07/01/2026
I have experienced this and heard this over and over from clients.
Those seasons where you found yourself standing in what felt like a familiar situation or pattern and immediately wondered, “Why am I here, I thought I’d already worked through this?”
Over the years I’ve realized I wasn’t coming back to these things because I hadnt done enough work or because I was taking steps backwards, I was returning to it because life had given me another opportunity to meet that part of myself with a different perspective than I had before.
This past several years and especially the last few months has brought experiences I never could have prepared for. Grief, uncertainty, fear, and questions I still don’t have answers to. With that, it mirrored some old wounds. And I’ve noticed something different.
I am not meeting these moments as the person I was five years ago and definitely not 10 years ago.
The wounds may feel familiar, but how I am actually showing up for myself is not the same.
Of course that doesn’t make the pain of the the situations easier. Nor does it mean I always know exactly what to do. But it does remind me that growth isn’t measured by never struggling again. I see it in how I stay present with myself when I do.
If you’re in a season that feels familiar, maybe you haven’t gone backwards.
Maybe you’re simply seeing something today that you couldn’t have seen the last time you were there.
You’re cultivating a relationship with yourself that has more awareness, curiosity, capacity, compassion, acceptance and more choice than it did before.
So maybe it’s not not about “leveling up.” It’s about how you meet myself through your experiences when life inevitably moves you through the spiral again.
I love you!🤍🫶🏻