coaching Are you tired of feeling angry and bitter? Are you ready to let go of resentment? Learn how to forgive without neglecting your boundaries.

Profound Way Coaching offers 1:1 sessions and online courses.

10/10/2026

Here's an uncomfortable question:

Who is actually being hurt by your anger?

The person you're angry with may have no idea you're still carrying it.

They may be going about their life while you're replaying what happened, getting irritated all over again, and letting that person take up space in your mind.

I've noticed something interesting about resentment.

Think about two people who have both behaved badly toward you.

Maybe one person still gets under your skin every time you see them.

But another person, who is still just as difficult, doesn't bother you anymore.

What changed?

They're still the same person.

So something in you must have shifted.

Maybe you stopped expecting them to change.
Maybe you stopped taking their behavior personally.
Maybe you gained perspective.
Maybe you simply stopped giving them so much space in your mind.

That's worth paying attention to.

Because if you're still angry at someone who isn't being affected by your anger, you're the one carrying the emotional burden.

Your resentment isn't teaching them a lesson.

It isn't changing what happened.

And it isn't necessarily hurting them.

You're the one living with the anger.

That's why forgiveness can be such a powerful choice.

Not because the other person deserves it.
Not because what they did was okay.

But because you may be ready to stop carrying something that is hurting you.

10/09/2026

If you're tired of being angry all the time, you may be ready to let some of that anger go.

But I want to be honest with you.

Forgiveness is work.

You can't simply wake up one morning and say, “I've decided I'm over it,” and expect everything to disappear.

It doesn't usually work that way.

Some hurts take time.

Some require you to sit with uncomfortable emotions, look at what happened differently, and slowly loosen the grip that resentment has on you.

But here's the part I don't want you to overlook:

You've already done this before.

Think about someone you've moved on from.

Someone who used to make you angry.
Someone whose actions once consumed your thoughts.

Maybe you eventually forgave them. Maybe you simply stopped caring.

Something changed.

And whatever helped you release that person may teach you something about the hurt you're still carrying.

So if you're exhausted from being angry, don't ask yourself to magically “get over it.”

Instead, get curious.

Look at the people you've already moved on from.

What changed?
What did you do differently?
What did you finally stop carrying?

Letting go is work.

It takes time.

But it is doable.

And you've already proven that you can do it.

When I look back on my life, I can point to a few decisions that quietly changed everything.One of the biggest happened ...
10/08/2026

When I look back on my life, I can point to a few decisions that quietly changed everything.

One of the biggest happened after my divorce.

It wasn't the day I decided to forgive my ex-husband.
It was the day I decided I wanted to feel better.

About two months after the divorce, I went to a Divorce Survivors support group.

I was still crying, and I expected everyone else to be in the same place.

Instead, I met people who had been divorced for years and were still overwhelmed by their pain.

I remember thinking, I don't want that to be me.

The group wasn't right for me, and I never went back.

But I'm grateful I went.

It helped me realize something important.

I wasn't looking for revenge.
I wasn't trying to get even.

What I really wanted was to be happy again.

That simple realization gave me a direction.

Eventually, it led me to develop the forgiveness practice I now teach.

Looking back, it all began with one quiet decision.

I chose to be happy.

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10/08/2026

I want to invite you to think about something.

Think about the hurts you've experienced in your life.

Some of them may still hurt when you remember them.

And others?

Maybe you can think about them now and barely feel anything at all.

What changed?
Why did some wounds eventually lose their emotional charge while others stayed with you?

Maybe you gained perspective.
Maybe you talked about it.
Maybe you learned something from what happened.
Maybe you stopped blaming yourself.
Maybe you forgave someone.

Or maybe you simply reached a point where you realized you didn't want to carry it anymore.

I think this is a really useful question to ask ourselves because the answer can teach us something about our own healing.

You already know what it feels like to release something.
You've probably done it before, even if you didn't call it forgiveness.

So when you think about the hurts that still feel heavy, get curious.

What is different about these?
What are you still holding onto?
What would need to shift for this one to feel different too?

You don't have to force an answer.

Just noticing can be a powerful form of self-awareness.

One of my biggest regrets had four legs.I agreed to foster a dog named Apollo.He was sweet.He was also far bigger and st...
10/08/2026

One of my biggest regrets had four legs.

I agreed to foster a dog named Apollo.

He was sweet.
He was also far bigger and stronger than I was prepared to handle.

One walk changed everything.

I ended up in the emergency room with a concussion, facial fractures, broken ribs, and months of recovery ahead of me.

For a long time, I couldn't think about Apollo without feeling anxious.

Then one day I asked myself a simple question.

"I had learned whatever lessons I could from the incident. Why was I still thinking about this?"

That question changed everything.
The past had already done its job.

It had taught me to ask better questions before fostering another dog.
It had reminded me to thoroughly vet the organization.
It had given Apollo the chance to find a home with someone who truly matched his needs.

The only thing left was the habit of reliving it.

Sometimes regret quietly outlives its purpose.

When it does, I think it's okay to let it go.

If you'd like to read the full reflection, I'd love to continue the conversation with you here:
https://profoundwaycoaching.substack.com/p/regret-is-self-accusation

One question has changed the way I think about emotional healing.When a painful memory comes back, I don't ask myself ho...
10/07/2026

One question has changed the way I think about emotional healing.

When a painful memory comes back, I don't ask myself how I feel.

I ask myself,

"What is my body doing right now?"

Is my jaw tight?

Are my shoulders tense?

Has my breathing become shallow?

Does my stomach feel knotted?

I've learned that my body often tells the truth before my mind catches up.

For a long time, I thought those reactions meant I wasn't making progress.

Now I see them differently.

They're not signs that I've failed.
They're invitations to keep healing.

Every trigger is simply showing me where there's still a little work to do.

And every time I respond with awareness instead of frustration, I take another step toward peace.

I truly believe you can get there, too.

10/07/2026

How do you know when you've actually let go of resentment?

Here's one simple way I look at it.

Think about the person.
Think about what happened.

And notice what happens inside you.

If every time you think about them or the event, you become angry, upset, tense, or emotionally activated, there may still be something there that needs your attention.

But if you can think about what happened and it no longer pulls you into that emotional reaction, you may have reached the sweet spot.

The memory can still be there.

You don't have to forget.
You don't have to pretend it didn't happen.
You simply don't get pulled back into the same emotional storm every time you remember it.

That's what letting go can look like.

And I say “may” because we're human.

You might feel completely at peace about something for years and then something unexpected happens that brings the old feelings right back.

That doesn't mean you failed.

It means there's something new to notice.

Healing isn't always a straight line.

So if you can remember something that once made you furious and realize, “I'm okay now,” that's worth noticing.

You may have come much farther than you think.

One thing I've learned over the years is that people rarely tell me they're afraid of forgiveness.What they're really af...
10/06/2026

One thing I've learned over the years is that people rarely tell me they're afraid of forgiveness.

What they're really afraid of is feeling.

They're afraid that if they stop pushing the hurt away, the sadness, anger, or grief will overwhelm them.

I understand that fear.

I've lived it myself.

Healing can be painful.

But that pain has a purpose.

And it doesn't last forever.

The pain of resentment is different.

It asks you to keep carrying it day after day, year after year.

If I had to choose between temporary discomfort and permanent emotional weight, I know which one I'd choose.

Please don't let fear convince you that staying stuck is safer than healing.

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For years, I thought the goal was to stop regretting my past.Now I think the goal is different.I want to learn from it w...
10/06/2026

For years, I thought the goal was to stop regretting my past.

Now I think the goal is different.

I want to learn from it without letting it become my permanent address.

One practice has helped me more than almost anything else.

I call it the Ten-Minute Rule.

"If you're going to ruminate on how to do things differently should a similar situation arise, give yourself only ten minutes. Set a timer."

That's it.

I don't give regret unlimited access to my day.

I give it enough time to teach me something.

If an idea comes, I write it down.

If nothing comes, I move on with my life.

The lesson is valuable.

The endless replay isn't.

I've found that growth happens much faster when I spend more time applying what I've learned than reliving what I wish I'd done differently.

If you'd like to read the full reflection, I'd love to share it with you here:

https://profoundwaycoaching.substack.com/p/regret-is-self-accusation

10/06/2026

What happens when your body keeps preparing for a problem that never actually arrives?

Maybe you're worried about getting to work on time.

Or wondering how much you'll owe in taxes.
Or thinking about what that difficult person at work is going to say to you today.

These may seem like ordinary worries, but your body can still respond to perceived stress.

The stress response is useful when you need a quick burst of energy to deal with an immediate threat.

But you're not supposed to stay in that state all day.

When stress keeps getting triggered, the body has to keep working to manage that response.

And over time, chronic stress can affect the body in ways that aren't helpful for our health.

That's one reason I think resentment is worth paying attention to.

Sometimes the original situation is long over, but we're still mentally revisiting it.

We're still anticipating what they'll say.
We're still replaying what happened.
We're still bracing ourselves for the next interaction.

The event may be in the past, but our bodies don't necessarily know that every time our mind brings it back.

This is where mindfulness and self-awareness can help.

Not by making stress disappear, but by helping us notice when we're repeatedly activating the same response.

Sometimes letting go starts with recognizing that we're still carrying the situation.

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